Men....

March 30, 2008 6:59pm CST
Hi, Im new..i desperatly needed to find someone to talk to tonight, but taken so long joining up and doing the wizard on mylot that its way past bed time :) I need a man, I wonderful loving man. am I dreaming, are they out there? do they exist? Am I not good enough? Do I attract the 'wrong' kind? Why am I never happy with what I have??? Why do I need more? Should I be happy being single, or do I really want to join that horid fight to find someone. Or do I leave it to nature, Expect it will happen one day. Im 28 now and It hasnt happened yet. Why cant I find someone to take me away!! Any advice welcome xx
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11 responses
• Singapore
31 Mar 08
Hi, you are the first member to express such desperate discussion. Well, relax, your true love maybe is on the way. You may want to list down the qualities of the man you are looking forward to.
31 Mar 08
hey great, at least Im the first :) Yeah, Im ashamed of the post now :)
• Singapore
1 Apr 08
No need to feel ashamed, instead be confident, let everybody knows what are the qualities of a man you are looking forward to.
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
31 Mar 08
First thing is first Siren Calm down...lol Love takes time trust me.. Someone that just pops up and say hey I'm here let me love you is probably a guy that is just looking for one thing.. There has to be like a feeling most of the time it's in your gut and you know he's the one for you.. Now to answer your question I don't know are you dreaming? Really it seems to me like you want someone right now.. Do they exist of course they do it takes time not minutes... Are you good enough? Yes you are! Do you attract the wrong wrong kind? Only you know that no one else does... Can't really help you there... Sorry! Your not happy with what you have? Most single people aren't they want that special someone in there life to fulfill that happiness that is missing, Than again some rather be single for that same reason! You need more because it sounds to me your not happy! Your still young 28 is young, I knew someone that didn't have a girlfriend until he was 45 when he did find her he was the happiest person alive!!! Love does take time at least true love does... However I do wish you the most happiest in life and I do hope you find the man of your dreams!!! Best Wishes!
31 Mar 08
thanks :) My first relationship lasted 10 years. My next lasted 4 years. So Im not desperate enough to just go and except anyone :) Im just dismayed really. I hoped that I could just be with someone forever and that would be that. Had my heart broken twice now, not keen to do it again.
• United States
31 Mar 08
All I am basically saying is give it time, mainly if it's someone you want to spend the rest of your life with... He will be there when the time is right, when he's not than you will know... I hope what I said helped.. I am sorry about your past realtionships...
• Malaysia
31 Mar 08
lol, u sound so desperate. Dont worry, you'll someone if you deserve them, and they deserve you. Just be yourself, and love yourself first before you love somebody else.
31 Mar 08
yeah it shows huh? :P I do love myself. I just get a little frantic, cant understand why no one loves me :P
• Malaysia
31 Mar 08
i had heard about this tips one time ago. haha. plz dun laugh. The only thing u need to do is write the criteria you dreaming man in a piece of paper in details. about his appearance, characteristic, behaviour, what he likes and dont, just make sure it all in details.. Then, always keep the paper everywhere u go. either your purse of bag. haha. up to you, but i think this works! The concept is you have to know what type of guy in dream in details, so you can pick up easily.
@Breath (1297)
• United States
31 Mar 08
If thats you in your avatar I think your very pretty and seem to be nice from what I have read.I know how you feel but you got to be careful girl or the wronge kind of man will think he can do anything to you just because you want someone so much.People always take advantage of each other.Just give it time and your prince will come.Just don't go kissing to many toads trying to find him...Good luck and best wishes.:)
@academic2 (7005)
• Uganda
31 Mar 08
Look in the right direction sweet heart-dont lose your self belief-in this business of getting Mr Right, haste could spoil everything, scheming is a good idea and like I say, take your time to fall in love-you are beautiful, there is no doubt about that-there is no need to appear desperate at all, change just abit of your tactics, the right man will come by and when he shows up win him over for keeps!!My best wishes for You SirenS!
@msfreeze (89)
• United States
31 Mar 08
hi siren and welcome if i was you i wouldnt worry you are still young and prayfully have plenty of time to settle down and find someone. be happy and enjoy life right now sometimes i think we forget that relationships are not all ice cream and cake my husband is driving me absolutely crazy right now lol. what kind of guys are you attracting and where are you meeting them. i hope you have a good day and stop stressing believe me it will happen.
@SHAMRACK (8585)
• India
31 Mar 08
Dear SirenS, I do hope there are people who did not even get a single match to be with. Not even a single day. But love can come any way may your time and the perfect match is somewhere waiting for you. It is better to be patient until we get one. May try try till succeed. As male even I am try my best to get a one to love that too a true love, may be God might have some plans for everyone.
@mark17779 (667)
31 Mar 08
Welcome to Mylot. If you are that desperate to find a man, have you tried using an online dating service ? Trying to hard to find a man though may scare them away as you come across all desperate/sad/loony case to them, just relax and let things be and im sure you will find some one soon enough as your an attractive lady.
@ltmoon (1008)
• United States
31 Mar 08
28? You have plenty of time. Don't be in a rush. You can't just order up a good relationship.
• Philippines
31 Mar 08
I guess you just play it cool. Don't be too eager to look for love because love can sometimes be fickle. I have been in many bad relationships, too, and sometimes I ask the same question. But then questioning myself just stresses me out, so I just told myself, if he will come, then he will. I don't need to chase love, I will let love chase me instead. =)
@sisco100 (2343)
• United States
31 Mar 08
well i'm sure tht u'll find him. sometime u just have to stop looking and it'll find u. i know tht u dont attract the wrong guys it tht u choose them, u can acctract any guy u want. find the one isnt easy to find sometimes there standing in front of u and u dont even notice. all i can say is keep trying and try to find as much as u can about a person before dating them, so tht u dont feel the like u get the wrong guy and u might just find him.