Do you fall in love with personality or looks of a person?
By gabrielle47
@gabrielle47 (1219)
Philippines
March 30, 2008 9:16pm CST
When you fall in love, do fall in love because of the person's personality or looks?
Most of the time, I do fall in love with the personality of the person than with the looks. As they say, looks is just superficial but the personality will stay and to me it counts more. The person may be beautiful on the outside but his attitude and personality is not good or bad. So that is just a turn off. Also, it is the personality that will make the relationship work for you and not the looks.
What's you opinion? What do you look at when you fall in love, personality or looks?
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43 responses
@dfinster (3528)
• United States
31 Mar 08
Looks may attract me to a person but the personality is what I fall in love with. I've dated people that I thought were just average at first and their personalities were so great that I thought it made them even better looking. People with bad personalities or who are complete jerks can be great looking and the bad personality actually makes them appear pretty ugly to me.
@gabrielle47 (1219)
• Philippines
31 Mar 08
Hi dfinster. I agree with you. A good personality can outshine in a person and makes him/her likable but a bad personality is a turn off.
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
31 Mar 08
Personal character is more important to me than physical attributes. A sense of humor is very important to me as well as intelligence. Looks will eventually fade. Character stays the same.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
31 Mar 08
For me, it is definately personality. I have seen some very pretty women, and gorgeous men that once you see their personality, and the way they act around others you never want to be around them. I would rather have someone mediocre looking with an awesome personality than a Gorgeous man that no one really wants to be around.
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@cNotable (891)
• United States
31 Mar 08
I have to say that personality is huge. It can make someone look beautiful or make someone look ugly, no matter how good or bad they may look on the outside. The truth is that physical love is fleeting. But personality and character account for a lot. But we are superficial a lot of the times and get confused---like fish getting attracted by a bright shiny lure!
@laurika (4532)
• United States
1 Apr 08
I always fall in love with personality than with look. Specially with the men, i thik I never really had a handsome man, because I just don't care about this fact. Ok my man is very sympatatic, but not a model, but how you said, it will not stay with you for a long time. If you fall in love with personality, it last forever or at least for very long time.
@jenmau (28)
• Philippines
31 Mar 08
of course, i do with his personality... personality even can change someone looks... for example... the one who are really clean/neat to himself even if he's not a really good looking person...
but still i know that looks is one of the quality that everyone looking for the one they want to be their partner... ^.^
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@PHAROHTHEILLER (15)
• Egypt
1 Apr 08
when i fall in love i will fall to the person's personality not for how she looks like..
@VoteforPedro (301)
• United States
1 Apr 08
Wow, this is just the way that Kip fell in love with LaFawndah. :)
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
31 Mar 08
Personality is most important, but I like it if they're cute, too. Like any normal person. If they have no personality it's not going to work out after things cool off in the shorts area.
@gabrielle47 (1219)
• Philippines
31 Mar 08
Yes, if you find some flaws that you think was great with looks then it sends you off immediately than going for the personality.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
31 Mar 08
i am a lier if i say that i dont go for looks, but that is only a first impression. sometimes when a person is not that good looking but he is funny and a complete gentlemen they look good more than those handsome hunks who are boastful and air heads. i admire people will good looks but once i know them already this looks may be deceiving.
@kellys3ps (3723)
• United States
31 Mar 08
I might be initially attracted to a person based on their looks, but I wouldn't fall in love with them until I got to know their personality. I might be initially attracted to a person, and than find myself turned off by who they are.
@gabrielle47 (1219)
• Philippines
31 Mar 08
I am with you on that. I get to know them first if they are consistent with their personality and eventually if it works out, then falling in love will come naturally.
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
15 Jun 08
I am attracted to a person first from their looks and then from their personality. The man could be the best looking guy in the world but if he isn't nice too, then I lose that attraction. So looks is the first response and personality is the second response I look for, and then if the personality isn't there the looks don't mean a thing to me.
@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 08
I think both personality and looks are attract me to a certain person. Of course, first I will be attracted with her appearance, since I haven't know her personality. But after the relationship is going on for awhile, appearance won't be important anymore. So, appearance is like a brigde. We need a bridge to reach the relationship.
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@satkumar077 (180)
• India
31 Mar 08
Definetly every one would say personality is more important than looks when it comes to choosing your spouse,and i am no different . The question that rushes to my mind is how much can push in the personality front .Imagine a person is ugly but has a very good charecter will you get turned on .I think it all depends on how much can push one for the other and a bunch of other factors . My opinion is no one say exactly how much one is towards something unless they are in one .
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@davis6988 (4)
• China
31 Mar 08
i am a handsome man ,so i hope i can meet a beautiful girl and have good personality,but i am very disappointed,i havenot found the girl in my heart.sometimes i believe the god give me a chance to meet the girl,but it must be in right time and right place
@poisonivez (504)
• Norway
31 Mar 08
The personal appearance is what makes us attract to the person because its what the naked eye can see. But as you know the person well, its either you will dislike him or fall in love with him based on what he really is or what his personality are. In a long run, looks will never be a "thing" why you fall in love with him. Its just an "image" which made you like the person in the first place. But its the character/personality that counts most.
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@gofourtech (32)
• Philippines
31 Mar 08
For me it is a little of both. For me you fall in love with the personality. Once you get to know the person more, once you know how much you have in common, stuff like that. But there is still even a little physical attraction. That will never ever go away.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
10 Apr 08
I don't look for looks in a person but their personality because looks can be so deceiving. Besides, a person can be beautiful on the outside and ugly on the inside. I'd much rather be with someone who is ugly on the outside and beautiful on the inside any day of the year.
@knithomaria (145)
• Greece
3 Apr 08
I think that the most of the times i look both of them.
I want to has a good look but also strong personality with humor!
I dont look for Brand Pit or something like that neither for an university professor but for the right balance between this two!
@janujennifer (664)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
Of course, at first we all get attracted with a person's physical attributes, but as you get to know the person we all get to fall in love with the person's attitude. I am sure no one would love a handsome or beautiful person if they're treating you bad, right?
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
Hmmm.. I can't choose since I really don't notice which comes first when I fell in love with my man. Well, he is a friend of mine so I never got to really look on his features since as a friend, I just enjoy being with him.. u know that kind of stuff then I fell in love with him since he is so caring, thoughtful etc... so I guess at this point, I fell in love with his goodness and personality. Oh His cute. heheh
@busta1baby (1230)
• United States
21 Apr 08
i try and look for both in a man..lol..i like to have both in a guy
@guenevere (3)
•
12 Apr 08
i believe no matter how many people say that looks don't count that much that personalitythat is more important, attraction begins with looks first and foremost and when u begin to know a person that is the time you get to love everything about him in and out, But basically it begins with physical attraction. After all i don't think a person would talk to someone he/she finds not appealing according to his/her standards.
