do things really happen for a reason

United States
March 30, 2008 10:50pm CST
I sit here right now and wonder about my life and if there is really a gods honest reason to everything. Back in november I got a oui, lost my job in which i was a cdl driver for 15 years, met a old friend who is now teaching me how to be a plumber. Met a great woman who i just broke up with, I think my roommate is in love with me and wants to be with me but the woman i just broke up with is her best friend. I dont talk to my family anymore, havent seen my son in over a year, live paycheck to paycheck in which I can pay anything other than rent. Im drinking myself to oblivion cant get anything in order but for some reason i wake up happy and truely dont care anymore. what the hell has my life come to I have no idea. all advice is welcome.
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9 responses
@summta (65)
• China
31 Mar 08
Please plucking up, drinking can not solve any problem.You must tidy up all problems you faced and literally find the way to solve them.With the time gone, you finally find that the current problems just only so so...
• United States
31 Mar 08
i like your response thanks so so you are right there are people out there a lot worst off than me thanks again.
@ltmoon (1008)
• United States
31 Mar 08
Cut out the booze and you'll probably have enough money to pay for everything else! hmmm...Makes me wonder if that's how you lost your commercial license. Plus without the booze you can possibly work out the rest of your issues.
• United States
31 Mar 08
I really wish i could and ya it is how i lost my license being a stubborn irish man sucks thanks for your response cause right now my life really lacks people i should pack my stuff and walk away from everything and just start over.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
31 Mar 08
It must have been hard for you... but i guess you should first stop drinking cause it will only cost you some money.. instead of you saving this for something else... second, i am happy that you are starting a new career in plumbing and i hope this will make a difference in you... you have to go see your son, by the way. i think you wouldnt want him to not "know" you... believe me, my brother has almost abandoned his child and when my mom talked him over it and told him he should go and support her daughter and make it right with his wife... he said it was painful when his daughter did not even recognize him and wouldn't come to him when he called... i wish you start to make things right for you and your family... at the end of the day, they will be the ones to be with you.
@peierlin (57)
• China
31 Mar 08
I think life is equal to everyone. If god takes somethings from you, he will give something to you in return. You are in a tough situation, but don't lose heart. Life is very short, so we cannot waste much time in hesitation.Just do the right things you think is. You can try to be optimistic and talk to your family and your friends again. Don't put all the stress on yourself. For the roommate who may love you, if you love her too, that's no problem, although she is the best friend of the woman you just broke up, you have already ended your relationship, you have the right to seek your ture love. Wish you good luck.
• United States
31 Mar 08
thanks for the response true love that is something i felt once and i dont think it will happen again i actually am feeling a little depressed about breaking up she is not 100 percent sure of our relationship then again it has been 4 months what ever happen to patience and seeing where things lead. I dont jump into something right away maybe that is what she wanted i dont know. Thanks
• United States
31 Mar 08
drinking dont solve everything i know after my divorce from a abuse man i started drinking every night at home at bars until one night my kids asked me are you going to the bar again tonight mom my first thought was wha am i doing and from that point on i quit drinking its not hard i know and yes i do belive there is a reason to why everything happens
@cvrmom (181)
• United States
31 Mar 08
I know what it is to have too many things overwelming you. I am in contstant pain all the time. The thing that strangely helps me is "live isn't fair". I sure hope it isn't because I sure hope I don't deserve what I'm going through. Just try to "fix" one thing at a time. Otherwise you get discouraged trying to do everything at once.
• United States
31 Mar 08
Fate, in many ways, is possible. My brother passed a way, I got a job, I lost my job, I had plantar fasciitis (wikipedia.org if you do not know what it is), I then hit the bottle, and I just about hit rock bottom. Then I started a new semester of college, and there he was, the man of my dreams, about one month after I met him, we became a couple, now, we have been together for five months, we had a few ups and downs, but we are still together. I have a new job. I received my AA from community college. I transferred to a university. I received good grades my first quarter there, and I plan on getting good grades this quarter, but I know that there may be some problems to come. "What goes up, must come down", right?
@subha12 (18441)
• India
31 Mar 08
they all say everything happen for a reason. but i beloeve that before that reason, we should try our best so that the outcome is great. you must concentarte on what you do so that you can earn more and make life comfortable. in case of the things like love and all, time will solve problems.
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
31 Mar 08
First I think that if you wake up and truly don't care anymore then there is a problem. I don't think drinking yourself into Oblivian is going to help you . If you stop drinking you'll have more money if you go and apply for more driving jobs you might find one that gets you back on the road. The only way to get your life back together is to really want to get it back together other than that your going to continue the vicious self destruct cycle.