A Mothers Loss

March 31, 2008 4:02pm CST
Last week I attended a funeral with my husband. It was one of his friends oldest daughter who passed away after loosing a battle with cancer. This young lady departed her earthly body at the age of 21. I never met this girl, but when I saw this girls face I immediately felt a connection with her mom, because I began to imagine my daughters picture being on the front of that obituary, and I became overwhelmed with grief. As the service started you could here whimpers of the many family members and friends crying, but you could not see who belonged to those cries. The minister announced we are going to allow loved ones to speak and express how they are feeling, now you can see ownership of the many tears, young woman, old woman, little girls and boys, teen agers, men and when I say men big grown men who are broke down, her daddy, and then I see the woman who was choosen to bring such a wonderful life in this world, her mom. To see a woman who has lost a child has to be one of lifes cruelest moments. You certainly don't know what to say, if you have never felt such pain. I felt cowardly because I did not want to look her in her eyes, knowing there was nothing I could say to comfort another mother, she has heard everything she doesn't want to hear. I write all this to ask when was the last time you truly thanked God for your loved ones, and cherish those moments you have today. Don't wait until tomorrow, when they are not here to say I can't remember the last time I touched her hand, or gave him a hug or said those simple words I LOVE YOU.
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• South Africa
1 Apr 08
I lost my mother a year ago.... It is not easy. I think of her every day and have to comfort my younger sisters every day. I think it is more difficult losing a mother. She was my best friend and the only one I could talk to and trust 100% and no she has been taken away from me. Losing a loved one is not what i wish my worst enemy. The pain is there every day and night.
• India
2 Apr 08
True. Loss is always painful. That too, when the loved ones depart, the pain doubles which cannot be expressed in words. It is said when one door closes, the other one opens. But none can compensate mother's love. We are born to die only. That is Nature's Law. You have to console yourself and take care of others in the family.
@lilaclady (28236)
• Australia
31 Mar 08
Oh yes you are so right, some people never realize the opportunities they have missed until it is too late, we all seem to think that tomorrow is a certainty, well it isn't for anyone and we all should take the time right now to show how much we love our family and friends. I have heard many times that for a parent it is the hardest thing in the world to have to bury one of their children, I guess we all think that is not the way it is supposed to be, it must be horrible. Nina you have sent a very important message in your discussion I hope people read it and learn...
@lilaclady (28236)
• Australia
31 Mar 08
By the way welcome to Mylot, I can see you will give us some good discussions... welcome to our little family.