Argh.. men are so frustrating!

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I broke up with my boyfriend almost 2 months ago, and moved away back to my hometown. I met this really great guy at work -- cute, smart, funny and he seemed totally into me. He asked questions about me all the time and always seemed very interested. He flirted with me constantly and just the other day he asked if I had a 'hot date' lined up with the sort of crack in his voice that indicated he hoped my answer would be 'no'. I haven't really opened up to him much because I've been doing healing and throwing myself into work, but regardless he seems like fun and so I thought I might get to know him a little bit more. Tonight I went into work with a goal -- to get his phone number. Much to my dismay and surprise, the vibe was really off tonight. He wasn't as flirty as usual and it was more like conversing with a male acquaintance than a love interest. Finally I positioned myself with him and another one of the guys in a conversation about relationships, hoping that might entice him to start a dialogue with me resulting in a date. The idea didn't work. We started talking about people we knew and marriage and kids, and the next thing I know he's venting to us that his GIRLFRIEND has been putting pressure on him to take their relationship to the next level so they can have kids. I am totally bummed out. So many times in the past month of talking to him has he had the opportunity to volunteer that he has a girlfriend, and in fact, the first night I met him he mentioned that he didn't have a family of his own, just his parents back in his hometown. If he has a relationship serious enough to be talking children, you think he would have mentioned something. The biggest thing that bothers me though, is that we've talked about our days off and what we've done and not once has he ever mentioned doing anything with her, speaking to her (even though he mentioned Friday that he'd talked to his parents and old friend from high school -- I didn't ask) or anything to do with her. Right before he mentioned her, we were talking about our plans and he mentioned a bunch of stuff (mostly travelling for work), but nothing about his girlfriend. I just don't get it. I guess I should just let it drop, but I just feel so led on. Thanks for letting me vent.