stealing oh my god

April 2, 2008 4:45am CST
can some one please tell me how to deal with this my son came home yesterday with a big stack of wrestling cards he showed them to me and i asked where he got them from a friend he said now this morning i get a call from the school saying he stole the cards what shall i do this is so embarasing i will ground him and speak to him but where did he get this kind of thing from thats not the kind of child i am raising
3 responses
@rhane7315 (5670)
• Philippines
2 Apr 08
tell him that it's not good to steal other person's belongings. ask him that if h would be happy if someone do that to him. maybe in that way he'll realize that he did something bad
• United States
2 Apr 08
I know that you're flipping out over this, but I doubt there is a child out there that hasn't tried this at least once, and we didn't grow up to be master thiefs. First of all, I personally don't condone spanking, but that's a decision you'll have to make. I would make my child (and believe me I would be right there beside them) return the cards, apologize for stealing them, pay for them with his allowance (and if he didn't have the money, his next allowance would be going to pay for the cards) - this is usually extremely embarrassing for the child and about all the cure you would need to prevent it from happening in the future. Then the punishment would begin. Since the boy likes trading cards, let him find out what it's like to work for them. Extra chores, extra chores, extra chores - the ones no one wants to do but are age appropriate. Even very little petites can pull weeds in the garden under supervision, or clean up the yard, etc. And of course, every time he complains, just remind him that he has to earn money to pay back what he stole. Good luck to you!
@velant (107)
• India
2 Apr 08
Just make him understand the thing first. if he can understand what he is doing he would not do that again. i nephew had done the same thing. then i sat with him and explained calmly. then he changed.