If you were adopted would you want to know, would you want details?

United States
April 2, 2008 6:49am CST
Would you want to know why you were given away? Would you even want to know that you were adopted? I don't know that I would want to know at all but yet again if I did not get told and found out I would be a litle upset. I would have way to many questions. So what is your view, would you want to know, would you want details?
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@viewpoint (137)
• Philippines
3 Apr 08
If I were adopted, I would definitely want to know the reasons for my adoption. I would want to meet my biological parents too. It may make me upset too, in the beginning, but when the reasons have been explained to me, I don't think it would be difficult for me to accept reality.
• United States
3 Apr 08
Yes if your adopted you have the right to know you were adopted and why must people used the phrase"gave away"they are not given away,makes it sound horrible and you just pass your baby off on anyone who will take them.I think learning your adopted is learning gradually,well most adoptions are open and children know they have 2 different moms,birth mom,and "mom".
• Philippines
2 Apr 08
If I was adopted, I surely want to know. But then, I would still consider my adoptive parents as my real parents. I know a lot of adopted children become rebellious and they ran away from home if they find out they were adopted, but I don't think I can do that.
@p1kef1sh (45638)
2 Apr 08
I see nothing wrong with adoption. If a loving family take you in that is way better than spending your life in care. There are horror stories of course, but there is with everything. I would like to know I think, but at an age when I could handle it. I am not sure when that it though. My Mother in Law found out that she was adopted when she was in middle age, she was so ashamed that she told no-one until she was over 70! That struck me as a great pity. She felt that she was somehow unworthy, and we all loved her just as much. Knowing who your birth mother is would be nice, but inevitably you would want to know if you have brothers and sisters. My main concern would be for my adopted parents. I would not want to hurt someone that I saw as Mom and Dad, despite my curiosity. Tricky, but on balance, yes, I would want to know as much as possible. What I did with the information, who know? Interesting post, thank you.