What do you think about inter-racial relationship/marriage?

@cheongyc (5072)
Malaysia
April 2, 2008 6:59am CST
I was quite surprised when I heard about the new relationship of my colleagues that she had a Siamese boy friend. (my colleague is a Chinese) mid of last year. 2 months back, I learned about another colleague is in relationship with a Vietnamese. Few weeks back I was told by my aunt that my cousin, who is in love with foreigner of different race. I know the world is changing but I think interracial relationship or marriage is still very uncommon. So do you think it's wrong? What will you think if your friend or your relative is having one?
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5 responses
@williamjisir (22900)
• China
20 Apr 08
Hello dear cheongyc. Thank you very much for this discussion. Well, in our school, I have already seen a few couples of interracial marriage. We have two couples of Chinese women and Japanese men and another couple of Chinese woman and American man, three couple in total. The Chinese-American couple are married with two kids, one boy and one girl, who are very cute and beautiful, looking like westerners instead of looking like us Chinese. Everyone on campus like them very much. As to the language issue, I do not think that there is any problem between them at all because either one of them could speak the language of the other party, which fills the language gap between them. As to the difference between the two different cultures, they respect each other, which is the basic requirement in an interracial marriage. If later my niece is interested in getting married to a foreigner of different race, I am sure to support her completely, but they need to know each other well first before making the decision to get married. No problem on my side. My niece has Japanese language as her major at college and is now working in a Sino-Japan company after she graduated from college last year. Anyway, love is the most important between the two parties, as it is the base of getting married...
@cheongyc (5072)
• Malaysia
20 Apr 08
You are most welcome dear williamjisir. Thanks for your interesting sharing as well. I am glad to that the 3 couples in your school are happy and having no problem among themselves and with the rest of the school. What you said is right. Love is the base of relationship and marriage. Language is another essential key of the success as well. So, as long as both of the couple are able to speak and comprehend the language of each other, there shouldn't be any problem for them to communicate and achieve mutual understanding. I am happy too, that you are open-minded to accept the potential inter-racial relationship of your niece with other races!
• Malaysia
15 Apr 08
I dont think it's a problem as long as both of them love each other. Local culture will surely affect your thinking on inter-racial relationship as it render you to become conservative. Anyway, i still doubt that why people go for inter-racial relationship? I prefer similar race.
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@cheongyc (5072)
• Malaysia
15 Apr 08
You are right. Love is blind. So as long as both of the couple love each other, they could overcome all the conflict and racial gap. Local culture has always set an example so that we should look for parter of the same race. Therefore, this makes those outliers become odd, although it's nothing wrong with inter-racial relationship. Sometimes, relationship stuff is simply not logical. Therefore, it's not surprising such relationship exists. Good for you to go for same race, because it will save you some troubles . Thanks for your resposnse, operationcwal!
• Japan
15 Apr 08
I am not racist, but imagine learning a whole new language in order to communicate with his family, slang words to curse, new culture, new adaption to what we've already accustom to... That's quite a lot of work. Well, i think i am the lazy type. :)
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@cheongyc (5072)
• Malaysia
15 Apr 08
Well. That's true. It's not easy to establish inter-racial relationship, especially for those having different languages. In most of the cases, a common language is shared. But it's the culture conflict that is truly tough. Misunderstanding could just happen due to such gap. Definitely you are not racist, there's absolutely nothing wrong that you want to be together with a partner from the same race. Thanks for your response, kimhuey!
@luckycat (220)
• Bolivia
2 Apr 08
Well that's cool.I am dreaming of being marriage with a foreign guy. I think i can learn more about the other countries.isn't it amazing? Though we may have some prombles,like different languages different culture.but i think it's ok.we will work it out.
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@cheongyc (5072)
• Malaysia
2 Apr 08
I believe that many things will need to be worked out. Because the couple will usually having conflict due to difference in culture, religion and language. But as long as both of them have the courage and intentions to be together, all the obstacles could be overcome. Other than you, I think many people are having fantasy of having a lover from a different race. Thanks for your response luckycat.
@gxnfly (1147)
• China
2 Apr 08
I don't have problem with inter-racial relationship.I am totally onboard with this kind of relationship.I'm not a racist and I think all people all born to have right to choose their marrige,wether marry to their own race or not.Acutally I dreamed to marry a foreign guy when I was a little girl,I think it's a very cool,our kids would be very smart,as it's said inter-racial marriage tend to have more clever kids.And I wanted my kids looked like a baby doll,beautiful and cool.Haha,I wish.I 've already had a boyfriend and he and I are the same race,both Chinese.
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@cheongyc (5072)
• Malaysia
2 Apr 08
Thanks for sharing your opinions. I think you have some kind of fantasy to be in relationship with foreigners. I think there is nothing wrong at all. But for people who have this kind of relationship, they will face some pressure, more or less, from their family and friends. It's not easy. Besides, the couple really need to work out more things like conflict caused by different language, different culture and different religion.