What makes some teens kill their own family? Would you kill somebody?

Confused - The trial of an entire family of nine for the September “honor” execution of Ghazala Khan (18) ended today.

The trial marks a turning point in Danish judicial history. It sets a precedent and there will be no turning back. Until now contemporary jurisprudence would imply that the killer (executioner) is the one to blame and accordingly face punishment. But as from today not only the man who actually pulls the trigger, but his family and friends as well are held responsible and must face the consequences of their barbaric deeds.

The jury deliberated for about 20 hours and the verdict was very clear: All defendants were found guilty of premeditated murder as charged. They will face anything from 3 years to life in prison. Sentences can be appealed to the Supreme Court, but the verdict stands.

Deportations will likely be enforced. The trial was unusual in more than one respect, even in these “honor killing” cases. Members of the jury were threatened, witnesses openly feared for lives.
@deepti15 (1190)
India
April 3, 2008 4:45am CST
What makes some teens kill their own family Or each other? On the news there was this teen girl that killed her family because they didn't approve of her boyfriend or something(something to do with her boyfriend). There have been reports of teens or kids killing their parents. Or teens killing an outsider because they hate him/her. What gets them to murder? I'm not saying ALL teens are murderers. It just seems like that teens are more likely to kill than adults.(I could be wrong) How do you prevent your kids from growing up to be killers ( I mean rude person here)? What all you do to make them real good person in life? What do you think about those kids and victims? Have you ever felt like killing somebody when you were young? Is there any permanent solution for this? Any suggestion would be welcome. Thank you.
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@Ohara_1983 (4117)
• Kuwait
3 Apr 08
the great example is the parent advise, nobody can kill anybody if the parent teach those children to fear of GOD,learn them how to love thy self.
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• India
10 Apr 08
there can never be a permanent solution for this thats for sure. well what parents cantry to do from the very begining is keep their children away from crime and anger. i would really blame parents when teens take the wrong rutes in life, doesnt sound too convincing but its the family who are too be blamed. there are many children who are bought up in peaceful and harmonious atmosphere, dont think those children grow up with a lot of violence in them. it seems to be more like external pressures that get them to be violent. a permanent solution for any kind of crime is not possible.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
5 Apr 08
no teens are not more likely to kill than adults, it is just that whenever you hear about a teen doing it is all over the news everywhere, whereas that same day 1000 adults in different cities across the country killed someone and we don't know about it especially when they are gang related. Kids are growing up in a violent world and seeing all this crap on tv now, and I do believe that is what is motivating many of them.
@itsmepinky (1300)
• India
10 Apr 08
I think such kids have some problem pyschologically. I think they should be taken to some good counsellors who can sort out their minds and make them sane and sensitive. Probably such kids din't have a good past or a good childhood or were deprived of all the good things in their childhood. ~pinks~
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
5 Apr 08
This kind of happening is really a sorry state of affairs as far as today's teenagers are concerned. Killing someone is the greatest sin. I feel those who take this kind of an extreme step are perverted and highly abnormal. Their upbrining also may not be as good, as one would like to have. Atmoshpere in a family, discordial relations between siblings and parents, unqual treatment by parents amongst sons and daughters are the causes which instigate someone take this kind of extreme step. We need to inculcate 'values' in our kids since beginnning, we should always teach them that there is nothing more important than 'giving respect and regards' to elders, even if they do not like their elders views on some issues, they should not stop regarding and respecting them. Kids should be taught what is 'right' and 'wrong' in a civilised society. How a civilised and well-manner kids is treated and applauded in a society. We should not ignore our kids at any cost, we need to be their friends to understand their mentality and thinking. This way, I think, we might, be able to generate a sense of belonging in our kids minds and hearts. Undoubtedly a very good post!
@s2a2n2 (1732)
• India
10 Apr 08
Its really heartening to listen these things in news or online articles. I never do that and even can't expect me to do in my dreams too. I just hate those who do these nasty activities..They should be punished heavily from making that again and even others should be frightened to do those things again
• United States
3 Apr 08
God may keep us safe from this type of extreme act. Actually it is the psycological problem created when a person feel him/her unsecure and loose heart. This situation created when parents completely neglet and a big part of their children life passed alone or away from their parents. We may call it "Communication Gap". This situation made them Selfish and hateful feelings arises for their Parents. At last this situation created tis type of accident. The major cause of this accident is "Distruction of Family system" if the family system is strong in any society than this situation will not be created.
• Nepal
3 Apr 08
I think they get frustration and their mind up by the killer things. I think Good education and good family environment may help these kids. I have never feeling like that ever.
• Nepal
3 Apr 08
I think they get frustration and their mind up by the killer things. I think Good education and good family environment may help these kids. I have never feeling like that ever.
@gemini_rose (16264)
4 Apr 08
I really do not know what causes children to turn on their families in that way, it is very scary. I have 4 children and I look at them and think I hope they grow up to be happy and healthy and do not have any dark sides to them. I do not know if they are like it because of the way the parents are or if it is just something that they are born with in them, something that just snaps when they reach a certain age. I never felt like killing anyone in my family even though half the time I did not get on with them!
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Apr 08
I do not think that I ever really felt like killing anyone when Iwas young kicking or hitting perhaps but not killing.teach your children to love and be loved to respect and be respected and to be compassionate to others specially those less fortunate than themselves.
@xlinzixx (510)
3 Apr 08
first of all i dont think you can prevent your kid from growing up into killers because its my firm belief nowadays that any body is capaable of anything and you can never fully trust someone 100% not even your own family. i think the likely reasons of teens being killers is probably mainly their hormones because when your younger their all over the place lol. i've never felt like killing someone theres bin times when ive been realy realy angry with someone but i dont think i could ever actually kill someone. i dont think there ever will be a permanent solution for this unfortunately :(
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 08
You know Deepti, our youth of today just seem to so mentally fragile that they are unable to cope with just about any thing that may seem like pressure. Coupled with that is their lack of skills to resolve issues which may be affecting them through amicable means. Their solution to the problem for the most part is to kill someone else or take their own lives. Sometimes when I pause to think about it I have to wonder if possibly this behaviour has to do with them not having enough parent to child quality time. I dont think its about being able to go on vacations as a family or being given dating privilages etc...Its about being able to connect with the child, creating a bond and helping them from a young age to have confidence in themselves and to be able to be strong decision makers. When children develop a strong sense of character from early, being confident as to who they are and what they want from life it is very hard for anyone to deter them. There is a thin but rather essential line between allowing a child to develop their own character based on the values introduced to them from birth and being there to guide them, and strong arming a child into becoming who we want them to be. Whatever the case I think that there is something essential to the successful upbringing of a child that too many parents miss. I strongly believe it is not about feeding, clothing, shelter, schooling etc... There is one experience my sister related to me of woman she met. She was a single mother who had things so hard that she would take her children to the dump to scavenge for food after there was no one in sight. The children and had such a bond to their mother that they remained with her inspite of the circumstances always being satisfied with the little she could do and they remained in school. The mother said that on one occassion her son looked at her and tolld her not to worry. That one day he would make her have a better life. Today the son is a pilot and one of the daughters when the story was related to me was going to a university. Such is the bond that is formed based upon pure love and understanding and not just material satisfaction or the tendency to be just another mother or parent. (lol)
@s2a2n2 (1732)
• India
3 Apr 08
no i wont do that...
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
3 Apr 08
I think the only thing you can do is Love them nd raise them good. And I know im sure some of these teens that turn were much loved but what else can you do. There is nothing you can do other than that. It seems some people just turn its scary. Try your best to keep the evil out I guess thats the best I can say.
• Nepal
3 Apr 08
I think they get frustration and their mind up by the killer things. I think Good education and good family environment may help these kids. I have never feeling like that ever.
@yogeshdhusa (2236)
• India
3 Apr 08
i think every one is correct over her. When i think about my childhood i can say that mom /dad loves us, and the only one person i hated was my neighbor, really i felt like killing him or if i cant kill him atleast i should die. i cant tell you what he did with me. but now i can tell you that, A kid will only kill, if he or she hates that person very badly.
@gxnfly (1147)
• China
3 Apr 08
This is not a easy discussion.Teen killers,I 've read similar crimes on the news,I was shocked.Kids those days seems to have too much troubles.I blame the violent TV show and movies.They have influenced kids too much in the bad ways.As for their parents,I think they should take the responsibilities too.Maybe they are too busy ,they have to struggle for life,they just don't have time to have a heart to heart with their children.All of these are just making excuses.
@banipenet (283)
3 Apr 08
Oh, no, no!!! I would never kill somebody!!! I couldn't even thinking on this. I think those kids have problems with their "attics" (with their head) from birth or in their families there is something wrong, visible or not, and make them mad. I believe that the kids are more impulsive than adults and this didn't give them time to think what are they doing. I think that giving love to our children in each moment, especially when they need, and understanding their needs make them good people. Even if sometimes i was mad of my parents when i was young i never thought to kill them. Only when i write about this the hair over my body is bristling up.
@wnbwnbwnb (426)
• China
3 Apr 08
I believe some teens are so immature that they do things that they may not really understand. I know some teens who treat their parents badly.They don't listen to their parents,instead they believe in some bad gays(they are always very cool). I guess that's one of the reasons!