should you take your partner's anger lashing on you!!

India
April 3, 2008 6:27am CST
what do u do when your partner lash you out simply because his anger gets out of control and he is unable to check on it!!!
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5 responses
@nikkiwith (1074)
• Australia
3 Apr 08
If you can you walk away. when one is angry they need to walk away and calm down before they say or do anything...and then person who is on the receiving end should walk away. But if you're talking about him hitting you then that's a whole different piece of cake all together!!
• India
3 Apr 08
It aint the perosn hitting me or abusing me in any way! what I'm discussing here is what my friends goes through.the guy she is dating is amzing and is hot headed.so whenever they have a fighthe tends to get very heated up and starts shouting a lot.so she approached me and i told her to be understanding and asking her boyfriend as to what are teh reasons which causes pr steers him trough this behaviour.the fact is that they guy is a gem and really loved teh gal its just that he has always been hot headed. what do you think could be teh way to help this out??
@nikkiwith (1074)
• Australia
3 Apr 08
there's nothing your friend can do to help him, he has to acknowledge that it's a problem and not good for him, then he needs to change his way of thinking, it may take years of work, but it's possible.
@nikkiwith (1074)
• Australia
3 Apr 08
you know that prayer? God grant me the serenity to accept things i cannot change. The courage to change the things i can. And the wisdom to know the difference.
@dpk262006 (56756)
• Delhi, India
4 Apr 08
Quite interesting question!! The best course of action in this, I adopt is, not to enter into an argument with my partner. Because if I also start shouting and lose my temper, it will be great mess and the issue will not get sorted. It is better...that I should listen to her grievance patiently and silently, before coming out with my opinion in my defence. Anger is a natural emotion and every one has a right to express his/her anger, but I think the thing which is to kept in mind while getting angry is.....whether the issue is 'so important' that it can be pointed out without showing anger. One great man has said - "Words are your slave, till you do not speak those words, and you are slave of your words, once you have spoken them". So we should be very careful, while expressing our anger.
• India
4 Apr 08
A very good one you got there!!I feel too the same.but what if the person just makes it his/her habit to go on shouting and you find it impossible to deal with it??
@dpk262006 (56756)
• Delhi, India
4 Apr 08
I would say - in that case you will have to be 'patient' enough and will rely on the dictum - "Either change the circumstances or accept it".
@dpk262006 (56756)
• Delhi, India
4 Apr 08
Please read 'will need to' instead of 'will to'
@viewpoint (137)
• Philippines
3 Apr 08
Well, when he's really angry, I have that urge to keep answering back everything he says. But I figured it will never end. I would still be in love with him. So I would just be somewhere he can't hear or see. When he calms down, he would look for me, apologize and explain, and we would talk things over, and well, we're ok again.
• India
3 Apr 08
I think that is the best you could do to face the situation.walking out will really not help since you know you two are in it deep down!!!And adding to the fire too,just being there and understanding the person and helping him come over this is the best method to cure this.thank you for your wonderful post!!
@bluemars (952)
• Australia
3 Apr 08
No this is not on I think people in general should take a step back now and then and look at themselves. It is not right to attack especially those that you love and supposedly care for just because or to release some frustration. Everyone has feelings.
• United States
3 Apr 08
I dont think its right for your partner to lash out on you, you just dont do that to people you care about. I'd support my partner in trying to help with whatever is making him/her angry but wouldnt put up with that