What's your choice? lover or career??wait for some help from you ....

Not to throw cold water on a warm heart, but you will need to look at this in a very pragmatic fashion. Ask yourself some questions and consider the answers carefully. 1. What will your future be in 10 years if you follow your heart? 2. What will your relationship with your family be if you follow your heart in this matter? 3. How will you support your family if you follow your heart? 4. Do you see a future your with your current boyfriend? 5. Given the differences in education and opportunity what is that future? It isn't that a relationship with disparate educational attainment cannot work, it can but it is a delicate balance. There is a potential for resentment along the line as your opportunities will be much greater than his in the future. Also, you will be the primary breadwinner simply because you have the greater potential. I don't know if this is common in China but in the US this can lead to relationship and social problems later in a relationship as well. As for loving him, that is wonderful. But do you love him enough that it is worth the loss of your family? I know that this is a harsh question but it one that you will have to ask yourself. If your family is really against this relationship than it is important for you to have a discussion with them as to their reasoning and yours. If it is simply a matter of the disparity in education and opportunity maybe it is time to sit down and talk with your love as well, why doesn't he start pursuing a university education? What would I do? Try to find a answer that did not cut off my options. I married a man who is different from me in many ways. But we make it work. I am the primary breadwinner for our family but I was not starting out in life at the time so my choices and options were different than yours and my parents had much less to say.

Well just weigh this situation. What has at least a percent more wieght in your mind? ur boyfriend or your career? If im in that position, i would defientely go with career, and yeah listening to your parents is also important. I suggst you can still maintain a relation ship, long distance realtions do work, make it work out. If you think you cant stay away from him, just go on and stay where he stays.

I understand the points of your parents as well a sthat of yours. but i think here should be balanced between two. Look your love i strue. But at the same time thecareer is also something you need to look into. can't your Bf take posting in Beigin? It will be good I guess.

lisa_ljy you sound like a pretty decent young lady and willing to sacrifice your happiness just to please your parents. To me they are special too, they raised a decent young lady. Try to understand it is very hard for a parent to let their children go, to let them make their own mistakes. I'm not saying that being with this young man (that also seem to have a head on his shoulders) is a mistake. But parents sometimes can be a bit selfish without realizing it. They mean no harm, they just do what they feel is best for their children. I can't really say what i would do i don't know the circumstances.