Someone please shine some light on me...
@head_over_heels (13)
United States
April 4, 2008 12:42am CST
Ok, if you read my discussion about my sexuality then you'll know all about this awesome guy that I met from London. Yeah, he's handsome, charming, and a total gentleman. We had along beautiful three day weekend together, and before me left he told me that he will miss me hoping that I will miss him in the same way. Of course I miss his because if I didn't I wouldn't be writing about him right now. Well, I told him that I would miss him and how sad I will be once he left. In return, I asked that he wouldn't forget me. He told me, "I guarantee that you'll forget me before I'll forget you". Hearing this I trusted that he was feeling me the same way that I was/am feeling him.
He left this past Monday to go to LA for the rest of the week before he leaves for London. I called him that night just like I promised I would. Yeah, it was a quick conversation because he was tired and sleepy. Then the next day, on Tuesday, I called him on my lunch break, while he was out shopping. So we couldn't really talk then either, but he told me that he would call me later that night... Nope, he didn't call. Wednesday, I chose not to call him just to see if he would call me... Not even a text. Today, I called him to wish him a safe trip back to London tomorrow... and when he picked up he asked, "Who is this?"... My heart dropped to my stomach. I said me name and it seemed like he didn't hear me correctly because when he repeated my name he pronounced it all wrong. So I said it again, then he said, "Oh, hey! What number are you calling me from?". I answered and said, "My cell phone, the same number from before". He told me that my name didn't pop up for some reason, but I was thinking to myself... Of course it wouldn't pop up if you delete me... but I held my tongue. Again, he was out with a friend and we couldn't talk. This time, just like the last time, he told me that he would call me tomorrow.
Oh yeah, and he told me to send him a friend's request on myspace... which I did of course. This is the thing... You know how you can see the date that someone was last logged in? Well, he last logged on 4/2/08 and I sent him the friend's request on 4/1/08, but my friends request is still pending. Ugh, my feeling are so hurt... I hate this s**t.
So, I guess I just need some outside inputs... Please, please, please... somebody please help me. Help me understand what is going on, and how I should handle this. Do you think he likes me how I obviously like him? Do you thin that I am too into him? Do you think I am reading into this whole thing too deeply, or what? I just don't know anymore?
~Thanks for listening.
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@head_over_heels (13)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Lol, you are right about that and I can't even be mad about it. I guess I am just stuck on stupid, and head over heels. What if I told you that he called today? Does that change anything? Lol I know, I know, I am probably being really foolish, huh? :(
~Thanks for listening.
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@qiao522 (449)
• China
4 Apr 08
iam so sorry to hear that.
but i think i was in the same situation before.
and the same i did was to write down something here or anywhere else to find the best solution from different people who maybe know this better.
but now i am out of depression,though when i missed him,it would also hurt.
but the only thing to do is to move on.
@head_over_heels (13)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Thank you so much. I seriously mean it when I say you helped me feel better. I am already hurting so, yeah I guess this is just a learning process. He did call though... does that matter at all? Slap me in the face and wake me up!!! Please? lol
~Thanks for listening.
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Honestly I wouldnt "close the door" so to speak BUT I would loosen up a little bit in regards to him..If he's in the U.S visiting ppl I know from experience that sometimes things just get super busy and you can get caught up in the excitment etc etc..IF you havent heard from him after he's gone back home (and of course give him time to get his rgular life back on track and the jetlag to subside etc etc), say give it a couple weeks..then I'd call him and find out whats up OR just leave it alone and move on depending on how you feel about either choice if that makes sense....
One thing I will say though, DO NOT jump in with both feet..not just this time but ANY time..I understand or rather get the feelign from this post and the other one you started that you are lonely and ALMOST (no offense) desperate to have someone in your life BUT the problem with that is you are clouding your vibe...Dont be SO eager..there IS the right person out there for you, maybe this guy, maybe not..either way your special someone IS out there but you have to just let it happen naturally rather than chasing it ya know...Make sense?
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@head_over_heels (13)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Dang, you sound so precise, and like you really know what's up. I thank you for your wisdom. You know I totally agree with you... but the reason why I wrote this discussion in the first place is because I am the type of person that always expect the worst even though that it wont even turn out that way. I knew he was going to be visiting and stuff and I knew that might have been the reason for the long break, but I guess I really was being too eager. He did however call me last night. He said some of the sweetest things which of course reassured me about this whole thing. And he did add me on myspace too. I am still confused though!!! Thanks again for your words of wisdom.
~Thanks for listening
@cher8558 (425)
• Canada
5 Apr 08
Hi there head_over_heels,
I just want to start off by saying I'm sorry that you seem to have been stepped on.
I don't know what your age is. It doesn't really matter, but sort of. You see I am a 47 year old married lady with three children. I have found and I have had to tell all my children that you Play the Game until you die. Unfortunately that is just the way the world rolls.
You are definitely into him, of this there is no doubt. But you cannot make it that obvious, not if you want to hold onto him. Men usually say all the right things, especially face to face. Its funny how a telephone wire can give them such courage.
He is definitely dodging you. And the sad part is, he is not even trying to do it with any sort of tact. My suggestion to you would be pull back on those reigns. Remember you've only just met and you cannot come on strong. You don't have the right yet to hold onto him or ask questions. I know it sucks, but that's just the way it works.
My heart goes out to you love. You sound like you have a big heart and have a lot of love to give. Just don't be giving that big, wonderful heart to a scumbag that doesn't deserve it.
Good luck.
Cheryl
@head_over_heels (13)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Cheryl, thank you so much. A part of me knows that you're right, but the other part of me want to hope that you're wrong. It's so weired because I can tell my friends all day, every day... about how the need to be wiser, but when it's me... I feel myself being so vulnerable and stupid, and I know I am, but can not help but to be.
About this guy... he seriously is not the way I made him seem in the above discussion. I was upset. Now, he did call last night... he was so sweet... such a gentleman! Ugh, I don't know Cheryl... Im still growing. I am 20 by the way.
~Thanks for listening
