family vs partner???

Well, in the beginning, I thought I would chose my husband. But as time passes by and getting to know his true colors, I would prefer to be with my family. It does not mean that I will move back to my family if they don't get along with my husband, it is just that I will be more protective towards my family in case my husband start to criticize them mercilessly.

That thing hasn't happen to me yet and I pray it would not. It's really hard choosing between your partner and family. But if in case I have to, I would listen to both sides first to determine the real situation. I will choose to stand in between them to mediate and try to bridge the differences. I will try to explain each other's side to my spouse and family. But if in case, it will not work, and will still have to choose, I think my family would understand why I will choose my husband over them.

IF for the sake of this topic, I actually came from a family that I loved and got along with (which I didnt) in all honesty I wouldnt pick either of them...and if both sides gave me a hard time about it I'd walk away from my partner AND my family...I personally dont take kindly to that sort of attitude and behaviour and won't deal with it...at all..

If its ok to ask..why doesnt your family like your partner? Is he your husband already?Because I believe your family's opinion about your partner is important, dont decide what to do on impulse, try to think it over and over again first before doing something..

I would choose my partner, I love my family but I chose him over them when I moved here to be with them in some sense as they didnt want me to go thankfully I have a supportive family who while they were upset realised being here with my partner is something I had/needed to do. They get along great with him though, i do not get on with my partners mother very much I find it hard but then i truely think no one would be good enough for her son, so we muddle along being civil and things are better than they used to be. Especially since having my children id choose my partner as id not deprive them of a father just to please my family. However knowing my parents would only put me in that position with truely justifiable reasons theres every chance I would choose them over him if their reasons dictated me needing to leave him.

If I had to choose I would choose my husband. But that would be my last resort. I would do everything in my power to try and get my family and my husband to at least co-exist.

I have been in this situation once, and I must say I made the wrong choice. I chose my mate over my family. They were trying to tell me that he was no good, and I didn't want to listen. Whenever it came up I argued or I just didn't say anything. They were just trying to look out for me and my kids, but I didn't want to listen. He ended up leaving me for another woman, and the only thing I had to fall back on was my family. I learned then to listen to my family, they have been through the same experiences many times, and they know bad when they see it. I also learned that if a mate truly loves you, you shouldn't have to choose. A mate that truly loves you won't try to divide you from your family.

you should never pick anybody over your family but its your choice at the end of the day

hmm..it maybe sound so o.a. but id rather choose my parents over my partner becoz i could always find another special someone who could get along with my parents,someone they think is good for me..parents always want the best for their children. we,children, just take it differently. we might as well change our perception towards our parents. as they say, parents know best!