rape victim: getting pregnant - to abort or not to abort?

I would not make any suggestions. I'd tell her I will stand by her side if she will raise the child, give him/her up for adoption, or have an abortion.

I wouldnt tell her to do anything making that choice can only come from her. I agree though a lot of councelling would be the way to go in helping her make the right choice for her. As a friend theres not much i could say there would be a lot I could do like be there for her listen to her and if needs be let her cry as much as she needs to, and generally support her 100% in what ever she chose to do.

I think if something that terrible happened to a friend, I'd be more concerned about helping her to get some proper counselling as I'm not qualified to deal with such a situation no matter how close a friend I am. I have no issues with abortion and would suggest it in a minute if I thought my friend would go for it. Personally I feel that a child born out of rape might be resented and that is not a good way to bring a child into the world. Anti-abortionists will probably slam me for saying this but I'm just giving my personal opinion. Each individual would deal with this situation in their own way and I would like to think I would support my friend no matter what decision they made but I would not push them to make any decision as it is their life and their body at the end of the day :)

Hello dear rhane. I think that I would tell my friend not to stop the pregnancy as this is not from real love. It will only make the baby feel painful and bitter once he or she knows about his or her being born this way. For the good of the baby as well for the good of the raped lady, it is better to stop it in the shortest possible time.

Well think about it this way: Do you want to have a baby that's going to grow up and rape you?

well I only think abortion should be an option in extreme cases where carrying the baby to term will endanger the life of the mother, or when it is known that the fetus has extreme mental or physical problems before birth. Otherwise, I think the person should carry the baby to term, then at the very least, give the baby over to the hospital to be offered for adoption. No one would condemn the mother for not wanting to raise a kid that may remind her of what happened to her every time she looks at it, but at the very least, the mother should be willing to give the baby a chance to grow up and have a life. There are too many couples in this country who want a child to love and to call their own, yet they cant have kids for one reason or another, who would be willing to take that baby from the moment it was born and give it a good home. This fact alone should rule out abortion as an option in most cases...

i think its better to keep the baby and love it.its not the baby's fault to be there on the first place,this is a hard decision for her because the outcome of it she will have for the rest of her life but we are talking about human life here and not just anything but innocent life is at stake here and should be given utmost respect...

I think I would tell her to abortbecause a child born from a rapist is a very iffy thing and could well have very bad genes so why should she be made to carry a baby who more than likely will be very imperfect.

If I'd be asked, I would not suggest anything to the troubled victim if she is very unstable condition - physically, emotionally, psychologically. I would help her first being trying to be at her side even for months. Until she is pacified, that would be the time to decide on the her situation. I have a serious issue about abortion. But I may not discount the fact that an abortion may be necessary for the overall wellbeing of the victim, especially if the trauma constituted a hardknock from where she cannot recover. I would advice so long as there are professional care and help that is already in place to weigh things up. It's life that is at stake here. We cannot just decide by the measures we find appropriate for the victim and the innocent child, so long as we have not carefully and ponderously given all circumstances fair consideration and respect.