Decisions, Decisions, Decisions!

well, we really have to preserve our identity because it is what separates us from other people. i couldn't care less about what other people think, although sometimes i can't help but consider what would be their reactions and opinions. but sometimes, it really just annoy me to the point that i act like a rebel. ^__^;; i just don't like being "tied".

Hi, Secret Bear! I'm glad you enjoyed my inspiring thought for your day. I just couldn't wait to share this quote with everyone here because I know I've needed it in my life, so most definitely everyone else can use it! Thanks for sharing your experience with your decisions. You're exactly right about when we allow others to make our decisions. We just disappear! I used to care so much (too much!) about what other people thought of me and the things I was doing. I'm not a rebel or anything (LOL), but now I've come to the point in my life where their thoughts and feelings don't matter as much in light of eternity because I'm the only one who can make my own decisions. I don't want to become a robot or disappear as so many people have. I want to be my own person. Being ourselves is what everyone around us knows and loves! It's about diversity and personality and character. Those things go away when we give our free will and right to choose to someone else. I think that should be a crime to give our free will to someone else! (LOL) Thanks for your thoughts on this topic. It was enjoyable to read your response, my friend.

You just described me extremely well in your last comment. (LOL) I love how you said, "We really have to preserve our identity because it is what separates us from other people." You're so right! What would the world be like if everyone made the decisions for us? A word that comes to my mind is BORING. (LOL) I really like how you said, "I couldn't care less about what other people think," because the same is true for me. Sometimes I wish I cared even less what others thought, but sometimes I'm guilty of caring and seeking to please others. That's very dangerous! Then you continued with an amazing and deep thought that I completely agree with. "I can't help but consider what would be their reactions and opinions." That's what's the hard part! We aren't heartless people going about doing our own things regardless of the feelings of others. Although we don't let their wishes get in the way, their feelings can cause us not to do something for fear of hurting them. We're human beings and can't help but care to a certain extent. Great conclusion. "I just don't like being "tied." I know I pretty much just quoted your entire comment, but I think you broke down the quote quite beautifully...on top of the fact that I thoroughly agree with everything you said. Thanks, Secret Bear!

Thanks, Byola! I really like how you stated that by giving someone else the opportunity to make a decision for you, it's automatically the wrong thing to do. It's so true, and I believe it with my whole heart. Giving that right to someone who shouldn't have the right in the first place is negative because it takes away individuality and diversity. Excellent response.

I couldn't agree more! They say we're our own worst critics. In other words, we judge ourselves more harshly than anyone else ever could. Having said that, you're right about a person knowing best what he or she wants. I know that's true of me. I can't let others tell me what I want or don't want and what I should or shouldn't do. Where's the fun in that? (LOL) Thanks for your comment! I enjoyed reading your thoughts here. Keep up the good work!

thanks and i hope you always remember nevr allow anyone run your life for you ,cos you know exactly what you want better than anyone

Aqua, how wonderful to hear from you, my friend! I'm so excited to learn that this quote has helped you also. It's such a life-changing truth! How have your meetings been going? I'm glad you didn't allow the possible friendship to go any further when you found out you were involved with a rather controlling person. Your testimonial response makes me so excited to know that you share in a part of what this quote really stands for. It's sometimes hard to take someone or something out of your life when this happens, but it's for the best. As I've said before, I believe we'll be better people after applying this quote to our lives. Thanks so much for sharing! How exciting!!

Thanks again, Aqua. You're such an excellent example and encouragement to me. You're a person who saw something that needed to change and stuck with it to turn things around in your life. I love that about you! You are a wonderful friend here on myLot and I cherish our friendship. I'm so glad I was led to post this discussion because so many people have come up with wonderful responses as to how the quote already has and will help them in the future. I'm glad the same is true for you. Yes, please do keep me posted on how you're coping. I'm so glad you're doing well!

Oh yah, I remember now. Sorry, I must of had a brain-fade. Well, we are involved with so many disscusions, that it slipped my mind. Can you forgive me? Take-care!

You are forgiven, my friend! (LOL) I've actually never heard it called a "brain-fade" before, but I really like that! I'm going to adopt the phrase if that's ok with you. I know what you mean about having so many discussions we participate in. They all blend together after a while with exception of the few that stick out in our minds as exceptional discussions we participated in. All the best to you, Marilyn! I'm sure I'll see you around.

Hi there, Marilyn! Great response. I don't mind you asking one bit. My fiance shared this wonderful quote with me because (as you'll see or already have seen in some of my other discussions) my parents are trying to make certain decisions for me. Because they don't really like my fiance, they're trying to make my decision concerning marriage. I definitely don't want them making that decision! I have to be my own person, and that's who my fiance fell in love with in the first place. I can't let them live their lives through me because they're afraid I'll make a mistake. That's what it comes down to. That's why I need this quote so much in my life right now! I love what Aqua said in her comment, "It could have come at a better time!" Thanks for your response.

Good for you! I'm amazed at how many responses reflect your main idea, that the quote is so true, necessary, and encouraging to everyone. I'm so glad you can apply it to your situation and even to your life as well. I love how you said, "It is so easy to just cop out and let someone else decide for you." I've done that before, sad to say, but now I know I need to be my own person. It wasn't a habit of mine to let others make the decisions, but I'm so glad I can be myself and not worry about what other people think. I really like your response. It's very unique!

I'm so glad you found this quote helpful. I love all the encouraging responses to this discussion. They've really brought this message to life! Thanks for sharing.

Hi, Polly! Thanks for your response. I can't tell you how much I'm living by this quote right now, especially with what's going on in my life. (You know!) It's great to hear from you again, as always.

Beautiful response! I couldn't have said it better myself. I'd say you have a common knack for "stealing my thunder"! Of course, since I was the one who started the discussion, it's your right and opportunity to do that. (LOL) I love your response because it mirrors the truth of the quote so perfectly. I really appreciate the personal experience you included in your response because it serves to demonstrate the truth of the quote in a real-life example. I believe what you said in a nutshell is that if we allow others to make the decisions for us, we become them. We disappear and pretty much die inside. Not to sound morbid or anything, but we might as well die if we have others making decisions for us all the time because we won't exist anymore! That's the beauty of free will. We can be ourselves and make our own decisions because that's who we are! If someone else made my decisions for me, where would the diversity be? The world would be a more diverse place altogether if people would learn to be themselves. I think that leads way to people caring a little too much about what others think that the peer pressure and whatever else causes them to hand over their free will to someone else. The peer pressure and dependence upon the opinions of others causes that person to allow others to make their decisions. That's one messed up person, I must say! I know you've experienced the negative as have I. We're in this one together! It's so reassuring knowing someone who's experienced something so similar to what's happened to me, only instead of my significant other, it's my parents. I know you're familiar with my trend of discussions lately. I know who you really are inside, and although I don't know who you were before, I most definitely admire who you are now. Having applied this wonderful quote to our lives (and not even known it until now!), I believe we're both better people because of it. Thanks for your excellent response, Reese.

I don't know about you, but I don't want to disappear into to being just like someone else. I think we all want to be ourselves and have a desire to be seen by others for who we really are, not for what someone else wants us to become. What a shame it is when people let others dictate what they will do and who they will be. Thanks for your insight!

Great response, Sunshine! Nothing bothers me more than seeing others controlled by those around them. That's not how life should be! If I were to meet someone new, I would want to get to know them and not the person controlling them, if you know what I mean. Thanks for your insight on this quote. There's great truth to it, I believe, and your response definitely reflects that!

Having a bunch of robots in the world isn't really too exciting! (LOL) Excellent analogy! I don't think anyone wants to be a robot or let others control them on purpose (unless they like it or care too much about what other people think). It's a sad thing when people give their free will up to someone else so they can be like a puppet for the rest of their life. Like I said before, where's the diversity in that? Thanks for sharing your thoughts Capricorn!