I'm hurt and offended!
By Scott
@callarse1 (4783)
United States
April 4, 2008 9:44pm CST
Okay, there is this one co-woker at my job. She is very nice...we'll call her Tara (not her real name). Tara got in there, and asked me how many disputes I processed. I told her I did 164 disputes. She had been there about the same amount of time today (came in the same time as me) but she did 220. She was making fun of me to other co-workers saying I was slow and didn't do my job properly.
However the thing is we are to notate each account we do a dispute on. She has told me before that she won't notate somethings. Plus, I know for a fact where she doesn't update everything. We're supposed to update all the dates and things. Well she doesn't do that dates. I got so mad and offended that I worked really fast...and guess? I finally beat her because I did 260 while she only had did 250. She works part time so she left...and guess what my total was at the end of my shift? 365!
So obviously she is full of herself. However I think she embarrashed me in front of my co-workers, and she doesn't know what she is talking about. She isn't my boss, and she shouldn't be saying stuff to me.
Therefore, how should I have reacted in the situation? Should I tell her she is rude and not my boss? That I beat her anyway by outworking her?
Thank you
Pablo
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17 responses
@Darkwing (21583)
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5 Apr 08
People like that are not worth the worry my friend. I would just laugh at her and walk away without a word. She wouldn't know what to say to you then, would she, and she'd look stupid.
I feel sorry for people like her that they have to hurt somebody else, in order to be noticed. Brightest Blessings.
@Darkwing (21583)
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5 Apr 08
Callarse... that is exactly my point. Your boss appreciates the work you have done, and whether it be in a competitive way or not, this person has given you the incentive to work hard and receive recognition from your boss. So, in a way, she's done you a favour. I would be passing her at work with the biggest grin of satisfaction you ever did see!!! 
My reason? She motivated you, even thought she did it in a derisory way, and she's made herself look less capable than you are toboot. Take it in your stride, my friend... lesson learned!
My reason? She motivated you, even thought she did it in a derisory way, and she's made herself look less capable than you are toboot. Take it in your stride, my friend... lesson learned!1 person likes this
@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Exaclty, you are right. She imspired me to know I could do more work than her the right way. I did it again today, too. I did 201 in 4 hours and she did less than me.
@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Exactly! That is my point Darkwing she isn't MY boss, in fact my boss was so impressed that I did 365 today. Plus, she needs to worry about her own work and stop making fun of other people.
Pablo
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@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
5 Apr 08
You really just need to let it go. Be the better person and don't stoop to her level. You know that you are a good worker and that you do everything that your supposed to, as she does not. You don't need to say anything, but continue to do your job the best that you can. People will notice that you aren't like her and will respect you a whole lot more than they will her. All she is doing is building bridges that one day she won't be able to get out of, because even if these people are listening to her in the back of their mind they are also taking note that she will probably be talking about them behind their backs. Just keep up the good work and forget about her. God bless
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@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
5 Apr 08
THank you for your words. I agree with what you are saying. The fact is that she is really nice to me since I've been there. So when she did what she did today I was very offended and upset. I think she was rude and didn't care how I felt. I believe I will ignore her comments....
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
7 Apr 08
that would be a good idea. Don't give her the satisfaction of knowing she hurt your feelings. Go on working the way you do and completely ignore her. she's not worth it if she is going to be like that. God bless
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@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
5 Apr 08
I see your point of view, mbs730. The thing is that she has always been nice to me. I guess she may have been having a bad day or thought I was slacking? Obviously I wasn't! I just do the job correctly.
Pablo
@itsmepinky (1300)
• India
5 Apr 08
well i would get irritated initially but wouldn't bother too much as long as i know i am working honestly and efficiently. If you are not too comfortable with her , why don't you have a word with your boss and change your places. Try not to get too involved with her as she might not watch her words before speaking and it might hurt you accidentally.
~pinks~
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@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
6 Apr 08
Basically she just needs to stop bragging. She is nice, but she needs to stop pointing things out and worry about her on job. Plus she isn't the boss, therefore I don't have to answer to her.
Pablo
@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
6 Apr 08
Basically she just needs to stop bragging. She is nice, but she needs to stop pointing things out and worry about her on job. Plus she isn't the boss, therefore I don't have to answer to her.
Pablo
@aero89 (422)
• United States
5 Apr 08
I really don't think it's worth it to say anything. Other people are probably just as annoyed and probably can 'beat' her themselves, too. The lady just sounds like a blow hard.
I would say.. not to worry about what other people are or are not doing. The best you can do is the best you can do - and at the end of the day, you'll feel like you got more accomplished if you don't waste your time on office nuisances lol.. Your boss might be paying attention at what's going on, but just may not be able to do anything about it right now - so I wouldn't say anything to anybody, unless she's devious somehow or something.
Be the better person, Pablo!
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@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
6 Apr 08
Yea I will always be the better person because she is just plain being rude, right? Who needs to play her games. Thank you, aero89.
Pablo
@WANDALIE44 (888)
• United States
5 Apr 08
well tara is stupid and childish, and you have nothing to worry about, you said she does'nt note everything and she doesn't update everything when the time comes it will be her butt on the line because i know from fact when you file make process a dispute it has to be accuratly and im sure your boss would not like it if he had to present those documents to a lawyer or judge or even his boss and the info is not correct. you should tell her to worry about her work and not yours because she is not in charge of you,if that doesn't work then you could make a meeting with your manager and tell him or her that she is making conflicts at the work place and that you don't appreciate her spreading rumors and lies. alot of workplaces take that very seriously to the point of termination of your job. because if she's blabing out that igmaine what else she is saying.
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@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Hello wandalie44! I agree with what you're saying. Actually we did have a lawsuit before and everyone found out that Tara didn't update the account properly. She had to admit her error and everyone was in shock that she did it improperly. I really don't care how she does her work, BUT I think she is a nice person and shouldn't be comparing herself to me. As you say, of course she will process more because she isn't following the procedure which means more errors & of course more disputes done, right? :)
Pablo
@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
6 Apr 08
Yes, you're right--that's just how life goes, sometimes we all have bad days...
@WANDALIE44 (888)
• United States
6 Apr 08
thanks pablo, you have a verry positive attiude and thats good it will take you places in life. i hope she backs off and leaves you alone. sometimes people can act funny i don't know why tho but hey i guess that's a part of life.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
9 Apr 08
I hope things have worked out. I would have ignored the whole episode, but would also keep track of what I do, just in case it is brought up. She will get hers. She is only part-time, and may not even be there too long. Don't bother yourself with her.
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@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
11 Apr 08
Hello thoroughbob, how are you? Well, the thing is I think she was having a bad day because she is being nice to me again. Plus, she has been there a long time (compared to other people) almost two years with the company. She works part time because she goes to school or I'm sure she would work more hours, right?
Pablo
@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
5 Apr 08
i would like to think that your working as a representative of a mobile provider...i am and i am doing disputes as well even if i'm working on finance department...i'm working with sprint anyway...well i guess she's so insensitive when it comes to that matter or she just love to boast on it...that's awfully rude to laugh at people's job and say your not doing your job well..on the first place she's not your boss..your boss is not saying anything against your job so you should feel good enough for you know your on the right track on your job...you should tell her how it made you feel for her insensitivity or might as well, your better now considering your following protocols...and do more better and show her how better you are than what she is right now...
goodluck buddy...don't let her get into you...for as long as you know your doing your job well the way it should be..
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@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
5 Apr 08
I feel much better after reading your words, thank you for encouraging me, angel_of_charm :)
Pablo
@rockvixen (894)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Sounds like a woman at work where my mother works. You know she had no right to even make fun of your or talk about you. She seems full of herself and not at all a good person. Next time tell her this "I may be slow, but at least I look at all the details of my documents before turning them in" maybe she'll shut up and let you be.
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@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Thank you rockvixen. I believe because our bosses are saying we need to get the work done that she felt it neccessary to see how many I was doing. Obviously she being bossy or having a bad day (or something else?). You are right she should pay more attention to her work!
Pablo
@dawnmadison (48)
• United States
5 Apr 08
I don't like it when people want to be competitive and act that way. Great job beating her on her totals though! :)
And if her numbers are high because she's not doing her job correctly, that sounds like abuse of the system to me. At my job, you will get in trouble for that.
And anyway, Quality before Quantity!
And I would probably tell her that she's rude. But I'm not always a nice person. You should probably just keep to yourself, and worry about your job, and not hers.
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@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
5 Apr 08
You are right, dawnmadison. Well the fact is our company did away with our quality insurance department a long time ago. So our bosses check less than one percent of our work. I believe she knows she can get away with it because harldy anyone checks our work! I agree with you on quality because I think things should be accurate and not poorly done.
Pablo
@gemini_rose (16264)
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5 Apr 08
It is ridiculous that people go to work and get grief like that, it is surely worse than being in school! I am not sure how I would have reacted, a little part of me sits here and thinks I would have to proove her wrong and show her up for what she is, but then the other part of me says that to do anything could make it worse. Sometimes it is better to say nothing and just be nice to her, people that are trying to be bigheaded do not like it when they do not get a reaction and they like it even less when you just keep smiling at them and agreeing with them!
@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
6 Apr 08
Well, actually that is what I did. I will keep on racing her proving I can do more than her with updating all the correct information. She is just slacking....
Pablo
@SassyKittyKat (2135)
• Australia
5 Apr 08
I'm sorry, it may be childish but I would let her know how I feel if I were you and make her feel stupid LOL...That's awful probably but hey, it would give you some satisfaction lol...
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
5 Apr 08
she's kinda mean so just ignore her so that she won't make fun of you
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@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
6 Apr 08
Yes, she can be mean when she wants. She is nice most of the time. Anyway, she just needs to learn to stop saying mean things or whatever because she's not the boss :)
Pablo
@Emma_Wang (210)
• China
5 Apr 08
in my mind,that you should tell her the truth,And let her know that why her salray is less than you,but in some way,you beat her,this is not polite,and you know,the voince is not the best way to solve the problem.
@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
5 Apr 08
I would get irritated. I am not sure if I would say something to her or not, it would all depend on the situation. As long as you know you're doing your job correctly, don't worry about it. Who cares if you did 100 jobs thoroughly and she did 150 jobs half-a*sed? You did your job right and the biss ought to see that.
