have you ever been compared to your sibling?

I am spread out in age with my siblings. My brother is 4.5 years older than me. My sister is 9 years older than me, my other sister 14 years older than me, and my eldest brother was 15 years older than me. So there really weren't very many comparisons. Most people compare us to our father because we have his sense of humour. I have been compared to the brother closest to me in that we laugh the same. The middle child, the one 9 years older than me, has always been rebellious about being the middle child, but she always seemed perfect to me. I can do a great imitation of her voice but I have been resenting her a lot because she has always talked down to me. After all these years (I'm 45) I have finally realized that she is insecure in herself and jealous of others. I've actually turned a bit away from her because I had to complain to my mother about the way she was talking down to me and my mother had a talk with her (I think). I've actually been avoiding her. Other than that, there have been no comparisons. I always wished I was like her but now I'm glad I'm not. We are individuals. We were all raised by the same parents and we all turned out differently because we are all unique. You need to find the YOU inside of YOU and forget about your sister. I am sure you have some good things about you that your sister doesn't have.

I was an only child for eight years before my mom had remarried and had another baby. I was used to having all the attention and then when my sister came along, nothing. It was hard to deal with, especially when the step-grandparents had a biological granddaughter in the family now. In their eyes she could do no wrong and I was the rebel, and believe me I rebelled. It caused me to not have a good relationship with my sister, and it was in no way her fault. Now that I'm older I look back and think of how rude I was to her because of my own jealousy towards her. We have a good relationship now. She is still in high school, but is able to come out and see me on weekends. That is something that I'm very grateful for, despite the judgement that her side of the family had and still has on me. I'm still the "bad" one. :)

Hi there meiji! I have experienced being compared to my younger sisters but I never felt pressured at all. We even talked about it and decided to have our own strengths that we should put forward whenever we hear that people are comparing us. We'll say that me, the eldest is the most intelligent, Roxanne, my younger sister is the kindest, and our youngest sister, Rosegell is the sexiest.

they compare them to me because I was the eldest and the achiever, but nonetheless, I cannot be better.I am a doting sister to them

I have never been compared to my sister or to my brother, but my younger brother is always told off and my parents use me as the good example which terrible because you feel like they are putting a barrier between you and your siblings. I believe we're all different and parents should not expect the same from every child

My sister is always compared to me but mainly looks wise. She's much much pretty than me though there was a lot of resemblance when she was younger. She's 12 years younger than me but already she's developed my attitude lol. It's pretty bad to see a mirror of myself. I recogn that on the whole when she grows up (she's only 8 now) she'll be really different to me. Because we;ve had really different upbringing even though we're from the same family. I was born and lived on a council estate for 9 years with just my mum. Whereas my little sister has grown up with both her mum and dad (granted separated but living very close) and all 3 of her older siblings. So her experiences are goign to be really different and i think that'll influence her life. Anyway I'm not jealous of her at all - though I would love to be as pretty!!!

I had a brother who was more than 4 years younger to me. So there were no comparisons literally except on the matter of studies. I think sisters who are close in age tend to compare and compete. Here is an example: http://www.thisisby.us/index.php/content/twin_sisters_are_always_jealous

My sis to me! and I don't really like it sometimes I will really defend for her because I know its wont give any good outcome to her and thank God , she was also that brave enough to stand out! Just don't mind them, and soon they will realize that what they are doing is not good and in your own way, they will see your accomplishment too!

For me..Not really,not much..sometimes do but i can't remember what are the things for now.Im the only girl with three others guys..we are average.So girl and guy..to be compare its kinda unfair for siblings. Its natural for siblings to compete with each other.Elder siblings tends to give way,if jeolousy does not take place on themselves.

i don't have a sister but sometimes i've been compared to some of my friends like they were already graduates while me, i'm still studying and so on