How would you handle it?

Hi gabrielle47. I haven't been in parenthood so I don't know if I could give a good suggestion. However, perhaps you could ask some advices from the older parents about how to prepare your children for anticipation towards these bullying, and yeah, like this one you have done in myLot, starting this discussion to ask the advices / suggestions from various parents here. About my own, my parents always taught me that even as a girl, I would have to be able to defense myself within any situation and to avoid opening any chance of getting such bullying like by avoiding going to some 'bullying potential' area alone. My parents told me to get some trustful friends in school, at least two friends that could accompany me when I needed to go to 'such a place' in school, badly because there was any important thing I had to do. At least when something unwanted happened, they would be able to help 'screaming' or witnessing to the headmaster or teachers. Of course, my parents said that I couldn't always count on friend's help but might be better than going alone. However, the most important thing was that I could 'build a self protection' towards me, that's what they taught me. They said I should dare to speak for myself, and to word out that I didn't want the people to do such things to me and that I also had the right to be respected as a person. "Don't show them any fear," that's what my parents always told me, "You have to build a protection from your own, make sure you behave in a way that most people would find as something worth for respect, or the others would never give any respect towards you." My parents said that it was okay if I even had to fight physically with those people if they had started any physical attack. In the name of self defense, I had the right and they were the ones that started it, and I wasn't the one started it. I would always remember these words my parents said: --- And if the teachers or headmaster would punish you, stand up and tell them: "I was doing it because you didn't even care to protect me. Are you saying that I don't have the right to defense my own self towards these attacks even when I was alone and they were more than two people? If this is what you mean, my parents would report these cases to the police and government, because you all the teachers don't even care to take any action to protect your own students. I've only done what I had to do to protect myself from these attackers." ---

my child was bullied at school several times I complained, the last straw was when he came home with a bloody mouth, some kid twice his age and grade punched him, I went to the principal he said if I couldn't find the name of the student there was nothing he could do. I wrote the school board and I threatened to bring the police in, They found the kid that did it in a hurry.

My son was bullied at school, in junior high, and took care of the situation himself. He was tall and thin as a rail, and one bigger boy always picked on him for it. I guess they had some words and the bigger boy said he'd meet him in the park after school. Jess always walked through the park on his way home and said he wasn't going to go out of his way and look like a coward, so when the other boy confronted him, Jess tried to talk his way out, but the boy wouldn't have it and pushed him to the ground. Jess got up swinging and gave the boy a bloody nose. That big bully stood right there in the park in front of every body and cried! Jess asked the boy if he'd had enough and the boy said yes, and everybody went home. He made that bully show his true colors and never had a problem with him after that. Sometimes we need to let our kids find their own solutions to their problems. I don't mean to condone violence, but sometimes we need to let our kids stand up for themselves. I guess he was taking a risk of getting arrested for battery, but that was a chance he was willing to take. He did have witnesses that the other boy started it, and I'm proud of him for standing up for himself.

i would teach my child to stand up for themself. i was on both sides of this argument as a child. i was bullied for being a girl being raised by a single father. i was bullied by black people for not being black enough, and white people for being too dark. i was picked on for being smart and wanting to be ahead. then one day, i decided to take responsibility for myself. i was playing at recess one day and this boy was trying to pull me off of some equipment by yanking on my clothes. i politely grabbed him by the arm and bashed his face into a pole breaking his nose. people didn't mess with me very much after that. i'm not saying that i condone violence, but i think everyone has a right to stand up for themself.

i know how the child feels when he or she is bullied. kindly speak to the management regarding this issue. i would have done the same.