Do you think it's ok to read your daughters diary?

I think it depends on the daughter in some ways...I've read parts of my daughters on occasion when she's having a rough go but ONLY because she keeps so much inside and with all that has gone on in her life i need to know whats goin on in her head...Otherwise though I dont bother...My niece on the other hand, who is a troubled girl (I've mentioned her in here about a yr ago) and a very sneaky one..If she were my daughter i would DEFINATELY read it...and on the other hand still (if I had three hands) if my daughter was a well behaved etc etc child then no I wouldnt read it..

no don't read her diary.. your not respecting her privacy

Regardless if the child is a girl or boy, I think that need some privacy to an extent. However, I would let it be known that anything they bring int he house may be looked at if there is a reason for it (like if they start being too secretive and you think something is going on).

I guess it depends on the girl and the situation. IF there are serious problems going on it might be a necessary evil to check their diary and find out so that you can protect your child. as far as messages... we do not receive text messages so that is not a consideration for us. But, in a chat situation I did monitor my son - not constantly, but he and the person he was speaking with were made aware that the possibility exists that I would be viewing what was written. I think it helped to keep things kopasceptic (sp) so to speak. Plus, it is true that anything that is written down has the potential to be seen by someone else and we all must be aware of that.

Her diary, no way, when my dauther moved out she left her's here and to this day it is in my closet and I have never opened it. Now I have checked and still check my boys text messages, that is not like a diary when private and personal thougths and feelings are in, that is checking on what they are doing and as long as I pay the bill I have a right to see. But no dont look at the diary that is an invasion of privacy.

I think it's an invasion of her privacy. It's a way of telling her you do not trust her and you need proofs or backups for anything she does or says. She will lose her trust in you as well and start hidding more stuff from you. I do not think you want that. Talk to her and became her best friend not her worst enemy. She will tell you everything if you do that knowing that you are understanding and a good advisor.

No, I would NEVER read my kids' diaries. They will respect your authority more..not to mention respect you more if you respect their privacy and respect them as people. Besides if they know you respect them and trust them, they will be less likely to rebel. And if you suspect that they are doing something that they shouldn't be doing.. instead of looking in their diaries or drawers.. talk to them and tell them its okay to tell you anything. See, I don't have teens yet as my kids are only 6 and 4 but I still remember how I was as a teen! My mother used to get her nose into my business a lot at one point.. I don't think she read my diary but she went into my room and drawers and stuff and I resented her big time for that, and I in my own way became difficult on purpose but ONCE she let me do my business and left me alone more, I was less inclined to rebel and I became more of a managable teen! And yes.. if they did write about you, they may have said some things that you would not have liked to have read since you said you were strict but believe me, they would have written worse things if you looked into their diaries! And good for you for trusting them.. it does make a difference.

no way please. i hated it when my mom does that and will be really mad at her for touching my things. though she is my mo.. she has to respect my privacy. i wish parents would understand that and learn how to trust their kids. if i did have a child who keeps diaries, i will definitely not read them and will give her breathing space.

Though Jessica has never kept a diary for more then a few days LOL (like me) I think that we are so close she would let me read it so I wouldn't have to peak myself. I know her passwords to her accounts online and have checked what goes on. That is mostly to see if there is bullying or to make sure photos etc are not dirty. She knows I do this and doesn't mind. Usually she is sitting right there with me when I check. We are really close and she tells me everything. I know most parents say that so I could be blind sided, but like you I trust her and I am strict. LOL

i am sorry but i really believe that reading anyone's diary is not a good thing to do. it is a private thing wherein we log in our thoughts, experiences and ideas. it should not be read without the permission of the owner, whoever the owner is. because i believe that at certain time, if that person really wants you to have a peek of what is writte on her diary, then it is really a priviledge.

I think that is not a good idea. You are breaking into her own privacy.. we have to respect our kids' belongings.. each individual have his or her privacy so better not open or lift a single leaf of the page that contains her highschool crush the best thing to do is observe and have a chit chat once she is ready to tell you something then sit down and listen

I know that you did not do it and yes I do think it is an invasion of her privacy and you should not look at her diary. How would you feel if the boot were on the other foot, I don't think you would be pleased if she read your private diary.

I remember the day I found out that my dad had read mine, I was really upset that he would do such a thing, I was also upset because I got punished for the things that I had written in it, which was not very fair at all. I was also upset because he had read all the things I had put about him in it and it upset him, which in turn upset me to see him upset! Reading other peoples diaries is just a recipe for disaster, so although I am really nosey I just would not do it because I remember what it was like for me when mine was read.

I don't really have kids but in short, I think it's wrong for a mom to snoop in her daughter's diary. Trust is important in any relationship and this would be breaking the bond of trust. I have to commend you for not doing this and for trusting your daughters. That's awesome!

Well I don't really do.. only when she leaves the diary some place I can see I read about it and if I read something I didn't like I share it with my husband..but I rarely do that..I know it's invading her privacy but once in a while we need to meddle with our kids life because we are just doing that to see if they are doing anything wrong or if they have a problem of some sort. We are just concerned.. sometimes trust is not to be trusted just for your kids welfare..Hope you got what I meant.

I don't have kids but according to me you should not read your daughters dairy without their permission and am sure they won't allow you to read it even if you ask also. I use to maintain diaries when i was a teenager and when i go through through it its very sweetly written but in some there are things which should not have been written as even hatred is also written between friends or strangers. different people will maintain their diary in different ways so its better to ask permission if we want to go through it.

i dont know about it iam not at married but reading others dairies inculding family members is not a good manner . because there are personal secrects in that so we can leave it them teir scerects as it

hehehe.... yeah, sometimes i read my sis diary. cuz i wanna take care her and know how she's thinking and growing. she never tell me her problem, and i worry of her. i knew its bad but i can know deeply of my sis by reading her diary. the important thing is, i love her and wanna take care her. thx

i am still on the stage of being a daughter hoping someday to have my own, too. i've also been to that stage when i religiously wrote in my diaries (because i have more than one at a time) and confided a lot of things going on in my life, be it in school, church, in my circle of friends and of course happenings in the house. Wayback in highschool i always get scolded for two major reasons: coming home late (even because of academic matters) without asking for permission and/or staying out beyond our (my mother and I) agreed time that i should be home. Most of the time it was my mother who have been always strict with me and my diaries then always include my frustrations because of her. My mother and I have a big age gap. One of my classmates in elementary before thought that she was my grandmother. And so now i think that we would really have a lot of misunderstandings because of generation gap. Besides, my mother is not very modern. She has a traditional thinking. It's only now that she has evolved maybe because she understands most things about the youth now little by little. And also in my part, i understood the reasons why she acted that way then. My point now is, it's not okay for a parent to read his/her daughter's dairy. Aside from invasion of privacy, who knows your daughter might be saying bad things against you but she doesn't really mean it? It could just make you feel bad or whatever depends on the way you take it. It might just be a way of letting out her anger without being too confrontational. Someday they'll realize their wrongdoings and understand their parents. And someday the parents will also understand their daughters more without having to secretly do it this way.

For me it's ok.