I love you..... I love you not.....
By Storm
@jcj_111776 (3216)
Philippines
April 11, 2008 7:58am CST
Does this happen to you? Have you ever felt those moments that no matter how much you do love someone, when you're so bitterly angry about him or her, that sometimes as if you don't feel any love for that person anymore?
There are times that such misunderstandings can evoke that feeling of temporary emotional confusion.
OR..... even if you're hurting and angry, you still try to put on your emotional brakes and stop concentrating on every bad things you can think of about that person?That even in the event that you're still mad, you still try to remind yourself of the good things that person has done for you.
As for me, there are times that when I'm so mad at my husband, that it's really a great effort to remind myself that I wouldn't have decided to build a family with him, if I knew that he will only be giving me a lifetime of heartache.
Sometimes it's "I love you.... I love you not today because I'm still angry....try again tomorrow!"
5 responses
@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
No, of course not. You loved him for so long. And those years with him will always be remembered. I guess talking to him helps you somehow. Missing someone, especially one who had been a part of your life, can be difficult sometimes.
@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
Wow!More than 42 years, Lakota. That's a long time. 
So many cherished memories with your husband....I love to have that kind of experience too, with my husband... that is if he stops being obnoxious sometimes....
So true...That's the beauty of true unconditional love. No matter how ugly things can get, at the end, you can still sleep at night, totally assured that you still deeply love your husband.
Falling inlove the second time around is sweeter, much more the third time.... I bet when that happened, everything around you was much brighter and colorful....
So many cherished memories with your husband....I love to have that kind of experience too, with my husband... that is if he stops being obnoxious sometimes....
So true...That's the beauty of true unconditional love. No matter how ugly things can get, at the end, you can still sleep at night, totally assured that you still deeply love your husband.
Falling inlove the second time around is sweeter, much more the third time.... I bet when that happened, everything around you was much brighter and colorful....
@SViswan (12051)
• India
12 Apr 08
lol...I feel like that everytime I have an argument with my husband. I know very well that in a day or two I will be 'in love' again and will wonder how I could think I don't love him anymore...but that's the way it is.....even when I'm having these thoughts, I'm still mad enough to not love him!
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@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
Hey, I feel the same way sometimes...While I'm still fuming mad at my husband, I'm almost convinced that I have no love for him anymore. BUT the moment that the anger evaporates, I'm like you. It makes me wonder why have I ever thought of it that way. I guess the saying..."the more you hate, the more you love" is true.
While I'm still fuming mad at my husband, I'm almost convinced that I have no love for him anymore. BUT the moment that the anger evaporates, I'm like you. It makes me wonder why have I ever thought of it that way. I guess the saying..."the more you hate, the more you love" is true.@SViswan (12051)
• India
15 Apr 08
lol...after 8 years of marriage....even when I am fuming mad and not loving him, I know in my head I will be loving him like crazy in a couple of days...maybe I'm wierd...but that's the way I am. And now every time I'm mad, I just resign myself to a day or two of fuming...I know I'll be fine when I'm calm and forget everything he's done.
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@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
That's the same thing my sisters think of me They see me mad today but they will tease me that no matter how angry I may get, I immediately melt like ice as soon as my husband makes his apology in his own way.
They see me mad today but they will tease me that no matter how angry I may get, I immediately melt like ice as soon as my husband makes his apology in his own way.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
11 Apr 08
It seems that most of us did experienced these mixed-up emotions, we just have to learn to control it at times. Sometimes, with just a short burst of anger, small things such as misunderstanding could spark and turn into something way bigger than we never thought it would be.
I could remember another particular song that matches these scenarios, like Patty Smyth's "Sometimes Love Just Ain't Enough." We tend to find the reasons, why such things happen in just a span of a few seconds and mess things up unexpectedly.. Well, let's just hope that tomorrow would be different for both parties and see the white flag raised to kiss and make-up..
We tend to find the reasons, why such things happen in just a span of a few seconds and mess things up unexpectedly.. Well, let's just hope that tomorrow would be different for both parties and see the white flag raised to kiss and make-up..1 person likes this
@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
hi raijin. how are you doing?As for me, summer get-away is still open. Hello beach for me this May....
Absolutely true. But it will take a lot of effort to control our emotions and try to think rationally. It's like a tidal wave of feelings, one negative emotion after another. And it's so hard to try to stop it. And this where a little misunderstanding becomes a major bitter battle of emotions.
Absolutely true. But it will take a lot of effort to control our emotions and try to think rationally. It's like a tidal wave of feelings, one negative emotion after another. And it's so hard to try to stop it. And this where a little misunderstanding becomes a major bitter battle of emotions.1 person likes this
@mchristine519 (83)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
that's what im feeling right now towards someone I've been "seeing" for the past 2 years.. I am actually getting tired of our relationship and I just feel a bit cold towards him.. and yes, I've come to the point that I am now listing the pros and cons of his personality as objective as possible.. and sad to say the cons outweighs the pros =(
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@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
hi christine...I'm sorry to learn about that. When it comes to the pros vs cons, it's a bit hard not to see the facts. But I do hope that things can still come out ok between the two of you.
@queenofarms (1659)
• United States
11 Apr 08
I use to be like that but have learned that nothing can keep me from loving my husband. My husband has done some crazy and hurtful things but I still love him. I always think is this something that I really need to be mad to the point of not loving him today. I would hate it if something happened to him and it was a day I was mad and didn't say I love you. My mother always told me never go to bed mad and without saying I love you. Because you don't know if you will wake up tomorrow to say the words to each other.
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@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
I completely agree with you. Someone told me that when a couple had an argument for that day, they should try their best to kiss and make-up before the day ends. That no argument should last a day longer. Because whatever negative emotions they both are nurturing, will only make the situation much worse.
The way you think happens to me sometimes. When I'm so mad at my husband, there's a moment during those mad periods, that I stop and think, what if? What if something happens to one of us that day and I let go of the chance to really tell him that I'm just mad but that doesn't mean that I've stopped loving him.
