My Sister In Law Is At It Again, Have You Ever!
@SassyKittyKat (2135)
Australia
April 12, 2008 9:31am CST
Ok, so, now my sister in law is claiming in her journal that my husband and I are having marital problems. It's probably because my sister made a comment on a post regarding the the insanity that surrounds my sister in law, that if my dealings with her are starting to effect my marriage than it's best that I cut ties with my sister in law. I think she is hoping that we are having marital problems but I hate to tell her, that's not the case and my husband are going stronger than ever lol....
Also, she made some stupid comment about a girl that my husband used to be interested in before we began dating and how they could have been sisters LOL...Meanwhile, she has said in the past that this girl can get wierd because she has been known to get angry when she thinks my sister in law is ignoring her. I say, maybe that's why she likes her so much because they both have major issues LMBO!
Here is my previous post regarding this crazy individual:
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1466086.aspx
First of all, my husband and I never fight. We only argue when my sister in law becomes physco and starts pitting the brothers against each other and making it a competition. She keeps arguments going from ages ago and she just can't let things go. It's really sad.
So, how do you detach yourself from an in law like this? How do you not let her get to you and just realize that she is a desperate person trying to make herself look good because anyone who sees the true her would not like what they see and she would be alone forever.
It's so frustrating! She's insane people! What do I do with a person such as this in the family?
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9 responses
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
13 Apr 08
Gosh, don't you just hate it when you come across people like that?
Their petty insecurities seem to make them feel that they need to disrupt the lives of others.. furthermore, they just don't know how to keep their big mouths shut.
My sister is a bit like that... oh well, as the saying goes, you can choose your friends but you can't choose your relatives 
Shame you had to marry into such an icky situation.
Shame you had to marry into such an icky situation.
@SassyKittyKat (2135)
• Australia
13 Apr 08
I meant peace, boy, I can't spell today. Have you ever had one of those days LOL...
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
14 Apr 08
LOL, I have those days all the time... get used to it because it gets worse as you get older 
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
13 Apr 08
it is really hard in your part to deal this kind of person. the only thing you can do is keep away from her. wise people keep away from foolish people. you can ask help from your congregation elders on how to handle that kind of in-laws.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
12 Apr 08
Well, I would just stop talking about her and checking out her journal. Who cares what she writes anyway. Sounds like she is trying to push your buttons on purpose.
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@SassyKittyKat (2135)
• Australia
12 Apr 08
Yes, you're probably right but I told my husband to block the site off our computer altogether anyway. So, it will end now...
@soulist (2985)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I am not sure what to do in this situation. I would try not to allow her to come between my husband and I. I know it's hard but don't talk to her, and only see her on holidays. It's sad to say one has to distance themselves from family, but sometimes it needs to be done.
@SassyKittyKat (2135)
• Australia
14 Apr 08
Yeah, it is sad but it looks like that's the way it's going to have to be.
@MH4444 (2161)
• United States
14 Apr 08
Talk about a trouble-maker.
Hmmmm... me thinks' that you may need to do something here. Try this:
Inform your sister-in-law that interfering in a relationship can technically be considered "alienating the affection" of one's partner. You can sue for that cause. Maybe if she knows what will come "if" she manages to tear it appart; she will stop thinking it's worth while. (101: how to handle a bully)
Either way, stand strong with your hubby and love him no matter what.
@SassyKittyKat (2135)
• Australia
14 Apr 08
Yes, something has got to be done because as you can see she just doesn't quit with her crap. Thanks for the info. I really do appreciate it!
@SassyKittyKat (2135)
• Australia
13 Apr 08
You're definitely right at that. Sometimes I think I can perhaps make her see what it is that she has done wrong and why I'm upset about it. The thing with her is that she never can see that she does anything wrong.
I'm not just saying this but everytime she blames someone else, whether it's one of my husband's other family members or one of her or even her own HUSBAND 
. She just never takes responsibility for anything and I guess that's why I let it get to me but I have to realize that a person such as herself will never see their fault in a situation. I need to just stay away from her and all her insanity and unstableness once and for all. Thanks so much for your comment!
. She just never takes responsibility for anything and I guess that's why I let it get to me but I have to realize that a person such as herself will never see their fault in a situation. I need to just stay away from her and all her insanity and unstableness once and for all. Thanks so much for your comment!
@Phlamingho (7822)
• Denmark
12 Apr 08
LOL sounds like a pretty crazy person, what does your husband say to all of this?
And by they way... How do you know what she puts in her journal? :D
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@SassyKittyKat (2135)
• Australia
12 Apr 08
He says to just leave it alone and that we know the truth and that's it. I know he's right but it just gets me so frustrated and it's easier said than done.....
Well, she has a LiveJournal account. I know, I know, I should quit looking at it because it only gets me frustrated. That's another thing my husband tells me and I know he's right but it's hard to do when I know she's over there talking her trash.
Honestly, I don't look at it often but on occasion I will swing over there to see what her crazy mind is cooking up these days but I know, that's the first thing I need to do, is just leave it alone and not look to see what she's griping about. Really, when she's not trashing me she doesn't really have anything intelligent to really write about and so, I don't really take the time to read it LOL...
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
13 Apr 08
Of course, I don't know all of your situation, but if it were me, I would just put a great deal of distance between her and me. One of the things hubby and I agreed on before getting "hitched" was that we would move very far away from both families and live on our own. When they tried to muscle their way in, we just kept the door locked. Of course, that only works if both partners are in agreement.
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@SassyKittyKat (2135)
• Australia
13 Apr 08
Yeah, he and I don't really live near his family but when we visit his mom we have to see her and his brother because his brother lives with his mom. Sadly, they have been living with her ever since they first got married and it's going on three years. Sometimes his brother makes more than us and sure they have a kid but trust me they can afford their own place but his wife likes to spend his money and so, hence the reason why they still live with his mother.
I agree with you though, I need to keep my distance. I live near my family but we really don't have problems with them. Thanks, I appreciate your advice!
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
13 Apr 08
After reading the comments of everyone else; I have to say that I agree with the advice of not going to her journal anymore.
My husband's ex used to do the same kind of thing on her MySpace. She used to put pictures of them together on there and all kinds of stuff just to try to get to me.
The thing is, she would go to MY myspace and read it and look at all the pictures and get jealous or whatever and then she would try to get back at me.
It didn't work though, I have never once gone to her page. I don't need her drama in my life.
The only reason I even knew what she was doing was because other people felt the need to go keep tabs on her nonsense and report back to me. I had to tell them to stop telling me because I don't care. Finally they listened.
Karma got to her though..
Now her husband's ex-wife is torturing her. I had to laugh when I heard that.
@SassyKittyKat (2135)
• Australia
13 Apr 08
I know, you're right. I'm not going to go there anymore because it just gets me aggrivated. I guess I just understand why someone can be so cruel and vindictive. I really have tried to get along with her and it's like, out of nowhere she has to stir up things and start an arguement. It's so frustrating! You're right though, I don't need the drama and I need to stay as far away from it as possible! Thanks!
