life is unfair.......
April 12, 2008 12:14pm CST
sometimes, no matter how hard you try to win people's affections or to just belong, no matter how low you've stooped or how humbled you've become, you can't just seem to fit at all. and even if you've finally found an opening and you're pretty sure that this is it, people still tend to have a short memory. my in-laws never did like me. for what reason, i really have no idea. it has been like this for the past 13 years that i've been married to their brother and even long before that. i tried so hard, oh i just tried so hard to get into their good graces but nothing worked. lately, i was tasked to organize the debut of the the daughter of the eldest bro because there's no one else to do it. (both parents are already in the US). i worked so hard for the success of the event and sure enough, it was a resounding one! it was just beautiful! and everyone seemed appreciative at first. but then, when the dust has settled and days have passed, they conveniently forgot everything i've done and i'm back to square one. you just don't know how hurt it made me feel. in a country where family, even extended ones, matter a lot, i really feel the alienation deeply. now, i just learned that my other 2 sis-in-laws (there's only three of us) were enjoying a night out together and nobody thought of inviting me. God, i know i'm past the age of jealousies, but i do feel this way now. why can't they ever accept me?
12 Apr 08
I guess it's difficult to please everyone. Don't let that get you down, though. Your two inlaws probably just like each other a lot that they decided to enjoy a night out together. If they can't accept you for who you are, that's really not your fault. Maybe they're all insecured about something in you. Think of it that way, so it wouldn't make you feel too bad.
• United States
12 Apr 08
you sound like a very nice affectionate person sometimes people can't accept people for there own jealousy you have been married to him for 13 years it seems like they already the choice to not like you all that matters now is that you have a great 13 year relationship with your husband no matter what they didn't break you guys up its been 13 years and they still can't grow up you shouldn't let it get you down even though i no it hurts.
12 Apr 08
yah, you're right! that's what my husband's been telling me. and truthfully, it's what should only matter. luckily for me, i have a very supportive husband. it just hurts when the family gets together and i'm the only one left out. oh well, i can always play with the kids when this happens. thanks for your words of encouragement!