How would you describe your personality?

@dloveli (4368)
United States
April 12, 2008 3:07pm CST
I have always been told by parents that I have always been a talker. I could always handle my own situations, good or bad. My dad and I have always had a difficult relationship. He and I do and see things in a very different manner. I always felt as if I wasn't taken seriously unless somebody needed me to stick up for them, protect them. I felt as if no one really listened to me. As I grew older I have always been very honest and verbal in my opinions. Sometimes I could be viewed as rude. I have never intended on being rude. I guess its the way I say things. As I am getting older, I seem to see myself as being misunderstood. Because of the way I was looked upon by my parents I am always having to say " Don't misunderstand me" or "Don't take this the wrong way" before I say anything. I am tired of it. I am a good person. I am a little headstrong and bold. I am not going to sit back and let people walk over me. For years I have heard all the bad things about me. I don't sugarcoat things. Maybe I should think of how the person will take my comments before I say them. I don't deny that I can be a cut-throat to someone who is trying to hurt someone I love. I don't know what to do anymore. My best friend and I are very different. She is a beautiful person. However, she allows people to say anything to her. Sometimes I just want to shake her and tell her "Don't let her talk to you like that". She will help anyone, which has caused her to be hurt and ripped off several times too many. I, on the other hand, put it straight from the beginning. If you're looking for a victim here your looking in the wrong place. I love to help people and do on a daily basis. If I think someone is trying to get over I tell them. My friend would feel bad as if she was hurting their feelings. " What about your feelings?" I always tell her. I don't want to apologize for being me. I have in the past said things that I think may have hurt feelings and I have apologized and realized that I shouldn't jump so quickly. I finally realize that my personality is mine. As long as I am honest and respectful. People will have to respect my opinions or in the future don't ask. In this day and age if your are nice and sweet, people think of you as a pushover and try to victimize you. If your upfront and honest, you're a B***H!!! How would you describe yourself?
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@derek_a (10895)
13 Apr 08
I am a Zen practitioner and spend much time in zazen (Zen meditation)and thoroughly enjoy delving into the potential of the human mind to realise who we are and what the purpose of life is. I have always enjoyed my own company, but do have friends too. Some are very interested in my philosophy on life and others tend to avoid the subject, but I would say I have a balanced life of interaction with friends and time alone. :-)
@dloveli (4368)
• United States
13 Apr 08
I like being alone as well. I think there is nothing better than having to become honest with myself. I have a good time and I have learned things about myself too. I have heard about Zen in the past. I never really understood it. Upon reading your response I have been researching the subject. I am going to research some more. It really seems appealing to me. Thanks dl
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@derek_a (10895)
14 Apr 08
Zen is more a way of life, than something that is easily understood. If you practice zazen (Zen meditation - where the mind is stilled and focused), you then begin to experience Zen, but it is difficult to explain because it beyond the reaches of the ordinary, rational mind.. :-)
@mamasan34 (6520)
• United States
13 Apr 08
There is nothing wrong with handling things the way that you do. I am very similar to your personality now, but in the past, I was very much like your friend and I would let just about anyone walk all over me because I was too nice to people, I didn't want to hurt people's feelings, but in the end I was the one hurting and they were laughing. So, I finally told myself enough! So, I am nice to people, but to an extent. I try not to loan money out to people. If I have it, I will just give it to them if it's less than a couple hundred dollars. If it's more, I most likely don't have it anyway! I am a very generous person, but most times I just tell people the bank is closed, it keeps the animosity down.
@dloveli (4368)
• United States
17 Apr 08
That seems like a smart way of looking at things. I watched an Oprah show many years ago and I will never forget a comment she made. She said to never lend money that you expect to get back. This saves alot of animosity in itself. Being generous is supposed to be a plus. However, in today's society its looked upon as a weakness. I cant believe how society can take such a good gesture and take advantage. Nothing surprises me anymore. Thanks. dl
• Romania
13 Apr 08
I had some personality tests in high school and those came up realy close to the reality. I am open to new things and understanding ...well untill someone gets on my nerves. Everything has a limit ,even my patience. Emotioanally stable, calm and strong thou i have some weak moments of my own when i feel everything is falling apart around me. I still manage to put myself together ,after a good cry or a swearing session, and continue the battle of life. Bullhedead,dominant and agressive sometimes when don't have my way in areas that i want to succed in. Self -control is a big part of me as well as independence. I rarely realy on other people to do my work. I trust myself and my own strenght , i am confident and impulsive. I want things done fast without delay and that sometimes represents a drawback .
@dloveli (4368)
• United States
17 Apr 08
I have these same qualities. All my life I thought they were negatives. Now I realize that they are positives because they are me. I believe that the individuals we grow up to be are because of the environment we grew up in. Some people who are only children and get 100% of the attention grow to be self centered or bossy or inverted and quiet. I think it all depends on the type of coping and comprehension skills we develop as a child. We just dont take any crap so we do things on our own. We dont show our weakness until we are alone. You are a leader! thanks for responding. dl
@youless (103755)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Apr 08
I think it will be a little complicated to describe my personality. I have some good virtues and shortcomings together. I am nice but sometimes I will lose my temper. I am not patient. I am easy to trust others, but I hate to be cheated. I am polite and I can be reasonable. I am stubborn. But if I think it's a good idea, I will change my mind anyway. I can say sorry if I am wrong. I am honest and I think this is my biggest virtue.
@dloveli (4368)
• United States
17 Apr 08
I would describe your personality as Perfect! You have a little of everything. Dont second guess yourself. I think you could be a great role model. Dont describe your self as complicated. You are normal. You could teach others how to behave. Your entire personality is a great virtue. Dont sell yourself short. I wish somebody would have told me that. dl
@cindy003 (21)
• China
13 Apr 08
I am a person that never care about what other people say.The personality is mine.It is my own business.when I think what I say and what I do are right ,I wanna other people know that I am a respectful person and so do my thonght and honesty.please respect me!!!!That's my personality!!!
@dloveli (4368)
• United States
13 Apr 08
Are you sure we are not related? lol My thoughts exactly. I am me and I am not going to cower to anyone. I dont like being made to feel as if my thoughts are unimportant. I make sure that no one implies that. I respect those who deserve respect. That's my mott. THanks dl
@cream97 (29154)
• United States
13 Apr 08
I am easy to get along with. I am mostly quiet. I have a habit of giving too much information to others. I am loyal. I like to talk to people that I am comfortable around. I love to smile and laugh. When I get mad I will be very silent, talk a little junk.... Overall, I am compassionate.
@dloveli (4368)
• United States
13 Apr 08
Sounds like the perfect mixture to me! I wish I could describe myself like that. However, I am me and you are you. THats what makes us individuals. I talk trash as well. Every one of us does and he who denies it is a fool. Thanks for responding. DL.
@haisky (64)
• China
13 Apr 08
Truth to be told,i don't really like a girl of talker,of course i'm not a talker either.I don't deny i'm a little headstrong and at some point a little eccentric.Many times i even doubt i have something wrong in my mind! I'm a good listener and patient to others ,this makes me very easy to close to others.But i'm not a pushover .
@dloveli (4368)
• United States
13 Apr 08
As long as you listen to your family and friends like you want to be heard. Fair is fair. COmmunication is an important part of any relationship. The fact that you do take an interest in others, separates you from a pushover. Thanks dl
• United States
13 Apr 08
being a talker is not as bad as someone who jokes around a lot. My personality is just jokin' or messing around all the time. It is really hard for me to be serious. I am not that funny of a person but I think everything is funny. I have always been a person who messed around a lot that is why my parent threw me in home schooling for my last year of high school because I would always mess around at school and never get anything done.
@dloveli (4368)
• United States
13 Apr 08
How are you now. Maybe you're trying to hide something. Have you ever tried just setting time for you, alone? I have a friend like this. He didnt have a great homelife as a child. He was always being compared to siblings. He used humor to set himself apart from the others. What ever the reason, I think the stupidest things are amusing. You are not alone. Imagine that people that can laugh. Life is too complicated sometimes. Humor may save your life one day. As long as your comfortable with you, then so be it. Laughter is much better than tears. dl