Who do you chose: the one who loves you or the one you love?

Philippines
April 13, 2008 10:57am CST
Hi users! I used to write for our newsletter in our church community. Since all are members are single men and women, we see to it that we write articles that talks about God-centered relationships and all. We had this "He says, She Says portion" in it and we came about this interesting question: "Whom do you chose, the one you love or the one who loves you more?" I think it is a fact that not all boy-girl relationships are all mutual in feelings. It happened to a male friend of mine who had a girlfriend that he loved so much but the girl didn't loved him the way he do to her. It was her preference to choose for the latter. She wanted to be more secured than to take the risk for her partner. So the relationship only ended in nothing. I wanna hear your opinion about this whether you are a single person, looking, in a relationship, married or whatever your status is. I'll do my best to impart your sharing to my fellow members. Thank you and God Bless!
5 responses
@pooh08 (671)
• Vietnam
17 Apr 08
Following me, special girl, I'll choose the person who loves me.\ Because when I get married, I'll live with him all my life. If he loves me, he'll do everything I want.
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• China
14 Apr 08
The perfect answer is the one loves me who I love.haha.But in the reality there is less opportunity to realize it. So I choose the one who love me. If someone who does not like me ,I can not deal with her. And I think if she loves me ,with the coping days increasing,I will love her.I donnot believe the love at first look. what about you ?
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
i think experience will be the best teacher to answer that. Thanks for the post!
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
17 Apr 08
I will choose neither. Because this kind of choosing will make the obsession will fall upon me. I will built the love from the scratch, not by pheromone act, not by chemical shock. This is always a deadly relationship to me. The love will be built constantly better when from the scratch, because only Heart is the first one who will recognize the love. And not my eyes, not my ears, not my nose, not my lips, and not my touch. They will, but must passed the Heart permission.
@echosu (152)
• Singapore
13 Apr 08
Of course the one who loves me,may be it is for life and bless the guy who you love.
@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
I wouldn't chose anyone. I believe that any kind of relationship is a give and take. It must be mutual. A love to someone without anything in return will always be ended to nothing. Choosing either of the two means selfishness. How can you love someone and let him stay with you even if he's not happy? How can I be happy and stay in a relationship with someone if I don't feel anything for him? Love is not selfish. It is selfless. That's my opinion. Id rather chose nothing and stay single to wait for somebody who'm I will love and who will love me back in that way I will be happy and the relationship we'll have is not selfish. Im glad I found the man for me and I don't need to chose.