Which guy would you pick?

@abby01 (65)
United States
April 13, 2008 11:37am CST
Guy 1: You were with him for 3 years. He treats you nice and bad most of the time. Guy 2: You've known him for 5 years and been there for you. Respects and understands you. Guy 1 - you have a baby, the reason why you want to stick with him because it makes you feel like it's necessary to be with him. You feel like you're going to need him to help you discipline your child because based on what you've seen from his and your family members, the ones that has a father and a mother grows up with DIRECTION in life and is more disciplined. He would physically hurt you and yell at you even in front of your daughter. The need of help for taking care of your child so you can finish school and give your daughter a better future. He's immature and very irresponsible he can't even support his own self. He would rather smoke his weed and spend all his money on it than to keep it and save money for his child. He lets you work, go to school and take care of your child and all he does is play games and not even work. He gives you 10,000 promises and never do any of them. Guy 2 - you want to be with him, you've been wanting to be with him because he understands you, respects you and always been there for you. He respects all your decision, and will also help you with that decision. He accepts you for who you are and what you are. He loves you and would never even try to put his hands on you. He cared for your child more than her father. Easy to talk to, he doesn't get all crazy when you tell him something that hurted his feelings. He's responsible for himself, for his actions and he can't stand on his own. You can depend on his words. Will promise you that no guy will ever treat you as good as he does. You would do everything for him because you know that he deserves it.
6 responses
• United States
18 Apr 08
Number 2, definitely. Number 1 will only hurt you and your child in the end. But if you aren't 100 percent sure about number 2, maybe you should just be single, because number 2 deserves for you to be just as into him as he is into you. Be sure that if you do choose him that you can give him a real commitment, especially with a child involved.
@abby01 (65)
• United States
18 Apr 08
Yes, I know I thought about that because I know that once I leave Guy 1, I will be on my own it'll just be me and my baby. And I definitely going to be working, schooling and be taking care of my daughter and I have to really give her the attention that she needs and wants from me :)
• India
18 Apr 08
Definetly guy 2, without a doubt! Of course i wud b with some1 who respects me, who loves men my baby, who wud just not make empty promises and is definetely not abusive. Thats the obvious choice n i wud never trade with that, coz a childz future wud defintely b with a non-abusive, stable father.
@abby01 (65)
• United States
18 Apr 08
Well, I already have a decision, it's just that since it happened to I just want what other people would say about it :)
• United States
18 Apr 08
I would go with Guy #2. Ain't no relationship worth getting my a** whooped and disrespected all the time, child or no child. Plus with Guy #1, the relationship itself is not setting a good example for the child and can negatively impact how the child will deal with relationships when he/she is older.
@abby01 (65)
• United States
18 Apr 08
Yep, I explained that to him so many times, that it has a big impact on our daughter whenever she sees us fight. I already gave him way too many chances too?
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
With all the bad traits of Guy 1 and the good characteristics of Guy 2, I'd choose Guy 2. Seems like Guy 1 has a lot of personal problems.
• United States
18 Apr 08
It sounds like guy 2 would be a better father to your child than guy 1. Also you say you want help with your child while you finish school but guy 1 is not helping you and guy 2 sounds like he will. Finally there is never a reason for a man to hit a woman EVER. You should not accept that he hits you. Get away as fast as you can for your own safety and the safety of your child.
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
I would pick guy 2. You want to be with him, he understands you, he cared for your child so that means he really loves and want to be with you also. It doesn't matter what the family members would say if you pick guy 2, what matters is your happiness and your future.