Family's Opinion= Valued, Friends Opinion= Valued Also, Marriage= Priceless
By J_Dawgs
@J_Dawgs (217)
United States
April 14, 2008 4:52am CST
ok so its an odd topic name I know but I had no idea what to put for it lol. Well here goes the big one people. I have been talking more and more these days with family, friends, and well the most important one my girlfriend/fiance about our plans for a possible marriage (no we are not sure when yet). But we have been talking more about it and several things keep coming up and I don't know if they should really be factors on if I should marry her. I mean to me I always told her I came with my problems and I knew that she came with hers and she was always upfront about them and so was I. So we both knew about them and both of our families so it was no surpries to either of us. Well some people have been telling me that those things should be factors in weather I should marry her or not. Do you think that this should be or do you think we should both go by what we think? One reason we have both waited this long is to make sure we were ready and that this is what we wanted. To make sure we werer not rushing into things and such. I am 27 will be 28 in October, she is 24 will be 25 this year in July. We are about to celebrate our FIFTH year of being together next month. I always swore to her i would not make her wait longer than 5 years. At least to find out or SOMETHING lol. Maybe not for a proposal or a ring (as i want it to be a surprise and speicial) but that I would let her know one way or the other. Though I can tell everyone now after 5 years that girl isnt going anywhere lol. She has put more into our relationship and into helping my family than any girlfriend I have ever had or could have had. Anyways, enough with my rambleing. What do you guys think? Those are My Two Cents. Peace Out
~*~J_Dawg~*~
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
14 Apr 08
Well, I kind of have the inside track on this one since I've known the two of you since you met. I also know the problems that you both have to deal with. I don't want to wave your laundry in the air so I'll try to be tactful about this...not my strong point.
You both have certain issues to deal with and you both need to sit down and decide just how much those issues are going to affect you once your married. It's also important that two ppl have things in common...shared interests. After all, unless you plan on spending most of your time apart, you'll be spending it together and what will you do if you have nothing in common?
Hubby and I share alot in common, our views, movies, pc's, animals, things we like and dislike...which is what has helped us stay together for so long even though he is disabled and home all the time.
There are some big issues you need to see how you level up to...kids (have them or not), money, where to settle, ect. These things can make or break a marriage...
No one can tell you to marry or not marry but yes, you do need to look at it and really make up your mind before you do it...the marriages tend to last longer and work out better.
Keep me in the Loop!!
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@J_Dawgs (217)
• United States
14 Apr 08
hehe dont worry ill keep ya in the loop lol just havent had a chance to get to talk to you yet for more than two seconds lol. But yes i know where you are coming from and see your points. I do think we have many things in common and though we do have our downfalls I can say she has always been there for me and done some things for me and my family that no girfriend, friend, or even some family members have even done. Which really means a lot in my book when it comes to a future wifey =). I don't doubt that we will have our bad times but I always look forward to the good times also. I also know we can work on the bad things to make them better. I know you and hubby had things you worked on here and there to a certain point right? I mean nobody is "the perfect couple" and those that think they are need their heads checked lol. Thanks for the reply and talk to you soon. Peace Out
~*~J_Dawgs~*~
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
14 Apr 08
Try calling me once in a while...you know where I live :)
You know Hubby and I have had more than our share of rough patches but hard work and patience have seen us through them and don't underestimate the power of prayer. I know you hit a bad patch with the church but that doesn't mean you have to give up your faith...it'll see you through tough times more than you know.
You know whatever you decide that I'm still there for you and I'll be happy for you no matter what. Just take your time and make sure of what you want before you do it.
I'm surprised to see you up so early LOL
Huggs to you,
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@Stiletto (4579)
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22 Apr 08
I suppose it really depends on what exactly the factors are that keep coming up. Are they big things? Little things? It depends on how important they really are to you and your girlfriend. No matter what others think the only people whose opinion really counts is the both of you. If you've been together five years it would seem these factors weren't going to be an obstacle to having a successful relationship anyway so my instinct would be to say just go for it basically lol!
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