when are u ready to have kids?
April 14, 2008 11:51pm CST
I have been contemplating for awhile about having kids.I am 25 years old and have been married for over 5 yearts now. I love kids but I don't know if I would know how to be a good parent. I know there are tons of books about it but I would like to hear from your own experience. Are you scared? I am scared and excited at the same time.
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16 Apr 08
I don't really know if there's any one way to tell if you're ready or not!! If you have the room in your house and lives, as well as your heart, and the finances to support a child (and a parent who will need to be off work for a period of time), then you're well on your way!! I'm expecting my second child at the moment, and I still have days where I don't think I'm ready for this. But, I am in a loving and supportive relationship, have a wonderful child, and my husband and I both feel that at the moment we want to give it a go. We have the room in our house, our hearts, and our bank accounts. It is scary because its not something you can fail, or want to fail at. When that child is born they need you for everything - every aspect of their life is dependent on you. But at the same time, the minute my daughter was born I felt such love and devotion to her I was not going to let myself fail. There is no instruction manual, no right or wrong way to know if you're ready, and sometimes even to know the right way to deal with your child in different circumstances. But if you and your husband are both in love and devoted, and are on the same page about what you want out of life, there's no reason why this can't work for you.
15 Apr 08
I am 26 years old and I've been married for 1 and a half year. Sometimes I feel am I still young for kids because I want to travel more before I will be committed to kids. On the other hand I wish that I don't have a big generation gap between my kids and I, apart from that having kids at 30 is more difficult than having at your early 20s.
15 Apr 08
Yeah I heard about the myth of having kids after 30 is gonna be difficult. I don't know, i mean courtney cox, halle berry...they all are over 30 and still got a healthy baby. But I am like you, sometimes I'm scared that I won't e able to do the things I like if I have kids.my life will change definitely. For sure I won't be able to travel too much when we get kids, one it is gonna be more expensive, two it is gonna be stressful but I guess it is part of life. We cannot eliminate stress, it would come no matter what, kids or not.