Has it happened to you too?

@trusko (198)
April 15, 2008 12:56pm CST
Have you ever been in a situation, when you just broke up with somebody. Then you go out for a walk, cinema, restaurant or just go out with your friend and you see all the happy couples around you and it makes you miserable. Your friend who is in a happy relationship is telling you all about, what she/he is been up to and all the great things they have done with their partner. On one hand you are happy for them, but the other part of you is wishing it would be you. And then you feel guilty for feeling bit jealous? If so, why is it? When I broke up with my partner for a bit few years ago, I felt exactly like that. It is really interesting that we focus on certain things, when they affect us directly. Another example is, when you are pregnant, suddenly you see every other woman who is pregnant too. I am really interested in psychology, so would like to hear people's opinions ;-)))
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@megaplaza (1441)
• Nigeria
15 Apr 08
yeah, and i felt so bad about that, but what are you going to do, when you dont have a loved one.
@trusko (198)
15 Apr 08
I think it's just normal to feel that way. And I don't think you should feel too bad about it ;-)
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@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
15 Apr 08
I don't have a girlfriend and get that feeling all the time. I used to walk alone at night and see these couples holding hands and say to myself - how wonderfull it is to be in love, if only I could find somebody. I guess its a natural thing. We all need someone and we all need love. Its always better to have it than not to. Thats why when a situation overtakes you its so easy to make a wrong decision. You leave and then wish to hell you didn't. I think you should always try to make it work. Only when its intolerable you should leave.
@trusko (198)
15 Apr 08
Hi there, I am believer to work on a relationship hard and do everything you can to make it work. But that is if you still love the person. If it doesn't work out at least you know you have tried ;-) I hope you will find your Ms Right soon ;-)
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@subha12 (18452)
• India
16 Apr 08
i had never been into any realtionship. still i think i can understand how do you feel. its very natural to feel lonely after you breakup. but still try to be happy in activities that you enjoy.
@trusko (198)
16 Apr 08
Hi Subha, this happened to me few years ago. I am now back with my partner. I have a friend who feels lonely after her divorced. Although she has 2 kids, it can still be very lonely. Recently me and our mutual friend discovered, that if we tell her about our lives (what we have been up to etc) it makes her feel low. Her husband started to act weird and made debts. And now she lives in small flat, paying for his debts and she has to share one bed with her two kids. I just wish i would know how to help her. Unfortunatelly I don't live in my country anymore, so I can't even visit her. i can appreciate how she feels;-)
@katfish86 (146)
15 Apr 08
I felt like that when my ex boyfriend and I broke up. I'm in a relationship now, we don't see each other everyday and I do miss him when I don't see him. On the days I don't see him I normally see loads of couples everywhere and it makes me miss him more.