What should he do?

@aowaow (1516)
Indonesia
April 16, 2008 2:13am CST
Two years ago, she dumped him for irrational reason. She made a relationship with another guy 1 month after the broke up. The girl had a long distance love with new one. My friend had moved on after 1 year being in a single life. Now he had a peaceful relationship for 1 year. They are really loving to each other. These 2 months, the ex is trying to bother the relationship, she is still in the commitment with the guy. Worst, this girl is sending signal through his best friend. And he mentioned, that his best friend is likely helping her to attach the relationship back because his best friend didn't like this new current girl. He asked for my opinion, what do you think I should tell him?
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4 responses
@subha12 (18441)
• India
16 Apr 08
i think your friend needs to be more vocal about this. otherwise he can't just survive peacefully with the ex disturbing so much. it means she may have not been able to forget him or may be too jealous.
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@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
30 Apr 08
I think "unsatisfied and selfish" fits the girl's personality. Maybe she didn't want him owned by others.
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
Well, if your friend is happy and truly in love with his present relationship, I do not see any reason why he should go back to the previous one. Besides, the ex dumped him for irrational reason(s). The ex has been in another relationship and your friend moved on with his life. Let it be. It might be that the ex realized how much love she has for your friend and that's why she is trying to go back into the arms of your friend. That's unfair and selfish! The bestfriend should understand what is really going on. He should not try to fix things up for them. Besides, in the end, what really matters would be your friend's decision and not anybody else's.
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@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
30 Apr 08
Yes, it's a bit complex. But it's okay, he manage to tell his friend that he won't budge from his decision to not ruin his current relationship.
• India
30 Apr 08
I would suggest that he do the following: 1. Determine for himself which girl he really loves and wants -- the first girl or the current girl. 2. Stick to the decision and don't waver (the decision about which girl he wants) 3. If he wants the first girl, explain and apologize to the current girl and start off where the old relationship with the first girl broke off. 4. If he wants current girl, do the following: a. Tell the best friend to mind his own business. b. Tell the first girl to keep off very firmly. c. Inform the current girl about this little problem because it should not create misunderstanding later on. 5. Enjoy his life and stop worrying about small things. I wish your friend all the best with his relationships. Cheers and happy mylotting
@sisco100 (2338)
• United States
16 Apr 08
if hes happy with who he with then i would tell him to tell his ex tht hes not interested in her and tht hes happy with whos he with. if his friend is involve the tht freind should be his friends, friends should be there for their friends no matter wht.
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@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
30 Apr 08
Yes, you're right. A friend should always support him, not by manipulating him.