Judging you by your friends

People believe this saying because it is true. It does not mean that you have all the same things in, but there is some kind of common bond that holds you two together. I do not think that it is a bad thing to be friends with people who are a bad influence. As long as their bad behavior is not a temptation to you. I have a friend who drinks. I did not like it when she drank around me because she would get mean and if I wanted to get away from her, she would get mad about that. Finally, after much arguing, she understood how her drinking was affecting me and agreed not to do it around me. I can still smell it on her from time to time and I will ask her if she has been drinking and she is usually honest and says that she has. As long as she does not start acting crazy, every thing is fine.

A lot of people use to judge me by the people I spent time with, but that all changed when I showed them that I was nothing like them.

They believe that saying because they are still human. Seems to me that you hang around several negative people. People are not to be judged and you know what you are doing or not doing. I used to hang out with this girl who didn't shy away from the boys if you know what I mean, but I wasn't like that at all. Don't worry about what folks say. Just do you!

I think people can certainly judge you by who your best friends are because people tend to stick close to people they feel comfortable with. And usually the people we feel most comfortable with are the people who have the most things in common with us because it takes less effort to better understand one another. I've had my shares of bad experiences by "flocking with the wrong birds" when I was a rebellious teenager. I was close to a girl who was known as the school wh*re and everyone else thought I was the same. My parents never liked my friends from school that time. At first I denied that I was like her, and that I'm friends with her because we understand each other. but then I realized that we understand each other because we were both the same (not at being wh*res but at being rebellious teenagers), and that's not a good thing. And I also slowly realized how big an influence she had on me and my life. In the end we fell apart because I finally found out what kind of person I wanted to be and who I should be around with to be that person. This reminds me of a phrase I heard in a movie which title I can't remember. There was a man saying "You are what you love, Charlie. Not who loves you".

I do have some friends who are sooo different from me,yet we are so close to each other.There're always many ppl wondering why we can be such good friends.But,I think there're something inside us that we all can share with.Maybe the passion for freedom.

Yay...i guess it's because people around us just watch our outer appearance and behavior but they do not know who really we are inside..so..chill out there's no way that they will bother us to downgrade our self-confidence ..just be who you are still inside and outside coz its you not them can be you...nor you can be like them... @jam@ k33p saf3

cool. for me, i would like to have different kinda friend as seiyuh u say, we can learn from them a lot. honestly i prefer have excellent friend because they can effect me and i will improve step by step. i use to have many friend who wont think about their future or think further, at those old days me too, but finaly i discover it is not good for me, but we still keep touch with each other and be friends. i just wanna more excellent friends.

Dear friend, I do had experienced this too, still we cannot find out what the other have in their mind. Even if I do not drink or smoke and if they see me in a party with everyone smoking and drinking that is another instinct of many humans to think me too as one of them. This what I feel when we are in a group only we think we are individual but others consider us too a person in that group.