who is you WORSE CRITIC?

your worse critic - who is your worse critic
@ruthinian (2309)
United States
April 16, 2008 11:16am CST
There is no such thing as "perfect". Yes, the word exist but the truth is... it never happens. No one is perfect, so we always heard. Criticism on the other hand, is there to achieve a certain level of perfection. People either take criticism as negative or constructive. So the way people handle criticism gives them a way to either achieve or evade perfection. Critics are just people. They could be experience people who know what they are saying... or worse pretending to be. Critics could be our own family who are always looking and watching and probing. Or worse... critics could be ourselves. Who then is the worse among them? For me, I am my worse critic. But good thing, I can handle criticism quite well. And I take every crticism as an opportunity for improvement. Although there would be times that I feel bad about it, somehow I find way to see each criticism as constructive. But then, there are some people who cant't handle it well. And criticism, instead of seeing it as an oppportunity for improvement... it became a devastating way to achieve low self-esteem and hopelessness. So how do you handle CRITICISM? WHO IS YOUR WORSE CRITIC? HOW DO YOU HANDLE IT?
2 responses
@clowdine (1402)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
I don't close my doors to criticism although we sometimes don't have a choice whether to accept it or not because it just pops out from anyone's mouth but all I can say is I would be more grateful to a critic who can say the criticism in such a way that I can still feel I am respected by this person. Because there are those who criticize another person who would say their thing to hurt her feelings or to merely iritate her while hiding in the cloak of "constructive purposes". If it's the case I feel it's somehow done with bad intention, I would feel a bit of insult even the person is telling the truth. Somehow, it makes me feel bad everyone does that to me because I know, it could have been said in a better way. For me, the worse critics are those who don't talk to me then all of a sudden they are concerned by criticizing me.
@ruthinian (2309)
• United States
17 Apr 08
I agree with you. It is not what they say but how they say it, as the saying goes. And yes, there are really some people who are mean and always looking for a chance to hurt other people's feeling. These kind of people are more insecure than we are that is why they hide their real self by being a bully. And there are some who are respectful and nice and real in their intentions.
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
My Dad's my biggest critic. I know he means well but sometimes he can just be so brutal and harsh. He'll comment on my hair, clothes, job, etc. It just drives me nuts but I've learned to accept whatever he has to say because I know he's just concern about my welfare.
@ruthinian (2309)
• United States
17 Apr 08
I agree with you. Dad could always be brutal. They say what they think without considering our feelings. Maybe because they know that they have the authority over us. But then, you know deep inside that he loves you. He just doesn't know how to express it the right way. Thanks.