Need Space?
By hersheyskiss
@hersheyskiss (761)
United States
April 16, 2008 2:08pm CST
If you give a man space and stop pressuring him and asking for more time, affection and commitment, will he start to pursue it with you or go elsewhere?
3 responses
@roxanne271 (2034)
• Trinidad And Tobago
16 Apr 08
I guess it depends alot on how much he really does love you. My current boyfriend and I went through this actually. He wasn't making time for me in any way at all because of work and then his family was another issue, but they have come to "accept" that he has a girlfriend and she needs attention too!
Okay, so I literally got fed up cause he couldn't make time to go out with me or time to even call me for a solid five minutes a day! Even when I called he still couldn't make the time to talk to me
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I called him up one day and told him how this was making me feel and he said If I wanted to break up, I still loved him so I said "No..."
After that I started to treat him a bit cold till we ended up out of contact for about a month. During that month he did try to call me and get in contact with me during this period but I was having a rough time with other family issues. For his birthday, I called him up and we got to talking again and we decided to make a "new date." On that day we talked things over and we got back together and so far we have been very happy! He makes time for me to go out and to call me every night.
He said he felt like killing himself when he wasn't getting in contact with me and thought I went to the USA actually. Now, that he has me back he doesn't want to lose me again but I don't take advantage of that. It won't be fair or right.
Point is, I think as the first poster said, set something free and if it is for you it will come back and it depends on how much that person really loved you! Sometimes it's just "life issues" that make it hard for your boyfriend to make time for you.
Good luck!
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I called him up one day and told him how this was making me feel and he said If I wanted to break up, I still loved him so I said "No..."
After that I started to treat him a bit cold till we ended up out of contact for about a month. During that month he did try to call me and get in contact with me during this period but I was having a rough time with other family issues. For his birthday, I called him up and we got to talking again and we decided to make a "new date." On that day we talked things over and we got back together and so far we have been very happy! He makes time for me to go out and to call me every night.
He said he felt like killing himself when he wasn't getting in contact with me and thought I went to the USA actually. Now, that he has me back he doesn't want to lose me again but I don't take advantage of that. It won't be fair or right.
Point is, I think as the first poster said, set something free and if it is for you it will come back and it depends on how much that person really loved you! Sometimes it's just "life issues" that make it hard for your boyfriend to make time for you.
Good luck!1 person likes this
@roxanne271 (2034)
• Trinidad And Tobago
16 Apr 08
Ignore the photo, for some reason it got uploaded into the discussion instead of the interests area...again
@AnimeMom (516)
• United States
16 Apr 08
If you love something set it free and if it comes back it's yours forever! I had to let my boyfriend wander for a bit (now my husband) when we were younger. He came back more than ready to commit! So i had good luck with that situation and would sugest that others do the same! So i say if you let him go he will pursue!
@hersheyskiss (761)
• United States
16 Apr 08
Thanks for the insight...I have heard this before and I feel it is true but sometimes I wonder how true...
