boys tend to close with mother while girls tend to close with father?

Indonesia
April 16, 2008 10:43pm CST
i wonder to know how is your relatioship with your children? is it true that boys more close to their mother than to father? and the girls close to father? cause in my herritage, most of boys more caring and close to their mother rather than to the father and its happened in my family too. me and my sister tend to close with our father than with our mother. if its happened too in your family then what reason actually make this situation happened?
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@nice030481 (1108)
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
i think it depend on how close the parents to their children. some are close to both of them and me im not much close to my father a litle bit close to my mother but very close to my grandmother, yes of course my grandmother raised me until 10 years old.
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@jer31558 (3683)
• United States
17 Apr 08
I have heard this all my life and seen many instances which would support it. Though my boys love to do things with me, I have no doubt they would choose their mama over me. My step daughter told her mama one day that if we ever split up she was going with me. I have also heard the same thing of pets, more specifically dogs in that male dogs would tend to attach themselves to female members of a family whereas female dogs to the male members.
• Indonesia
17 Apr 08
nice to have your sharing in here, dear friend. do you think is there any special factor that make this situation happened in your family?
• United States
18 Apr 08
ur right ur oldest son would take him mama but ur youngest would take his granny and leave both of u in the dust if he could. oh by the way i don't remember telling my mother that. i think that u made that up.
@livewyre (2455)
18 Apr 08
I have a very close bond with my daughter, she is definitely daddy's girl - I love her with all my heart. I have only the one child so I have nothing to compare with, but she is certainly the centre of my life. I am not sure why this happens, but the beauty of a relationship with the 'opposite' parent is that there is never any rivalry. I am sure there is more to it than that, but I can't explain it...
• Indonesia
19 Apr 08
i understand about this thing too dear friend. although i have not yet any baby in oour marriage but in my past, i closer to my father than to my mom. thanks for sharing with me in here
17 Apr 08
I think the theory is quite accurate as when my childrens father lived with us our daughter was a lot closer to him than our son, now he only see's them at the weekend and when he comes over our daughter is all daddy while our son is all me, but they are both mummies babies when it comes to staying out without me lol
• Indonesia
17 Apr 08
hehehe, yeah, you are right dear. many thanks for sharing your experience about this matter
@rhane7315 (5670)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
my father and i were close to each other because we share the same interest and i can say that my mother and our eldest brother were also close to each other. my mother and i doesn't share the same interest and if we go shopping or do some groceries, we usually end up arguing about something
@ElicBxn (61078)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I don't have children, but I was closer to my mom. In fact, I think we all were and really neither parent was/is particullarly demonstrative. I'm guessing its because mom was home and dad worked while we were kids. Tho dad came home and read to us every night when I was little.
@ellie333 (21018)
18 Apr 08
Mummy's boys, daddy's girls, I think it has always been this way. Fathers tend to be more protective over their daughters too. I am close to both my parents but only as I have grown older, my brother was my mums definate favourite as a child. I myself have two daughters who I am very close to but it is their fathers love and praise they look for the most. I alos have a small son and he is in fact that much loving towards me than they ever were when they were young. Don't know why but it does seem to be this way in most instances. Ellie :D
• United States
18 Apr 08
my oldest son is closer to me than his daddy but my youngest son will take his daddy over me any day. when he is sick he will asked me to call his daddy and tell him he needs to get off work b/c he needs him b/c he is sick.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
18 Apr 08
Well yeah even i too wonder about this, We are two brothers and both or us are close to my mother rather than to my dad. Even my dad asks the same question , why are you both close to you mom and why dont u show that caring or share things with me. But we could do nothing about that. Reason for this is that may be dads show mistakes in a guy coz they were guys once and they know how a guy should be growing. They can find out how a guy behaves, reacts and so on. As usual no one will tend to be soo open with dads when they pinpoint each and every mistake. But there are some exceptions also , i have freinds who are very close to their dad rather than to their mom.
@julyteen (13257)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Apr 08
that's the reality. boys are close to their mother and girls close to their father. I can proved that one, it is really true. i am more close to my mother than to my father. my mother and I have laughing session anytime unlike my father he is very serious we did laughed quite sometimes.
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
Perhaps it has something to do with the Oedipus complex and the Electra complex (Freud - psychology). However, I think it depends upon the topic too. I mean there are things that I can only share with my father and there are things that I can only tell my mother. In general though, I think of my mother as my best friend whereas I think of my father as my idol. I'm close with them while I'm distant from them at the same time.
@Darkwing (21588)
18 Apr 08
I definitely think boys are more loving towards their mother, and they seem to be more home loving as well. I think girls are more difficult to handle when they grow up although my granddaughters always hug me. I guess that's a different relationship to mother/daughter though. I know that my daughter-in-law had a lot of problems with her eldest daughter when she was between the ages of fourteen and sixteen. She's still never home now, but she's a little less rebellious. As for girls and their father... yes, I think they're closer to their father because their father gives in to them where their mother wouldn't! Brightest Blessings.
@banunche (259)
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
they are many factors that affects to the relationship between parents and children. child being close to one or another depends on the situation where the child grow up. i mean, if the child stay most of the time with the mother. then the child will be much closer to her. this is can be seen whenever the father goes out for work. =)
@mnsrwt123 (2058)
• India
18 Apr 08
yeah, I also close to my mother and thats just because my Dad isn't at home a lots of time,just because of my Dad's busy shedule so maybe the reason is only this nothing else... Have Fun!!!
@icon_001 (586)
• India
18 Apr 08
Yes;I too feel the same . I think this is because of something in our Genes that causes this .
@reejane (294)
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
Hmmm.. it happens that dads are closer to their daughters. Same thing with sons being close to moms. Based on my observation in our family, moms tend to be much strict towards their daughters, same goes with dads with their sons. The kids then tend to approach the opposite parent for comfort. For them, the opposite parent becomes their ally :) That's the main reason that sons are much closer to moms and daughters closer to dads.
@podqueen (344)
17 Apr 08
I think in general girls are closer to their fathers and boys closer to their mums and it's probably due to the nature of our sexes and animal instincts. Females feel protected by the males and the males feel that they have to protect the females. Of course, this is not always the case as circumstances and environmental influences also plays a role. In my case I'm closer to my mum than my father as I felt he didn't provide for my mum as he should have.
• United States
17 Apr 08
my first son is closer to me and our second son is closer to his dad
• India
17 Apr 08
i don't think so i am more close to my father than my mother.i believe in most of the cases it must be true but in my case it's different.my father love me like anthing else in this world .i am proud of my father and place him above god.he's the one who helped when i am wrong also.i love him alot but my love is not at all comparison to his faith and trust to me.
@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
17 Apr 08
That's what I have observed to some of my friend's family. They didn't do it with plan or intentions but its just happened when I asked them about it!Maybe because father is more strict to their son for they want them to grow up very responsible and for girls side, father tend to be more supportive in everything they are doing! Just my opinion!