Is it bad to think of being independent???
@vishalshah852004 (80)
India
April 17, 2008 1:04am CST
Hi everyone!!! I am in a business with my father. I am relatively new to our business(only from 5 months). So papa takes all the major decisions here. Earlier I have worked for nearly 4 months in an MNC. There I was earning nearly 11 thousand bucks a month. Now, the problem is here when I need money I have to ask from my father everytime. For bike petrol,, for going to movies,, for dinner with friends etc.. The problem is I was independent earlier and now I am dependent on him. I do not like it at all. Yesterday I asked him to put 5000 bucks in my bank account every month.. He did not allow me and taunted me that am I working at our firm that I am asking for salary???!!! I really felt very bad.. I mean I am not asking for salary or stuff I am asking to put money in my bank a/c only for I don't have to ask everytime from him... What should I do now???
5 responses
@joimarquez (1836)
• United States
5 May 08
i think its actually specially for filipinos...being independently helps you develop responsibly
@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
17 Apr 08
It is not at all bad. Yes, I feel what you feel and I have been through it too. I worked hard but I am working for a family business and it pains me that at the end of the day, I always just still under my parents roof.
I did a major decision and talk to my parents about it. That is giving me a time to earn for my own. I became independent. They were furious at first but I learned the value of taking charge of my life and becoming the captain of my decisions.
In one point in our lives, we have to learn to manage it not under the roof but to live with what we can be possible of. I still have challenges and I meet one everyday but it inspires me to learn more strategies and be better and to work harder.
Good luck to you and hope to hear more from you..
It's just how I see it.. smiles! 
@hey_baby (425)
• Philippines
17 Apr 08
personally, i think that even if yours is a family owned business, both you and your dad and anybody your for the business for that matter, should get salaries.
maybe you can talk to him nicely and seriously about this. you can tell him you need working salary/allowance so you won't bug him for money every now and then. but assure him you'll be a responsible person towards your work
and if he gives in, maybe you can ask for a raise later. hehehe
goodluck.
@milanjain (47)
• India
17 Apr 08
if i have been in your place.i didn't leave the job.instead i give some money to my father from my earnings.i think you should leave your father's business and work independently
@ankilla (325)
• India
17 Apr 08
Why you have left you job is the main concern, Is your father insisted or with your wish.
You should have a meeting with your family and discuss regarding your earnings. Even if we are working for our own firm we need money.
Either you leave your own firm and join in any other company and again be independent
or
Discuss with your family members and clean it off.
All the best
