Our Two Year Wedding Anniversary Is On Monday, YaaaaaY!

Together Forever... - An older married couple's hands and wedding rings...
Australia
April 17, 2008 10:40am CST
So, it's been a long year and we have some stresses, such as my mother's health problems, which then resulted in mine and some drama with his side of the family but the hubby and I are still as close as ever and we have really stuck by each other through the bad, as well as the good. I can honestly say that he is my best friend, who I can talk to about anything. We get along so great as well, well, when we are not arguing over his family that is . Seriously though, he really is my life and he tells me that I am his. He is more than I could have ever asked for and I'm truly blessed to have met and married him. Monday we will be spending the day in Louisville, touring museums and then later that night we will go out for a nice romantic dinner. Also, during the day at some point we will be going to the mall and splitting up, so that we can shop for our anniversary gifts. I think it's going to be a great day! However, my question to those who have been married for years, what's your advice for a long, happy and healthy marriage?
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14 responses
• United States
18 Apr 08
First off, congrad's. I do not have any real advice though. I'm divorced, so maybe I can help with not what to do. Mine totally went wrong after, I stopped giving complements to my better half. I stopped paying attention to the things that she liked to do. Our life became...."just another day". I made it for six years. It just got worse. Maybe if you can keep it interesting, have fun, show appreciation, cuddle, give it up a-lot. That will help. My ex-wife cheated on me. I look back at it and I feel that I did not give it to her enough. The most important thing is to me, Is to enjoy one-anothers company. It is very good that you are best friends. That is where most go wrong. They do not get to know each other. Family....You just have to live with them. Hopefully not under the same roof! From what I read, you should not have any problem with your relationship. Just remember life has it's ups and downs.Just stay open, make him feel like he means the world to you( which you problably do).
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• Australia
18 Apr 08
Wow, you gave the best advice yet and you just earned yourself the best responce. I just have to say that you seem to have learned from where you went wrong and you can take that over to any future relationships that you may have. And to give you some hope that you can find someone again, who will treat you as you are meant to be treated, I will tell you some of my story. I was married before for almost three years, to a man who mentally, physically and emotionally abused me. It took me a while to trust again but then I met the man I'm married to now and he is an awesome husband who loves me unconditionally and who, like I said, is my best friend. It will happen for you too. You just have to be patient and recognize the warning signs in those you're dating. I wish you the best and thanks for the most sound advice yet! There should be more men like you and my hubby out there
• United States
18 Apr 08
Thank you very much for the response. I do have a woman in my life. She means the world to me. Even though I'm a man. We all have our faults. I enjoy showing her ,telling her what she means to me! I also have a blog that I find nice stuff on the net and put it there. Just to express my feelings for her. She does not know it is there yet. I want to have it there for a while before I tell/show her. I am looking for some feedback though on how it is. Anyone who sees this I would appreciate it very much. I just need some lady's response to it. Is it o.k? http//76highlander-mywoman.blogspot.com.
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• Australia
19 Apr 08
OHHH, that is so sweet! Please, talk to my husband because while he is an awesome husband, he could stand to be a tad bit more romantic at times . I will definitely check it out and give you feedback. That's so sweet and your girlfriend is very fortunate to have you. I'm sure just knowing the fact that you did that for her, she will be so greatful and appreciative of it. Man, your ex was foolish to let you go, oh well, her loss!
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
17 Apr 08
I have been married for twenty nine years and I am telling you this because you have asked the last question. My advice for a long and healthy marriage is to be straightforward and honest with your husband , never manipulate, and never play games. it is better to get into a straight fight and then patch up later than manipulate and get things your way if you want something. Suit your needs to fit his desires and budget and never make any demands on him.If he makes demands that you think are beyond you , tell him straight. Never ask someone else to talk to him on your behalf, however trivial the issue may be. Try and be united in your fundamental beliefs and upbringing of children.Never, present diverse view points to children [when they demand something] Be fair to each other--do not expect your partner to show the same affection you show towards your parents[however good you may be to his] If he does as well as he can and has certain limitations [regarding the way he conducts himself]learn to accept him as he is. If he cannot meet all your expectations , remember that you also cannot meet all his. Realization in this area would take us a long way. Being fair to your spouse and honest at all times [even if it were to be against your own mother] are according to me the surest ingredients for success.
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@kalav56 (11497)
• India
17 Apr 08
Like how trust begets trustworthiness , honesty and simplicity would beget the same. Complain less, and learn to be happy. He would adore you. Marriage is a very big'give and take' and sometimes there may not be total equality in this. As long as there is reasonable fairness and awareness that the institution of marriage is sacred and here to last , it would succeed.
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@kalav56 (11497)
• India
17 Apr 08
A very very Happy Anniversary and have a great day ! Make it a point to take leave on your anniversary every year and spend the day going out and enjoying yourself.
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• Australia
17 Apr 08
Thanks so much for your sound advice, I really do appreciate it!
@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
17 Apr 08
wow! Congratulations Sassy...and enjoy your anniversary! I am still fresh in this life but I love this topic and I will be checking here for the wonderful sharing from members who were together for many many years! Its exciting and fulfilling indeed to have a wonderful husband and best friend at the same time!
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• Australia
17 Apr 08
Yes, it really is and he is certainly that and more to me. Thanks so much for your lovely responce!
• United States
17 Apr 08
Your welcome Sassy....Have a great day!
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• Australia
17 Apr 08
Thanks, you too!
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
Hi sassyKittyKat! Wow, Congratulations dear! Happy 2nd Wedding Anniversary! I really wish you more love and a happy life together for a long, long time until forever. just remember that both of you should always keep the communication open and always respect each other in whatever decisions both of you have decided together or on your own. Support each other and always try to understand each other's feelings. Take care and have a nice day!
• Australia
19 Apr 08
Thanks so much! That sounds like very sound advice and I will definitely listen to it. Thanks again!
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
You're most welcome dear SassyKittyKat!
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@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
18 Apr 08
Congrats on the two year mark coming up. My husband and our four year is coming up in July and i'll tell you....what keeps us alive and in love are the little things we do. i stay at home with our daughter, so i make sure to get up before he does so that i can have him a little note on the bathroom mirror or sitting under his keys telling him to have a good day and that i'll be thinking about him and missing him while he's gone. we take long walks and just talk and he brings me flowers every now and then. we flirt on the phone while he's gone, which makes the anticipation of him coming home even more fun. it doesn't have to be extravagant to keep the loving going and growing stronger every day. little things that you do actually mean so much more to them instead of the big things. good luck and God bless
• Australia
18 Apr 08
Awww that's really sweat! My husband and I do that too. If he calls me from work we will flirt on the phone as well. It definitely makes things interesting. Happy Anniversary! I know it's a little early but I probably won't get to tell you later, so, I will say it now...
• United States
18 Apr 08
thank you and to you as well! God bless
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@julyteen (13257)
• Davao, Philippines
19 Apr 08
wow! what a nice experience you have my friend. although i am not yet married but i know some points being a couple and the relationship stay long until the end of time. i know you are very aware of the book "The Secret of Family Happiness" you can apply all aspiring words being written. advance Happy anniversary to you and your hubby.
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• Australia
19 Apr 08
Oh, yes, definitely! I love that book and it has such great advice from the creator of marriage. Thanks!
@cindy003 (21)
• China
18 Apr 08
I am still a student now.So I can't give you some advices.But I am so happy for you!Enjoy!!!!
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• Australia
18 Apr 08
Thanks!
@athinapie (1151)
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
wow! congratulations! i'm very happy for you and your husband. i'm not yet married since i'm only 18 years old but i do have a boyfriend right now. i don't know if it's applicable but good communication is a key component to a successful relationship. don't stop talking about even the most random stuff. because it really helps the relationship last. and you learn new things about each other in the process. hope i helped you. =)
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• Australia
18 Apr 08
Thanks, I really appreciate that!
@aconner (219)
• United States
18 Apr 08
First of all Congrats to you and your hubby! I have been married for 2 years in May and it has been an up hill struggle. I am always looking for ways to help us grow closer together and bond more than we are. I love my husband with all my heart and I know he loves me as well. I'm in search for the "secrets" to a long lasting marriage as well. In the past 6 months we have both really worked at our marriage and put forth a lot more effort this time and the results are showing but we still have a long way to go. The journey is life long, I know. Always work at building the relationship strong and never give up. Communicate and treat each other like there is no tomorrow. And always remember that the small things do count! Once again congrats and I wish you many great years to come.
• Australia
18 Apr 08
Thanks, I really appreciate it!
@se7enthbird (8324)
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
that is so nice to hear sassy. may your married lied be showered with a lot of blessing love and understanding. i am married for five years now and the only thing i can advice is to have an open and a good communication with your partner. this is a life time relationship might as well talk about it. me and my wife talk about anything and everything. we dont sleep until we dont settle something with a smile. of course we have different views and styles but we respect that. we are pair but we both love our individuality. goodluck with you and your partner
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• Australia
18 Apr 08
Thanks so much, I really appreciate the advice!
@bond0077 (375)
18 Apr 08
My advice to you would have to be in many parts to be realistic,i don't know why some men are only good in the chase,but often fall short in the capture!my attitude to my wife is the same as when i was courting her,i consider our relation one long courtship,i am not one of those husbands who think ahh i got her now so no longer need to impress,or bring home roses,or simply take it for granted we'll always be together!this kind of thinking is toxic to a relationship,because then the female in the relationship will start feeling less attractive and will start looking it!by gaining weight,stop gettingher nails and hair done etc etc..and the same with the women in a relation as well!if you think aaah i got my man now,i own him therefore why stay fit,why go through all that body mainteniance and even if i gain weight he is my husband where can he go?believe me your marriage life is numbered!simply because even if you don't know it the competition is still out there and quite ready willing and able ,if you know what i mean?but i mean you also have to know when to give him his space and when to reel him back in ok?
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• Australia
18 Apr 08
Thanks for the advice and I know you're probably right but I think your view is a little distorted as far as the ending goes but I think I know what your getting at and I think I have falling into myself a bit. I used to be more conscience of having my nails done and things like that but honestly, my husband is not like that. He prefers me without makeup and if I gain a little weight, he tells me all the time that I'm beautiful no matter what. It's really what's on the inside that makes people love you for who you are. The outside is just a shell. Man, suddenly I'm thinking of that line from Liar Liar "that's only something ugly people say." Of course, he was a jerk when he said that but whatever....
@vera5d (4006)
• United States
17 Apr 08
Congratulations! You have made it longer than half of my friends!! I think for some people it helps to marry the right person and know that things aren't always going to be easy, but that you will work it out. A sense of humor and being giving help too!
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• Australia
17 Apr 08
yes, I agree and I definitely agree that a sense of humor definitely helps. Thankfully, my husband has a great sense of humor. He keeps me sane lol. Thanks so much!
@FiveZhuo (156)
• China
17 Apr 08
Congratulation!it's special day.enjoying your moment and wishing happiness forever.:)
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• Australia
17 Apr 08
Thanks, I really appreciate it!
@ruthinian (2311)
• United States
17 Apr 08
Oh Congratulations my friend. I am happy for you. I hope that your special day will be just that... SPECIAL. I also pray that someday, your dream of having a baby will come true. May you have more anniversaries to celebrate. Take care and have fun.
• Australia
17 Apr 08
Thanks so much! How is your pregnancy coming along? Great I hope! How do you like being pregnant? Is it very hard? LOL...