Do you feel kids need preschool outside the home?

United States
April 17, 2008 4:43pm CST
Do you feel kids need to have preschool outside the home to excel in elementary school? My youngest has been in a 3 year old program outside the home 2 mornings a week for this past school year, but due to finances will have to stay home next year. I plan to teach her preschool using a variety of curriculum books I already have. My only concern is the structure that they have at preschool and her age (she will turn 5 yrs 2 days before school starts therefore being youngest in her class). Just a note: I have an 8 year old top of her class in 2nd grade who didn't go to preschool for 4 yr olds and a son is doing excellent in Kindergarten with 3 yr old and PreK classes. Tell me how you have or would handle this. Thanks!
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@creationhub (3070)
• Malaysia
25 Jan 09
I am in the opinion that preschool does help tremendously. A child would get to be more friendly and responsive when meeting others. At the same time, it tunes a child's mindset of going to school and what to expect.
• United States
17 May 08
Well that really depends. For instance, my son at the age og 3 did not know his shapes and colors, could not count, and needed speech therapy asap. So it was crucial that he go to headstart (pre-preschool). Not to mention he pays more attention and learns better with an actual teacher than he did with me teaching him at home. But every child is different. I know many kids who went to preschool and was average and above in school and many who were a little behind. My son is now finishing the fisrt grade and needs to repeat it again and he has been in school for since he was 3.
@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
18 Apr 08
None of my kids went to preschool and they are all excellent students. Well, my oldest went for a month when he was 4 but didn't like it so I didn't force him. As long as your children are getting social skills from somewhere and they are learning at home; I don't think you will have any problems. I doubt my youngest will be going to preschool either. We are thinking about homeschooling her so she may not go to school at all.
• United States
18 Apr 08
I think she will be just fine. Personally, I feel that preschool is nothing more than a way to socially acclimate children & a source of daycare for working parents.
• Canada
18 Apr 08
My kids (2 1/2 and 5 months) have not had to go to any preschool classes yet...And I'd like to keep it that way. When I first thought about going back to work, we went to a few to check them out and the environment bothered me. Inevitably in each class there was one child sitting alone with no teacher or other kid paying attention to them. My mom looks after my two when I'm at work and I know she won't be able to do this forever, so I know eventually they will have to go into some sort of preschool. But while I have the chance to keep them out, I'm going to try my hardest.
@dnbuster (442)
• United States
18 Apr 08
My kids didnt go to pre school and just started in kinder., they are all doing fine, just teach them the basics and they will be fine:) hugs- DN
@hairypits (294)
18 Apr 08
I currently send my children (who are 1 and 2) to registered childminding mother and daughter team for two half days per week. They previously ran a preschool so are used to the structure and curriculum. The kids benefit massively from going there in my opinion. They are learning to interact with other children, they do activities that they wouldn't necessarily do at home and they are encouraged with everything they do which i can only do to a certain extent at home. They have really good self esteem and confidence since starting there. I fully intend to start them at preschool as they turn 3 - and already my 2 year old is really excited about the prospect. Equally I think if you can still attend playgroups and have your little one interact with other kids the same age, whether you follow the curriculum books or not, I'm sure she would be fine. There are advantages but no real disadvantages to either side of this. You sound like a real dedicated parent x
• China
18 Apr 08
I think that children could have the excellent behave the same as the ones in preschool outside home. Children always depend on their parents. When they first leave home and can't see their parents, they will cry. After practice, they will like the life in school and even don't want to go home. If we can temper the kids to do things themselves and let them have the concept in their minds, I believe that they could do as good as they do in school far from home.
• United States
18 Apr 08
Necessary? No, otherwise states would have laws saying that kids need to go to PreK or their parents can get into trouble. Is PreK exceptionally beneficial? Of course. When children are in a PreK environment, they get a chance to socialize with other children. And, teachers are trained to plan learning activities that children can do to begin to learn the basic concepts needed to succeed in Kindergarten. Teachers also spend their time assessing the children to see where they are developmentally and can determine whether or not the child has a defecit that needs to be worked on, whether it is fine motor, speech, gross motor, etc. Can parents move their children ahead developmentally? Yes. But is it always the right environment for that child? Not always. Some parents just have very unorthodox ways of doing things. Ways that aren't structured enough for the child to learn and progress. Like worksheets. Trying to teach children, especially at the PreK level things through worksheets is not how young children learn. Not to mention some parents try teaching their concepts far beyond what their child can comprehend at their age and the child gets frustrated and doesn't want to learn anymore. Sorry that's long winded. I've been working in preschool settings for several years now and I'm a strong advocate for a center that is certified by the National Association for the Education of Young Children because those centers are the best centers meant for children to learn.
@ladysakurax (1163)
• Canada
17 Apr 08
I didn't have preschool and I don't think I would need it if i was back to small lol. When i was in kindergarden, I did great but i had a hard time with poems. I needed my mom to give me guidance throughout the elementary school. She helped me with basic things but I had to work on my on when i got to ask the teacher if i had problems with the homework. if your children have difficulty during highschool then maybe you should have them get extra class like kumon or sullivan.
@k1tten (2320)
• United States
17 Apr 08
I've seen children excell in preschool. Some children do well without it but I'm all for preschool. My mother's worked in it, my partner's in school to become a preschool teacher, and I have a feeling I'll be working with them soon, and we've seen only good things come from preschools. Not only do they provide socialization for the child but with the right preschool or even teacher in the preschool they can go futher with basic skills as writing and speaking properly. Preschool is also where they catch many small problems with the child. Like speech problems, hearing problems, or physical problems. Many times they can catch mental problems before they become worse. So heck, I'm all for it.
@Rachel322 (115)
• United States
17 Apr 08
I don't think preschool is necessary at all. I've done all my sons preschool schooling at home. And he's right on track, if not a little ahead of those kids in preschool. He will also be the youngest in his class turning 5 a few weeks before school starts. Neither me or any of my sibling went to preschool and we all did good in school.
• United States
17 Apr 08
Preschool to my knowledge is more to get kids who either need help with developing social skills and perhaps in talking skills. It is a tool to help them be ready for kindergarten by learning colors, and writing their name. If you chose to keep your child home then they may lose out on the social skills and the transition into school may be a little harder.
@magrylouyu (1629)
• United States
17 Apr 08
I never believed my children needed preschool. When I moved to NH I became really good friends with my husbands friend wife. She told me about headstart and that it doesnt cost anything. My children enjoy being around the other children. I dont believe that it is a nessisty for children I believe they should go to get better sharing skills and playing with other children. It also teaches them more songs and how to do different things. I recommend it. My stepson who will be in Kindergarden next year, my 4 year old daughter will be in another year of preschool and my youngest 3 will be in preschool next year.
• United States
17 Apr 08
I do not believe it is necessary, but I do believe it helps with social growth and development,especially for a only child that may have not had the interaction of other children their own age. It also helps with maturity and getting them ready for structured school. i do not think it is of harm if a child does not receive it either. I think we all try and preschool at home, at least I did with both my children and now my grand children.
@nowment (1758)
• United States
17 Apr 08
I do not think preschool is necessary for educational reasons, especially if parent is going to work with the child. However it is a great idea for socialization skills. My aunt is a kindergarten teacher has been for dang near 40 years. Overall she felt that the kids who were ready were not always kids coming from nursery or preschool, but rather the ones who had people interact and work with them either prek or parental for learning basics ie ABC, And those who would get along best in school were those who would have spent time interacting with others, either due to being around other children, or because they are around someone other than just one single person ie family large, or large circle of friends. So it is individual to match what is best to what aspects in your case you do have other children in your home, so it is possible that your youngest is going to want to follow her siblings and that helps.