Would you give someone bad news by sending them a text message?

@ruby222 (4847)
April 18, 2008 6:39am CST
If you had something that you were worried about telling a certain person...would you send them a text instead???
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8 responses
@kiran1978 (4134)
• Australia
18 Apr 08
No I think if it really is bad news, you need to speak to the person face to face not via a text message. If it was really serious you would want to be there to comfort them.
@ruby222 (4847)
18 Apr 08
Yes i agree with you Kiran.....you need that face to face bit to make things seem better....and as you say...if the news is going to be upsetting ..you would be there to offer support...
@musicfen (31)
• Romania
18 Apr 08
I think you should have been more specific about the relationshipt to the person who is to receive the bad news. For instant ,if I think of giving bad news to my best friend ,or my family or even a nice aquintance of course I would never do that by sending a messaje , but rather face to face so I could sustain and give them courage . But if I think of my boss ,or my bad-mannered neighbor , or even of a cold colleague (that obviously doesn't like me )I would rather write them :)))
@ruby222 (4847)
18 Apr 08
Thats a good point that you have made.....a very good point.... A very dear friend or relative no way could ever recieve bad news via a text message.... But then again should we send bad news to anyone via text??
@laglen (19759)
• United States
29 Apr 08
Hell no! That would be awful.
@ruby222 (4847)
30 Apr 08
True...so very true
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
18 Apr 08
definitely not, that seems to be the chicken's way out these days. i have heard of people being dumped from a relationship this way, people asking for a divorce this way and even people being fired this way...what is this world coming to?
@ruby222 (4847)
18 Apr 08
The general consensus of opinion seems to be the same...if it were bad news it needs to be faced...head on.....which in reality ..yes..its the best way...thankyou.
@gemini_rose (16264)
18 Apr 08
That is a tough question for me, simply because I do everything by text and I am useless at putting things into words face to face!! I guess it would depend on what the bad news was, if it was really bad news then I would probably phone them, if it was bad, but not that bad it could well be a text.
@ruby222 (4847)
18 Apr 08
I text Rose...but not an awful lot..i forget to switch my phone on more often than not!!!...but i think that i probably would have to do a face to face if it were bad news...or if the news were to be dire...at least send hubby instead!!!
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
I think sending text message would not be appropriate if you will deliver a bad news- but I also think that this would be a case to case basis. We can exercise our judgment in all its sense. Like if the news is not really that sensitive, it will be fine, but if it needs a little more explanation, i think face to face communication or a call will do. Sending on overly sensitive text message (bad news) is not a nice thing to do. It is important that we become sensitive enough for the feeling of the receiver especially if it is too personal for them. or if it really pertains them.
@ruby222 (4847)
18 Apr 08
Hi Jan...I think that you have summed it up well there....the case being judged by its importance....and yes if it wwere a really serious matter..then a meeting would be needed....thankyou for your comments
@Nykkee (2522)
• Canada
18 Apr 08
Yes. Yes I would. I have in fact. When I used to live alone and I couldn't always make rent I would ususally send a text message when I needed to tell my landlord that he could not cash my rent cheque on the 1st of the month.
@ruby222 (4847)
18 Apr 08
Well in a way i suppose that was better that he knew that anyway....and im sure he probably didnt mind too much...at least he then knew you were going to pay the rent"!!!
@MichaelJay (1100)
18 Apr 08
Absolutly not. If it was a person I cared about I would have far more respect for them than to insult them with a text message. I might well send a text saying I wanted to arrange a meeting if that was convenient. If you have something impoortant to say to a person you care about it should be done face to face. If there were two things in the worlkd that should be disinvented it would be the mobile phone and the atom bomb, in that order!
@ruby222 (4847)
18 Apr 08
Good for you Michael...im pleased to hear that....it woul seem really cowardly to send a text.....yes i agree arrange a meeting and say whatever you have to say ..but face to face ..thankyou.