Ameican woman.. get away from me..!!!!!!!!!

@goergineo (1498)
Jordan
April 18, 2008 12:10pm CST
two days ago I met a girl at the mall and we had little chat and i really enjoyed it. she was really nice. so, we decided to meet each other in the same place after a week and she asked for my number to remind me. I gave it to her. well, till now she made 3 calls asking about how i am doing. and the last one to remind me that we are gonna meet at the mall. okay, I am afraid it is really pushy. it was nice before all of that calls. now, it seems like commitment. well, there are still five days to see each other at the mall. I do not know, should I meet her or run away. have you been in such situations.
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7 responses
@teison2 (5923)
• Norway
18 Apr 08
If you think three calls is a huge amount and constitutes a comittment I do not think you should give your phone number to anyone. you are clearly not ready for that step. You should not meet her, as you are clearly not interested in a friendship or anything else.
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@Remando (176)
18 Apr 08
I couldn't agree more with teison2. All she is doing is being organised, and obviously she thinks a lot of you to be that interested in a meeting. The girl isn't proposing, is she?!
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
19 Apr 08
I will take Remando side. I think she is a little pushy and I really do not like it. i mean come on three calls in two days. I barely know her. thank you both for sharing and have a good time.
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@teison2 (5923)
• Norway
19 Apr 08
Three calls in two days is not pushy at all around here. She is just showing an interest in you. That is how one makes new friends. One workes at it. have a good day
@kilani123 (865)
• United Arab Emirates
18 Apr 08
do not answer her calls and I think she would understand.
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@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
19 Apr 08
yes that is probably what i am gonna do. thanks for sharing and have a good time.
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@Darkwing (21586)
18 Apr 08
It sounds to me that this person is lonely and needs a friend. You happened along. Here's what I would do in your situation. I would meet her at the mall as planned, and perhaps go for coffee. Then, during the chat, I would just ask her gently, if she minded you pointing out something to her that's bugging you. Given license, then proceed to tell her that as much as you enjoy her company, you have commitments and quite a heavy schedule, so would she mind too much, not calling you unless there was something important she wanted to say. Tell her you'll meet her from time to time, schedule permitting, and you will ring her when you have a free moment. Be gentle... I think she's clinging on to you as a welcoming light in the dark, my friend. Besides, you can't run away... she has your phone number!!! I hope this helps and that you can manage to sort things out. Brightest Blessings.
@Sonadora (356)
• United States
18 Apr 08
I have to say that I like this response the best. Just be honest with her up front. I would still meet her as planned because you never know what could happen. And who knows, maybe she could be the friend you need.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
19 Apr 08
yes Darkwing is hitting the point in a wise fashoin. I really like it. thanks too much for your replay and have a good time.
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@Darkwing (21586)
19 Apr 08
Thank you my friend, for BR, and I hope all goes well for you. Take care. x
@popciclecold (14116)
• United States
19 Apr 08
Hello goergineo, I just want to say that I don't know how old you are, but if you are young, this is the way it is theses days. Grant it, it shocks me. I work around a lot of young people an am blown away, by their boldness, and relationships becoming initimate in less than a month. Sometimes they come to me for advice, because I'm older, but they don't listen, like they know it all, and you come from another world. All I can say that if this is making you uncomfortable you need to say so now, because it will onlt get worse. popcioclecold
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
19 Apr 08
I am 25 years old. well I do not hate the girl at all. what i am saying is " there is no need to rush". Let the time tells it all.
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@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
19 Apr 08
I wish you understand me cause I feel you are full of experience
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• United States
19 Apr 08
goergineo, I just want to say you mentioned American woman, where are you from. This has a lot to do with it. I was raised in CA, and moved to MS to raise our children, and believe me it makes a difference. I had so much to adapt to, and learn from my new environment. People are so different from other places even right in the U.S. Being 25 is a tough age, because I see so much no nonsense hurt. Talk with her, and listen when you meet she may have a reason for being a bit pushy. My oldest son moved bac to CA, and ran into the same situation. He said she kept asking when thigs were going to go to a new level. Well would you just know it, he married her, and they have 2 kids. One 18, and 16. Remember listen. popciclecold
• United States
18 Apr 08
I have not been in any situations like that. But I would tell you not to answer her calls until you mmet her. It does seem like it's a little bit pushy. But you should just let some of her calls go unanswered and then meet up with her so you could get to know her better.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
19 Apr 08
i am more biased not to answer her calls at all. and just let it go. what do you think?
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• United States
19 Apr 08
Yeah I think you should.
@MGjhaud (21956)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
Yes I guess I've been into this kind of situation before. The guy has my number already though before we met. After the very first time he saw me, he kept on texting and calling asking when are we going to see each other. I mean, I have nothing against of meeting again but don't remind me everyday because you're like sucking me. I never met him again actually. I decided not to anymore though after my decision we still talk for a couple of days then slowly I slipped.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
19 Apr 08
that is really a good technique and causes no hurt. I think I should follow it. thanks dear. you post is so useful. thanks again
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@sedel1027 (17850)
• United States
18 Apr 08
You should tell her the truth about how you really feel.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
19 Apr 08
I do not know. i may open the door on myself. I would prefer not to answer her calls. thanks for sharing and have a good time.
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