April 18, 2008 10:11pm CST
Childbirth is the most amazing experience I have ever felt. It is also the most painful. During my pregnancy I read all the materials I could find about pregnancy but always skipped the section on labour and labour pains. My mother didn't tell me how painful it would be but I heard a lot of stories already. I psyched myself up saying: "Millions of women have done this. I can do it too." "Millions of women were able to withstand the pain without any pain relief. I can do it too." But when the time came, I couldn't last for more than 2 hours before I was screaming for pain relief. It was the most excruciating pain ever that I was thinking this will be my first and last baby. Was it the same for you?
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20 Apr 08
I understand what you feel mimm, because as a mother of two i also experienced the pain of giving birth especially with my first child. Although it was a caesarian section my doctors keep on explaining to me that i should deliver my child through normal delivery, so i agree with them to deliver my child in normal delivery, in almost twenty four hours of pain i suffered my doctors and i decided that i will go through CS bcoz of pain and was very weak already as if i can't bear any longer the pain i 'm suffering that time.
• United States
19 Apr 08
Yes it was excrucicating pain and I did ge upset about not knowing just how bad it would be. All three times I called for meds after the pain got too severe and all three times the attendants told me if I took the meds I'd probably deliver before they had time to work anyway, so I knuckled under and got through all three of them. The first one they had to induce and ended up giving me a tranquilizer to calm me down a bit, but not really any paid relief. I'm just glad my labors lasted about six hours each.
19 Apr 08
My first birth wasn't really that bad. I too read all of the pregnancy books I could get my hands on. I knew that labor pains were going to be like really, really awful period cramps. Luckily (or unluckily, I guess), I have had a lot of experience with really, really awful period cramps. lol. I went in at 6:30am and they started the monitoring process. My water hadn't broken yet, but I was having contractions every 5 minutes, so they kept me instead of sending me home. I think I went four or five hours with the contractions and then they started the pitocin to speed things along. The nurses were great. As soon as it got to the point where I was like "oh holy God, this freakin' hurts!" which came out as "aaaaAAAAHHHHHHH!!!" they came in and asked me if I wanted an epidural. I think my response was "&!%* yes." lol. After the epidural I was happy as you please. The rest of the labor, I was pretty much just reading magazines and stuff. The baby was born at 11:30pm. I only had to push 3 times to get him out. God bless my child-bearing hips. lol. I would totally do it again, but I can't. Due to some awful period problems with cramps and bleeding and stuff, I had an endometrial ablation done last October. I got my tubes tied at the same time. So no more periods, no more cramps, no more babies. But I have a totally great kid, so I'm happy with it.
19 Apr 08
It hurt but I managed the first with no pain releif however her labour was only 2 hours and 45 minutes, my second even quicker not even an hour and half so I coped fine but I still had the really awful pain just I think because didnt have long labours I managed to deal with it better I think if id had 20 hours of it id have been screaming for pain releif too!! So bad as it is/was I still went on to have a second and will be having a third in a couple of years too hopefully!
19 Apr 08
haha i too thought the way you did when i delivered my second child just a month ago. my first time, i still had some ways to go but my son decided he wanted to see the world early thus, i didn't even think much. only when i was in the room then i started sweating though since it was night, wasn't that bad as i could sleep when there wasn't any pain. but i had painful contractions for nearly 4 hours though the after effects weren't painful at all. i could walk about properly the next day already. for my second child, the labor was really fast. in fact, i went to the hospital since i was starting to have slow contractions but when i reached there, i delivered within an hour maybe in half an hour. the nurses were really surprised as my hubby hadn't finished the admission processes and all. but after effects for this one was deadly for me. hehehe it was tough to walk for roughly 2 weeks. both were natural of course, the first one, i too nearly asked for pain killers though it wasn't necessary fortunately. but it's now over for me, pregnancy i mean since i have 2 kids now and i'm happy with it.
19 Apr 08
Hi mimm45! I completely agree with you that childbirth is the most amazing experience a woman could ever have. Just imagine bringing forth a lovely baby onto this world. Congratulations to you and all the mothers in the world. Unfortunately, I am not able to get pregnant although my husband and I did everything we can to have children. I do believe it is a blessing but I have already accepted my fate a long time ago. Take care and have a nice day!
19 Apr 08
Well, frankly, I didn't have a very long labour the first time. I had my son two hours after my labour started and it wasn't as bad as I had expected (maybe I'm an exception) and I had an easy normal delivery. It's not like I didn't have pain....but it was something I forgot soon after. And I assumed all my pregnancies were going to be this easy because it's all in the mind. But with my second, I had no labour pains at all...and had to go in for an emergency C-section on the day I was due....but the pain AFTER that was really bad! And I remember thinking if I had had to undergo this the first time, I'd never have gone in for a second child! But again, the pain's all forgotten (I guess that's how mothers are).
29 Apr 08
It was not at all the same for me. I found that having the hormonal gel put inside me to induce labour was far more painful than anything I felt during the labour and birth. I used a hypnosis CD, tens machine and later gas and air which I think was what did it. Especially the hypnosis, I would highly recommend it. Straight after I had my twins, I said I would happily go through that again as soon as my episiotomy cut had healed.
• United States
22 Apr 08
I had one child and one miscarriage. When my boy was born 34 years ago I had plenty of advice and telling me how horrible it was when you gave birth to the child. I was actually petrified to go in when it came time. Now let me tell you that yes there was hard pain but nothing that I couldn't handle. Also although I know I had some pretty bad pain I don't actually remember what it was like. When I looked on the face of my baby boy all else was forgot. Another thing is if God said that he would give me back the baby I miscarried I would say yes and not even think about it.