Does your Mother-In-Law question your Parenting?

"If I were to have said anything about it she would made some sort of snide comment about how picky I am" OH HELL NO! EFF THAT! I would have said something..who gives a crap if she likes it or not SHE'S NOT THE MOTHER YOU ARE!!! I have such a low tolerance for ppl who like to stick their nose where it doesnt belong...They are MY kids and I KNOW whats BEST for them..nobody else!! Just me..and as much as they are entitled to their opinion...thats as far as it bloody well goes with me..

My m-i-l is wonderful and has never tried to tell me how to raise my children which is her grandchildren. Since i now have grand children of my own i have to wonder how many times she had to bite her tongue!

your not wrong my dear being one other of the children we need all the time that they are safe & in good health, just try to talk with your hubby & let him understand what you feel for the kids & to her mom, it is not bad to share what you have inside so you can breath easly.

Hi hun, its your baby and its ultamatly your decision how she should be raised and what she is fed etc. You need to stand your ground now and make sure you tell her nicely but firmly to stick by your rules. In my opinion it is dangerous to feel a child that age pineapple all it takes is one chocking incident. my mother in law is very critial of my parenting but it winds me up as she is never critial to my face and tells her son all the things she thinks i do wrong and then he relays them to me, which i think is worse as if she had the gall to tell me to my face i could tell her to keep her nose out!

In my opinion, i believe, its not good to hear about advice, but it is not good if you will just have to listen to her its good to respond of her words,and talk about it, but i heard that there are some in laws that are always looking to the bad side but most of them are the in laws that doesnt like you, coz i have a friend of mine, her mother in law doesnt like her and her kids, eventhoug that kids are the son of her son..,anyway theres a lot of ways to avoid that confrontation, dont listen or talk to your mother in laws, i believe in the future she will realize the things that she made,,thats it...

No. I dont have mother-in-law at the moment. If you rsponsible then she may not question your parenting.

I'd have been a little concerned myself & probably would've said something - although i guess it depends on what sort of pineapple it was (pureed or not) but at 5 months, he/she should only just be eating solids & shouldn't be getting too many different things ~ as in, they recommend you try the 1 food for a few days before you switch to something else, so they get used to the different tastes & textures! I wouldn't have been giving a 5 month old anything too sweet like that anyway, they recommend you only go with veggies etc for the first however long or they'll tend to get a little fussy & only go for the sweet stuff later down the track. If she tries it again, SAY SOMETHING - if she gives you a snide remark - just remind her that this is YOUR child & you'd appreciate it if she helped by doing things the way you want them done. It might end up getting on her nerves but Grandparents have to back off a little sometimes & usually they wont unless you step up & say something. Remember, they've been there before & think they know better but i think the child's parents are the ones who know best :) Goos Luck!

You are not wrong in the least. she is wrong to give your child anything to eat without asking your permission first. I would just politely tell her that he/she isn't ready for that. If that doesn't work then you should ask your husband to have a talk with her. Good luck.

I would have said something. My mother in law offers advice but she is not pushy with it. She also knows that we may or may not take it. When the baby was about your child's age we were visiting their house. Somebody gave her a taste of pumpkin pie not thinking. We aren't sure what it was; we are guessing the cinnamon but something made her break out in a rash. We made it very clear after that that nobody was to give our daughter tastes of anything!

I can handle them giving me advice or a hand but to actually interfere well I would not put up with that and ask them to leave it came down to it. At the end of the day they have to respect that you are the parent and even though you may make some mistake, you are trying and you are the one responsible not them. I don't think that that is normal to be concerned, most caring parents are. They fear certain things and do have many boundaries for their kids which the child actually appreciates later on in life sometimes especially if they are being protected for their own health and safety.

that is why it came to be known as mother-in-law syndrome or MIL syndrome

Eeeek! Well I give you props for avoiding confrontations for the sake of your husband - but what about the sake of the health of your baby?! When a woman becomes a mother, it is no longer about her mother or her mil. Of COURSE you should have some say over what she does with your kids! you should have ALL the say over what anybody outside of you and your husband does with your kids! Especially when your child is an infant and cannot communicate or get away from a situation that might not be the best for them. I have major issues with this subject myself. My mil tried to feed my baby when she was 3 months old. She was gaggy and I did not want her to have solids until 6 months. I got extremely angry and explained again that she was not to touch my daughter or attempt to make any parenting decisions. When my daughter was crawling, my mil poured some coffee directly above her head! She could have burned her with it and when I said something, she didn't even seem to get it. She also seemed to think that we were 'wasting money' when we replaced her infant seat with a larger convertible seat when she was approx 14 months old. She had outgrown the infant seat but in order to be safe, a child needs a carseat for years! I cannot believe the woman actually thought this tiny little just-over-a-year baby could sit in a seatbelt in a car. Not to mention there are laws about child safety seats and I'd have sent CHP to her if she continued going on about it. She also used to challenge me as far as my older kids. When my husband and I would say yes about something, she would confuse them by getting angry with them, causing them to come back to me and ask why 'grandma said no'. If I said no about something, like treats too close to bedtime or staying up past bedtime, sometimes she would give them treats!! After awhile I basically told them that they needed to disregard her because she was not the parent, and they needed to respect our rules only. As far as my little one, she was just never near my mil alone. Because of my experiences, I do not think it's ever right for someone's parents or inlaws to try to give their two cents. They had an opportunity to raise kids! Now it's their kids' turn to raise kids and they should respectfully and decently bow out of being critical, snide, overbearing, nosy, and the like. I have received an incredible education from my mil on how NOT to act when my children have children, and an incredible education from my mom on how TO act. My mom is an angel. I think my mil has horns.

yes mine also does she repeatedly makes marks 2 me saying im irespnisible

well no your not picky you are just trying too raise your child on your own you are the parent now and not them what you say should go if they dont like it to bad you are the parent my mother in law use to always say well your nt doing this right or that right and i always use to tell her dont tell me i know how to raise my children eveyone has different rules on there childrn thats being a parent.also she should follow your rules because if you say your daughter cant do something or have something and then what is going to happen is your daughter is going to rebell against you. paulw33

If you have problems with what they are feeding her, you should say something. You are the baby's mom, not her. You control how the baby is raised. Be glad it was just pineapple. I had a friend who was vegetarian and told her in laws to not feed the baby meat and then she found out that they were giving the baby baby food with meat in it - on top of that, it was stage 2 food and the baby was still on stage 1.

No not at all... I would of said something actually.. I mean 5 month year old babies should be drinking formula not eating pineapples... What is she thinking? I am sure she's had kids sense it is your mother in law but I mean come on this lady needs to feed herself and no your baby such things... But no really my mother in law has never told me how to feed my son or anything like that.. Cause I am me and I do things my way rather if anyone likes it or not..

You are not wrong. You decide what she can and cannot do to or with your kids. You get to decide what they can and cannot eat. She may like it or not - but I think it is more important that you feel your kids are safe and are treated to your standards. I think it must be possible to tell her in a nice manner so she will not get pissed off. i really think your man should be the one to tell her how you as parents want things to be. Hope you figure out a way to handle this without any bad feelings

No you are not wrong to be picky, you are the mother and knows what is best for your child. Is your 5mth old even on solid foods yet? She really should have asked you first - My MIL always does and my kids are now 3 and 1 and she will still ask me if it is ok first. Maybe next time just nicely say something like please dont give that to him/her, or I would prefer it if you asked me first. Especially at such a young age when you have not given them a lot of different foods to try yet so you would also be making sure that they did not react to anything. Maybe if you are uncomfortable talking to your MIL speak to your husband and ask him to talk to her. Hope this helps a bit :)