What Age Is Suitable For A Child To Attend Pre-School ?

Malaysia
April 21, 2008 9:29am CST
I always encourage to start pre-school young at the age of about 2.5 or 3. But, my wife always think that it's not good to start them young as it will add unnecessary burden to the child. At which age is advisable to send a child to pre-school ? Should it be at about age 3 or older ?
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@lilybug (21145)
• United States
21 Apr 08
I think that it really should depend on the child's maturity level and not the age so much. But, as a general guideline, I think that a preschool with a very relaxed environment is fine for most 2 1/2 -3 year olds, but not all. I think that a more strict and school type preschool should be for ages 4 and up.
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• Malaysia
21 Apr 08
I feel that my daughter who is turning 3 this July is much ready for pre-school. It's more on play school and improving those motor skills of hers.
@lilybug (21145)
• United States
22 Apr 08
It sounds like it would be perfect for her then.
• United States
21 Apr 08
Three is a good age, but make sure that the pre-school you send them to is a good one. Some pre-schools abuse children.
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• Malaysia
22 Apr 08
I fully agree with you. I think a good and proper pre-school is important and also in terms of safety issues within the school should also be taken into consideration.
@kezabelle (2980)
21 Apr 08
Preschools are all about learning through play and fun activities, theres generally no set thing for them to do and most children can cope adequatley with this setting b the time they are three. Obviously once they start school which is from 4.5 upwards depending on where you live it becomes a bit more routined etc but pre-school is just to get them used to being with others and learning a few simple skills like how to interact with peers and elder people, learning colours shapes etc my daughter is 4 and started just after she turned three she was more than capable of coping and she adores her preschool setting. I really wouldnt class it as a burden its much too fun to be that nothing is expected of them at all but it does help teach them things like being part of a group and sitting down to a snack and drink in a social setting that sort of thing. Having cared for babies right up to the teaching in preschool ages I can assure you a proper quality setting with not burden nor expect anything of your child
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• Malaysia
22 Apr 08
Thanks for the wonderful sharing. I fully agree with you on this part where the pre-schools are more about learning through play and fun activities.
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
21 Apr 08
Good question. In my case, my kids started pre-school at 4 years old. And I would advise that they start at that age. Sending a child at the age of 3 is really a burden for the child..Children that age is more playful and tends to explore things on themselves. While if they start at the age of 4 they are easily taught of responsibilities. But I think it doesn't matter with regards to the age as long as the child can do it. And as long as the child is willing to go to school. Keep posting..Happy myLotting to you!!!
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• Malaysia
22 Apr 08
True too. But i guess it's more of like a play-school kind of thing where they go and meet friends and socialize and learn some basic things like singing, dancing, coloring and etc.
• United States
21 Apr 08
pre-school is exactly as the name states - any age before the child would normally start in a standard school. it could simply be a daycare center where they can learn basic skills, or simply a place with other children so he/she can learn social skills. just like starting school - there are age factors, as well as readiness factors involved - is the child an "only" with a stay-at-home parent? she'd probably benefit from a couple hours per day in some sort of play-group. is he not quite ready for kindergarten, though he is 5 years old? pre-school or head start is great! i do not think, though, that any sort of pre-school (as opposed to daycare) is appropriate until the child can make himself and his needs understood, and is mostly potty trained.
• Malaysia
21 Apr 08
I guess 2 -3 hours a day would help them socialize and improve on their motorsensory skills.
@Gemmygirl1 (2868)
• Australia
22 Apr 08
I think it depends on the situations etc ^_^ Kindergarten here in Australia is at 4, so anything before then is more for play, socialisation & general stuff. I don't think pre-school would be any more of a burden than going to day care, they still learn new things! I think it's up to the parent but it's a personal decision. I thinkif you cant agree, try the whole day care thing for a while first, before you think of anything else. Every child is different, some might not be ready for it, others might be well & truly ready - just go with the flow, 1 day a week of day care, see how he/she copes with it & then you can decide where to go from there!
22 Apr 08
i thing chidren should go to pre-school at 5 years .Tery are not mentaly evolved they can face many problem .So the right age is 5 i thing.This is the age of childen to play learn and learn to overcome all difficulties.They shoul be trian phycically not mantally at this age till 7.They should play and make friends,as this is their main aim of life at this stage so i give u a advise to encourage to start pre school at 5.
@foxygirle (377)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
it would depend on the child. does your child have other siblings at home? Does your child have opportunity to socialize with kids her age? Is she ready for a classroom set up? Usually kids can start pre school at 2.5 years old. I started mine when she was that age since she doesn't have much kids to play with at home and most of the day she was left by herself with caregivers watching local television at home. SHe was delayed speech at that time so we were advised to let her mingle with other kids at the same time she was taught the abc's, art, music, etc. Children at that age absorb info's quickly and children nowaday are fastrack to learning more things than before. I guess there is no harm enrolling your child at preschool at age 2.5 years old.
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@jfeets726 (775)
• United States
22 Apr 08
My daughter is four years old and will be going to preschool this year. Acutally, hopefully pre-k, but our school only has a limited number of slots open that they do a lottery style drawing for it. We could have sent her to preschool last year, as most preschools around her accept kids when they are four, but we decided against doing so. What we did instead was our own little homeschool preschool program.
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@reejane (293)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
My siblings started to attend pre-school at the age of 4 - 5. On my case, I started pre-school at the age of 5. The reason is that if the child starts schooling at an early age, he/she will have a tendency to be tired going to school since he/she started at an early age. My siblings asked me before that questions why it takes so long to finished studying. And all I can say to them is that's the way it is. Been there, done that and I survive. I'm not sure if any of your kids asks that question before.
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
being an excited mom, i first enrolled my child when he just turned three. i thought it would be nice for him to be around other kids and learn while he was at it. it went on smoothly for a few weeks until i noticed how he suddenly didn't want to go to school anymore. we spent weeks trying to convince him to go back to school but he just didn't want to so i just pulled him out of his toddlers' class. although the play part was fun, toddler classes must also be structured and must really include lessons, this posed to be a problem. having concepts to learn must have been stressful to my son. i waited a year after i took him back to school, and at 5, he already truly undestood the concept behind going to school and learning in school. i would say that there is not right age for a child to start attending school. it depends how badly the child wants to go to school. there are kids who would like to go to school earlier than the others, there are also those who seem more care-free and less focused on going to school. based on experience, however, i would say that 4 1/4 to 5 is an ideal age, basically since it worked for me.
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@zahndee (60)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
I think it should be older so as not to affect the interest of the child in going to school. Some children lost their interest when they started too early in pre-school.
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@makingpots (11916)
• United States
21 Apr 08
Hi, rickysltan. This is a very difficult decision and I admire you for asking for input about it. I think alot depends on the maturity of the child. I do believe that 2.5 is okay to start some children as long as the program is very developmentally appropriate. Programs for two's should be more focussed on socialization and language development and not so much on structured learning. I wish you the best of luck with this decision.
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@liquorice (3901)
21 Apr 08
I also think that it's fine for a child to be left at a pre-school at two and a half if they seem ready for it. My daughter's two years and three months and I'm a stay-at-home mum which I think has been good for her so far. However, whenever I've left her in a creche she's absolutely loved it and not been particularly pleased to see me when I got back as she was having so much fun! This has convinced me that she'll definitely be ready in a few months to be left for a couple of hours two or three times a week. Also as she's an only child I think she'll really benefit from spending this chunk of time with lots of other children her own age. If she wasn't such a sociable little girl I might feel a bit differently; I may think that it was too soon, but on the other hand I'm sure that pre-schools usually make children more sociable, get them used to playing with other children, and teach them important things like how to share toys. Good luck whatever you decide!
@luvstochat (6911)
• United States
21 Apr 08
The law in my state is that a child starts preschool at age 3. My daughter started when she was 3 she went 4 days a week from 8 to 11:30 and she loved it she went again when she turned 4 and will now be ready for kindergarten this fall.
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@carmelanirel (20976)
• United States
21 Apr 08
Yeah, I think your wife is correct.. Or even better, why send them to pre-school teach them the basics at home..I have four kids and 2 went to pre-school and the ones that didn't did better academically than the other 2..
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@dragon54u (31628)
• United States
21 Apr 08
I let my children go to pre-school when they were 4, 3 days a week for 3 hours. That worked well and they enjoyed it. I don't think that children should have the burden of formal learning before 5. Mine were in Montessori, they got to do what interested them and learned some structure and how to socialize. I think we try to make our children grow up too fast nowadays. Childhood before age 5 should be relaxed and an opportunity to explore their little worlds.
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@kgpc13 (1)
• Germany
13 Feb 10
There are a lot of arguments from both sides (adbocates of earlier or later admission). No one should doubt that parental care, especially in early years of young human is something that could not be overestimated. www.kindergarten-duesseldorf.de