getting 10 month old to sleep in his bed

@traengle (145)
United States
April 21, 2008 2:47pm CST
My son is 10 months old and I'm having a hard time getting him to sleep in him own bed, up until about 3 months ago he was doing great, sleeping through the night in his own bed and taking naps in his own bed but he had a very high fever one night and I put him in the bed with me because I wanted to keep a close eye on him and I guess I kinda got lazy and would just nurse him to sleep in my bed and that's where he stayed well now I can not get him to nap unless I'm holding him as soon as I lay him down he wakes up and at night as soon as I lay him in the crib he wakes up and cries but if I lay him in my bed he will sleep. I'm so ready for him to get back in his crib, my doctor recommended laying him down while he is awake and just letting him cry it out, well I knew it was gonna be hard but I tried it but he will not give in after an hour and 15 minutes I couldn't take it no more. I mean how long should I let him cry, it seems so mean, any suggestions please?
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9 responses
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
Maybe he needs to feel closer to you. When my siblings and I were babies, we sleep beside our parents. But we never became dependent or spoiled when we grew up. It just helped us develop a bond with our parents.
@traengle (145)
• United States
22 Apr 08
That's kinda what I thought . At what age did your parents move you and your siblings into your own beds?
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
I moved out of their room when I was 2. It sure needs sacrifice from the parents but since its your child, i think that 'll be bearable.
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
22 Apr 08
This is time consuming and difficult, but it worked for me with my 18 month old. She was doing good in her bed until she stayed the night at the grandparents house, the next night she wasnt having it. So, I kissed her good night and sat on the far side of the room, (I had a book with me for something else to do) Then everytime she cried or whined or screamed, I calmly said lay down, and scooted a little closer to the door when she realized the I was almost out of the door, she kind of just went with it and fell asleep. It only took me about 20 minutes, but it is an idea.
@traengle (145)
• United States
22 Apr 08
Thanks that's seems similar to the other responses I got so I will try it.
@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
22 Apr 08
Have you thought about using a normal bed? I know that he's quite young but perhaps a single bed with railing or something would do the trick? I guess it's hard to break a habit once you've allowed it to go on for so long. I've never had this problem but at about 18 months my little miss decided the cot was no longer for her & would scream in hysterics every time she was put in there - we ended up having to get her a big girl bed! OR perhaps you could try taking the mattress from his cot, put it on the floor & let him lay on there - you can stay close until he falls asleep but then you can do your own thing once he's dozed off? It might work & then you could slowly re-introduce him to the cot & not have a problem. Night lights are also very handy along with musical toys or anything like that ^_^ I hope that is of some help to you but you might just have to try a few different things before you can settle him back in to the 'old' routine, it should go back to normal after a little while! Just keep up with it! Good Luck!
@traengle (145)
• United States
22 Apr 08
Thanks, I'm going to try anything possible, I was thinking maybe if I put his bed in my room, next to mine maybe that will help
• United States
21 Apr 08
I have a 7 month old daughter. And sometimes jst in general she is so hard to get to sleep she kicks and fights with everything not to go to sleep . I know its hard and I still hate doing it ,but I turn on her windup doll, and lay her in her crib. I wouldnt let her cry anymore than 20 minutes. I have to step out of the house, and let her dad stay inside because I feel horrible. So if your partner can stay inside, it'd probally be best for you to step out. You arent a bad mom if you let your baby cry it out.
@traengle (145)
• United States
21 Apr 08
Thank you because you do really feel bad don't you, my husbands at work yet when I put the kids to bed so that probably won't work for me but thanks for the suggestion
@kezabelle (2984)
21 Apr 08
Some babies just dont respond well to being left to "cry it out" sounds like your son is one of them if he likes you being close, how about sitting by his cot no talking or touching just there and every night move further away until you are in the door way? I know some people stroke their childs face but thats still them relying on you to coax them to sleep so was never one I wanted to try. Getting babies to sleep has to be one of the hardest things in those first few years but it does get easier.
@traengle (145)
• United States
21 Apr 08
Thanks I'll try that too.
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Apr 08
I don't agree with letting him cry but I don't agree with going and bringing him into your bed either. After a while when he's been crying, go back in, comfort him, talk to him and tell him to go back to sleep, mommy's going to bed. In other words, don't abandon him but don't give in either. It's going to be torture the first couple of times, but eventually he's going to go back to sleep and get used to the idea of sleeping in his own bed.
@traengle (145)
• United States
21 Apr 08
I'll try that, I did keep his door open and poked my head in and try to go about my business in a usual manner so he knew I was close by but I guess it was torture and I gave in and I know I shouldn't, I gotta be consistant!
@emma412 (1156)
• United States
22 Apr 08
I had a similar problem with my daughter when she hit 4 months old. She would fall asleep when I rocked her to sleep but as soon as I layed her in her crib, she would wake up screaming and crying! This would go on all night and letting her cry it out did not work. What I did was let her cry for about twenty to thirty minutes then go in and tell her it was bed time. I would lay her back down, put her pacifier in her mouth and walk out of the room. I did this every night for five days. Every day it would take less and less time for her to fall asleep on her own. It was a very rough week and I felt so bad letting her cry but I had to for my own sanity. My husband is gone a lot and I needed the sleep at night! I am terrible at napping so wouldn't recharge as she does when napping during the day and instead would walk around like a zombie all day. I hope this helps and you get some sleep soon. Good luck!
@Sillychick (3279)
• United States
22 Apr 08
Let him cry it out, but go in every 10 minutes or so to let him know you are there so he doesn't feel abandoned. Talk to him and soothe him, but don't pick him up. It will be tough at first, but after a few nights, you should notice him going to sleep a lot sooner. Within a week or so he should go to sleep pretty easily. There are going to be times when he doesn't, but just stick to your routine and he will do much better.
• United States
21 Apr 08
I have a 3 year old that finds her way into my bed lately. We moved our bed to the basement and she thinks that she needs to sneak down every morning at around 2:00 am. We just get up and put her back into her bed with out making it fun for her and it has been slowly dieing down.