How do you make friends in real life?

United States
April 22, 2008 7:24am CST
I have several aquaintaces but no one to do stuff with.
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8 responses
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
I really do not have much problem with making friends. Most of the people I meet and become my acquaintances eventually become my friends. While making new friends can be a challenge, it's worthwhile, especially if your social network is too small for your liking. Look at your current friends and acquaintances and try to remember how you met each one of them. Then think about the activities that you have enjoyed in the past or would like to try in the future. Perhaps an activity you enjoyed in the past helped you meet one of your current friends. Even if your interests are solitary, you can still make them social. There are groups for people who like reading, photography and writing. Some other places to meet new people are community centers, sporting clubs, night school, volunteer work, religious activities, health clubs, political groups and parties held by current friends. Another way of meeting people is to look around at the faces that are already familiar to you. If there are people in your neighborhood, at work or elsewhere who are always pleasant to you and who smile when they see you and seem willing to talk, they may be open to developing a friendship. Once you have made a few acquaintances and feel confident, you may choose to take the next step and deepen the relationship. But best friends don't happen overnight so take things slowly. Good luck!
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• United States
22 Apr 08
Thank you for the advice. I do need to try.
• Philippines
3 May 08
I appreciate the BR...
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• United States
3 May 08
Your very welcome.
@gemini_rose (16264)
22 Apr 08
I am the same, I used to have a best friend that I did stuff with, but she moved and so I hardly see her at all. I have had bad experiences with other friends and so I just came to the conclusion that it was not worth it and that I was better off alone with no friends!!!
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• United States
22 Apr 08
It would still be nice to have someone not family to do something with. I guess I yearn for something more in life-although not sure what it is.
• United States
22 Apr 08
We do seem to have some things in common
@gemini_rose (16264)
22 Apr 08
You sound like you are going through what I am going through at the minute.
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@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
30 Apr 08
I have one or two great friends. Sometimes it is hard to make friends. I call friends, email then and many time they are always there for me. My closest friends helped me through cancer.
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• United States
1 May 08
Thats very nice you had someone there for you in your time of need.
@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
29 Apr 08
Well when you both have a common goal normally you will become friends to achieve the goal together yea . that is how you make friends yea .
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• United States
29 Apr 08
It is hard to find someone you have common interests with.
• China
2 May 08
I really love to make new friends in my life~I think if you treat them well,you will get repaid.
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• United States
2 May 08
You know what I noticed at work-I can relate more to young kids then I can people my own age. It could be because I have two teens. I find kids fun always hyper and happy. Like I would like to be. I envy the young kids. No I'm not a perv-LOL Most folks my age arent, I dont know, fun and exciting-life was sucked out of them. I on the other hand still feel life.
• United States
3 May 08
I don't know if I can help you there. I'm more quiet than shy. So, I'm pretty much in the same boat you're in. I only have two friends I remain close with.
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• United States
3 May 08
Thats nice you have a few friends. I wish I had just 1
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
22 Apr 08
Yes, I make friends real easy, I love people so it is easy for me to make friends, and I good Judgement when picking my friends, I have real friends that I have been friends with for at least Forty years. I am an Aqarious, so it is easy for me to meet people, I have a good repor with people. Well, I feel that I do.
• United States
22 Apr 08
I have a hard time talking to people. My life just isnt exciting at all. So its hard to talk about anything.
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
Hey there dangnabit67! I do consider myself as a very friendly person because I could actually make friends so easily. Mingling and socializing has never been difficult for me. Each time I enter a new organization, I carry myself with confidence. As much as possible I do give anyone in the crown my smile. For me it is a very good start to win an acquaintance that could possibly turn into a good friendship. Just be you and everything would follow.
• United States
22 Apr 08
Your lucky. Im more shy and quiet and smile alot. I think I'm boring.