my father hates my boyfriend! why?????
@questionsnoanswers (622)
Canada
April 22, 2008 4:29pm CST
ive been dating my bf for 3yrs now. i finally told my father about my bf about 1 year ago, just after my mom died.
ever since i told him about my bf, my father and i have become distance, he hates me and my bf. i used to be his favorite child.
my father will tell me things like hes the reason why you dont like my religion (jehovah witness)
note: i never liked his religion in the first place
or
hes the reason why you not deciding to go to universtiy.
note: am not spending money on school cause am only 20 i dont know what career i want yet.
or
hes the reason why you dont work for more then 6months
note: i have no need to work all the time hahah am living at home, i love traveling to europe to see my bf.
or
he will make comments like:
do you know how many african ppl have aids?
did you know that some africans still believe in having more then one wife!
i love my bf. its been 3yrs now that weve been dating. my father hasnt met him, cause my bf is in europe and me in canada.
i just dont understand why he hates him so much.
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@SweetVanillaKisses (173)
• Canada
22 Apr 08
Well in the last 3 yrs I have met alot of african men from africa and it's was always the same story. They were married to 2-3 women in their country but wanting to have a white woman here. I live in Alberta by the way. Just the other day I found out a friends sister is dating a black man from europe and she found out just what I thought and when she asked him he confirmed every bit of it. BUT most african men are to go to school til they are 25 or 26 then they go home and get married to anywhere between 2-5 women. That is probably what your dad is worried about.
Anyone that knows their culture is going to be worried if their daughters are dating one from africa. Now if they are canadian or american then I have noticed they do not have the same traits.
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@questionsnoanswers (622)
• Canada
22 Apr 08
it may be their culture, but everyone deserves a shot in my opinion.
@SweetVanillaKisses (173)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
Maybe in your opinion but when I see people around me being hurt by unfaithul jerks from africa I don't think they deserve anything. No I know it is NOT ONLY africans that are jerks but when you have a motel full of africans that are all doing the same thing it makes you think they are all doing it and all too often they are all doing it.They need to learn to work in their own country as well.
All I was saying is that I can see why your father doesn't like you BF. Another reason your dad may not like him is he may think that you are going to up and move to africa with the guy and then he won't have you around so he is distancing himself now thinking it will not hurt as bad when the guy takes you from your dad.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Apr 08
How can he hate somebody he's never met? Could be he doesn't like your choices so far or could be he's prejudiced or could just be that for him nobody will ever be good enough for you. Some parents are like that. And maybe when he does meet your boyfriend he will actually like him.
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@questionsnoanswers (622)
• Canada
22 Apr 08
i talk to my boyfriend about everything, our communication is very good. i feel bad, cause he recently starting telling me that hes feeln bad. that hes starting to feel nobody likes him in my family.
he told me today, if it wasnt for my good heart, and his love for me; he would of left by now cause he dont want to meet someone who hates them, before they even know them.
@KKKBsmom (1092)
• United States
23 Apr 08
Sounds like your father is just having a hard time with you growing up!!! or maybe he is afraid to see you get hurt.
He is trying to blame your bf for you growing up... He will come around when he sees things will be okay and he is not loosing you!
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