I thought of asking my husband for a divorce...

Yes, i thought about that... separation would be better than always fighting... or living a miserable life together... i think my country is one of the few who hasn't yet implemented divorce... but we have an annullment... which is more expensive and would take more time... thanks for the response...

I don't know if any kind of magic can make it work or save the marriage... we are at the stage of just living in one roof because of our daugther... but we always fight... i just do not know what to do anymore... thanks for the response...

I understand and I know its tough but, whatever will make you happy and at peace, do for it! Maybe both of you just need to sit down and talk about it. Might be hard but try it so at least, you can decide both what is best!

Thank you for that... i just do not know... we never agree on even the simpliest thing...

Sometimes, the distance helps....and you might get back to realizing what the other means to you. All the arguments would seem unimportant and you will be able to see it....and both of you might realize the importance of the other and be able to fall in love all over again. All the best....hope it works out for the best for you!

Well, my husband is now working abroad... and the distance between us is certainly helping... no fighting or arguements... and our main concern is the best interest of our daughter... i just hope when he comes back... everything will be okay... or at least we can be friends... thanks for the response...

Well, our family and friends think that all is well in our relationship... we are very good at showing a good face in front of others... and i never talk about the problems that we are having to anyone... and that is making it all the worst... I don't know if the marriage can still be saved... since the problem has been there for a long time... but he will be leaving to work abroad soon... and that might help make the separation a lot easier... thanks for the response...

I have not told my parents about it yet... and i think they will be very disappointed... but i think a separation is best for us... or we might end up killing each other... We like different things in life... and no one is willing to sacrifice... and if we continue living together... that might have a negative effect to my daughter...

Hello aseretdd, Mind you, I am a good pretender too. I always act in front of other people. Nope, I don't have a problem with my husband but I just don't like to show my sadness to others, not even my other siblings and mother. So, whenever I am sad or after arguing with my husband, I will just show my 'happy face' to others. I understand how it felt to live with someone that you don't feel any kind of attachment at all. Just to think about it can make me hate that person. I truly do not understand the root of your problem but I do hope something good will happen to you. Divorce is not a good thing but to avoid it just to make others happy, is not a good thing too. Did you ever tell your family about how you felt about your marriage? Maybe you should get as many advices as you can (not only from my Lot friends, dear!) and see what is the next good thing to do to solve it. Separation might be the best and easier way for you since he is leaving soon, but think twice, thrice and as many as you can before you make your final decision, dear!

I am human and i live somewhere in planet earth... but if you read the discussin carefully and if you read the other responses and my comments... you will find out that i ask him to leave... since i am the one paying for the apartment... but now that he is working abroad... that made all the difference... thanks for the response...

I already asked him to leave the apartment... but he refused... and since he will be leaving for abroad soon... i stopped pestering him about it... him going abroad will be good for the two of us... there is no chance of saving the marriage... but the distance will surely heal the wounds... thanks for the response...

much better if he will leave for a very long distance so that the wounds will heal. yeah i agree there is no need for you to save your message, showing him your best in a couple of years is enough. enjoy your life.

Marriage counseling is not that popular in my country... if there is... i do not know where... but we will surely do our best to take care of our daughter... since she is the only best thing that came out of our marriage... thanks for the response...

Yes, everybody deserves to be happy... even those who we think are cold and heartless... we have never tried counseling... since that sort of thing is not popular in my country... i don't even know any marriage counselors... thanks for the response...

Yes, it is quite difficult... good thing that he will be leaving to work in another country soon... and that will certainly make the separation a lot easier... i think we can still be friends... not a very good one though... thanks for the response...

Thanks for the offer... my country is still conservative when it comes to issues like divorce... the church still has a strong influence on the people and politics... so it will be a long time before this sort of thing will be implemented... so for now... women like me have to content ourselves with what we have right now... thanks for the response...