Do you give your child everything they ask for?

@trusko (198)
April 23, 2008 10:13am CST
These days a lot of parents complain about a pressure from media to buy their children expensive things and compete with other parents. I was raised in a way, that I never even dreamt of asking for expensive things. Either I got it or not. Do you think parents do give in easily?
5 responses
• Philippines
28 Apr 08
As long as I can give it to my children I do, because a parent would do anything for their children no matter what.....
@trusko (198)
28 Apr 08
And if you can't? What do you say to your children. Do they understand? Thank you ;-)
• Philippines
28 Apr 08
Well In my case, my children understands me when I say no, Because I always reminds them that they cannot really get all what they want..
@trusko (198)
28 Apr 08
That is good. Thanks ;-)
@magrylouyu (1629)
• United States
26 Apr 08
I do not give everything they ask for. If I did they would be some spoiled little brats. When I grew up I hardly ever got what I asked for. When Christmas rolled around that's when I would usually get all the stuff I really wanted. My children occasionally get what ask for. For example when we go grocrey shopping if they are good they get "yum yums" also known as M&M's. Other than that when they want toys or other things it waits until Christmas or their Birthday.
@trusko (198)
26 Apr 08
Thanks for your response. ;-)
@Ravenladyj (22922)
• United States
23 Apr 08
Unfortunately I think some parents use gifts and gadgets as a substitute for not spending time wiht their kids..Lets face it many families are two career OR the parents/caregivers are too busy or in some cases just flatout dont want to spend time wiht their kids (that makes me ill).... When it comes to my kids though, if they want something they have to save their allowance to get it...if its something they NEED thats different of coure and for birthdays and Xmas they get spoiled but otherwise they are on their own for the most part..Though on occasion we'll treat them to a gift or whatever but its rare and never something outlandish..
@trusko (198)
23 Apr 08
Hi Ravenladyj, that is how I feel about it. I have 12 years younger brother. When he was younger, he used to work for his dad at farm and earn money and he would save up for things he wanted. Of course he would also get things for b'days, xmas etc. I think it teaches the kids values and they will appreciate it later in their lives ;-)
@MH4444 (2161)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I think they often do. I have a friend that was raised having everything she wanted, but her parents were always gone. She was incredibly lonely and seemed to "adopt" my family in lieu of hers not being present. That's not the way to give that is certain.
@kezabelle (2980)
23 Apr 08
Nope they dont get everything they ask for, sometimes my eldest even has to save up any pennies she gets to buy this longed for item she is only 4 but she does need to learn that nothing is ever free and we only get things if we work for them. I couldnt care less what others are buying for their kids if I cant afford it thats the end of it they wont have it and my girls know that they are only little so obviously ask for things but normally if I say no they let it go because they know im sayig no for a reason.