Having a baby with other partner...

What a situation...ok, I'll try to answer your questions the best way I could. Being honest is what makes a relationship strong. If this happens to me, I'll be honest to my spouse. I'll tell him if he loves me, he will accept my past. Past is past and no one can change that. I will admit my mistakes, and tell him I'll never do it again.

Before entering into another relationship,i make sure he knows everything about my past.It is always better to start a relationship with full honesty and respect. In your next question,i guess this is too much,after he/she accepted you and your past,here you go again with another mistake.I guess this is all craziness,why confined yourself in a relationship when you know you can never be faithful.??? (im sorry to say this,but,this is really ridiculous,and i wonder why there are people who can never been contented with one partner)

Ok, I'll also take a stab at answering your question as best as I can. I know that it would be really hard to tell your spouse, whom you live with, that you're having someone else's baby. If you and your spouse are separated, or something like that, it's a teensy bit different. But, I do not believe in deceiving people. So, the spouse would have to be told, somehow, some way, as soon as possible. I definitely don't believe in raising a child with someone and lying to everyone involved about who the real baby daddy is. There are many people that do this and I don't agree with it. The fact is, as a woman, I find that a lot of men can be very understanding about situations like this. They hurt, they feel pain, but they will try to work through it with the woman.

In some case it may be necessary to share the events of the past with your spouse specially if it is affecting your marriage adversely and your future together. Bear in mind that circumstances may occur in the future in which your spouse finds out from other sources. He or she may feel betrayed finding things out by accident rather than from you. He who finds equity must come with clean hands.It takes a great deal of courage and trust to share the past with your spouse.Timing is the most importance specially when speaking to the man. It must come from the heart. As to question number two, I think it is too much. Do not repeat the mistakes of the past.

hi neildc!!! For me it doesn't matter that she/he has a passed having a child to other woman because the important is you love him and you love each other that's all that matters You accept him for all your hearts ...hmmmmmnnn!!!

oh no, that is a tough question to answer, it really makes my head aching, lol.. maybe if that will happen to me, i don't really know what to do, maybe i will break or something, it's so hard.. but why it's too late for him to tell me that thing, now that we are already married.. that will be my big question to him, he is so dam bad..!! making me believe that i'm the only one but then there's this horrible news..!!

before i will marry someone else, i would want them to know important things in my past, like if i had a child from another lover and had the child at somebody else's care if the child is not with me. i would want him to know the truth before we get married, so there will be no more complications and no blaming in the future. if ever (i know this one will never ever happen to me) i had a secret affair with someone else and got pregnant, that would be really a hard thing to know who the father is, if by someone else or by my spouse. i think i will not admit it yet till i give birth to the child and have a dna or something just to make sure. what if the father really is my spouse and i have said its of someone else? so i will wait till the baby is born, and then face whatever will happen after that, since i was so stupid to get myself involve in such a situation.