Can you really forget someone you really loved for the first time in your life?

Bangladesh
April 23, 2008 10:48pm CST
We have been in love many times. But it is undoubtedly truth that no love can be like the First love. We might become older may be have a family, busy with our jobs. But Out of these can we really forget it? Can we still be out of the pain? Once I believed, It is gone from my head when i'm in love with spouse(Before marriage) but after a year of marriage, that de ja Vu come back again. I become more emotional that time. But to someone it just like easy forget. I donno what is in their mind. Another Story, One of my cousin sister got divorced two years ago and now have a good husband and a new baby. But still her mind is filled about her first husband. Believe me, That person got married twice when my cousin was her wife. he tortured her everyday, even phyisical. But She was kinda addict to her husband and still she was planning "How she can be with him for the rest of her life". But They wanted to get rid of her and she sign it as her husband's pleasure. new family members are so good.. that can help to forget her, but still she try to meet / talk with the previous one. - I know it's a exception. We are not that much but some.... What do you think, please share. (please speak from your mind) Thank you.
2 people like this
19 responses
@Pescoe (101)
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
I think if you're really happy with your current life / relationship, then it is possible for you to forget your first love...but if you continue to wallow from the agony and heart aches from that realtionship then it will take you longer or might not even forget your first love...
2 people like this
• Bangladesh
24 Apr 08
I agree on this. Thank you.
• China
24 Apr 08
it's unforgetbale for myself.the first love fills of fantacy and dream, it is your first shaking in your heart after born,you will be blushed and shyed when you see your Mr.right, your heart is beating intensely; you will miss him/her when you can not see him/her, sometimes you can dream of him/her, so, just enjoy this feeling, for maybe it is the only true love you'v met in your life, just treasure it. my first love is in my collage life, he was my classmate, a typical man from south of China, i even don't know why i loved him, but i know i love him, we didn't get together. after that ,i had a boyfriend, but i can not forget him, every time, he turned up in front of me, my heart still beating strongly. then, i know, the first love is unforgetbale,always alive in mind.
2 people like this
• Bangladesh
24 Apr 08
Really, It feels like that! Thanks for your reply
1 person likes this
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
Definitely, I can never forget someone that I love for the first time. First experiences are unforgettable. So, in terms of love that person becomes part of my life.
2 people like this
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
Well Yes I do believe that first love never die. Even thou we have found someone that really cares for us. We still can't forget the first one....
2 people like this
• Malaysia
25 Apr 08
I fell in love with a girl and after we broke up I still love her. Her family still keep in touch with me and since I still care for her and the family it is a bit hard to face the truth that you are no longer apart of her life. Still hoping that there is a small chance that she will be in love with me but I never put up a high hope on it.
1 person likes this
@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
25 Apr 08
I can not. I don't have this ability, although i tried many times. Later i've got another one, but i can still see the former every day, cause we are in the same place studying. Finally i broke up with the latter, but i didn't go back to the former. I'm not sure he'll accept me or not, i'm afraid of losing him as a friend. And now i'm single, i don't have company now, i just don't want to hurt another one.
• China
25 Apr 08
Yes,we can not forget the first lover
1 person likes this
• United States
24 Apr 08
I still think about my first love from time to time, but most of the time I forget about him and I'm busy with my life, but happy also
1 person likes this
@subha12 (18449)
• India
24 Apr 08
i think first lobve is always special. its actually the case that its hard to firget some whom you loved very much once. that person was part of the moments of life.the relationship can be broken in any reason, but the love is there at corner of heart
1 person likes this
• India
24 Apr 08
No, I can't forget
1 person likes this
• United States
24 Apr 08
I still remember my first love. There are times I wonder what happened to him. We parted on good terms. We had a very good relationship but didn't feel it was the forever kind of love. It was real love though. I wish him all the best and hope that he found what I have a very good person who I have been with for 35 years.
1 person likes this
@wasim989 (2301)
• India
24 Apr 08
Yes I can forget my first love infact I did because my first love was not loyal to me so why I should waste my time thinking about her again and again.
• Bangladesh
24 Apr 08
Really? How do you feel Now? Thanks
@wasim989 (2301)
• India
24 Apr 08
Normal......
@paulw33 (297)
• United States
25 Apr 08
well my thing is i became a fathr at 17 years old and me and her stayed together for 11 years then split up do i still love her no way the only reason i have something to do with heris because of our children some people say that everyone still feels love for the person htey hd kids with wll not here i regret my realationship with her but i do not regret my children i do not feel no love for her at all and thats the bottom line the only reason we still talk is because of the children and thats it we hate each other
• United States
24 Apr 08
that is a question that i wonder about often, I truely fell in love for the first time in my adult life two years ago, im telling you it was like a fairy tale..we saw each other at a bank mac machine, he followed my all the way home and when we both got out of the car and our eyes met it was such an intense attraction that it shook both of us, well to make a the story short, after the day we were never apart again other than work, he gave me the keys to his house and car..needless to say we are not on speaking terms and longer and even thouhg I know that I could never be with him again I dont know if I will ever truely be over him
@reene0225 (352)
• United States
24 Apr 08
Well I still remember my first love, but it doesn't hurt anymore and I don't feel anything for him anymore. The same with my 2nd love. We split up after 2 years last year and now I can honestly say that I don't love him anymore and that I don't want to be with him anymore. He put me through a lot of crap. Now I've got my new boyfriend. We've been together for 4 months and I am very happy. He treats me so good. I wouldn't want to go back to what I was in before him. I still think about one of my ex's but he's a really good friend of mine that is in the ARMY and has been over to Iraq twice. I always wonder if he's still ok. That's terrible that the girl still wants to see and talk to her ex. I understand that it's hard to let go and it's harder if they're around in the same town, but she'll have to, to be happy.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
24 Apr 08
First love is some thing which is difficult to forget, since the budding feelings and emotions will remain for a long time. Coming to your cousin sisters case it happens its difficult to forget some one with whom they share their feelings. Since ladies are sensitive and when they love some one its hard for them to forget that person. I dont meant to say gents forget their first love so easily, but ladies will cherish it more than gents. Coming to me , i had to get over my first love since it was such a sour and bad relationship. A relationship should never be hurting, but to me it has been some thing which i want to chalk off. I have already erased most of the memories related to my first love and even at times i feel bad about it. I wish i could have had that relationship successful, but things dint go the way i anticpated and finally i was cheated to the core. It was difficult for me to forget her but still life is such we have to get along.
@selby70 (283)
24 Apr 08
I have never forgotten mine and that is 35 years ago, I think of him often.
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
I don't think that you could easily forget your first love. I once told my friend that I'm willing to give away 10 years of my life to move on from my first love. Now here's the logic behind this impossible deal. Its like a test if you really fell in love for the first time. If you easily recovered from the loss, well, I can say its not true love. But waiting for 10 years to make it go away? That will soon become a cliche. You'll never know that 10 years already passed by and next thing you know its still that person you're in love with. I think its a safe way because in the future when you meet again, and no sparks were present, you can totally move on with your new life. But I tell you my friend, sometimes moving on from these kind of situations doesn't really make someone move on from the past, it only makes them numb. :D
• China
24 Apr 08
yes, I think the first love is the most difficult to forget. I have my first love in my college. After that, there is a lot of things happened, I thought I have forgot him. But one day, after I came back from a conference and knew from one of my classmates that he had been there that day. unfortunately, We didn't meet him, we have not seen each other for nearly two years. At that time, I feel very sad. From that time I knew that I haven't forget him.