What's your take on extramarital affairs?

There is saying in Punjabi, that one who knows many can't love one person whole heartedly. In this way one with more than one relations can't love a person whole heartedly, it may be a man or woman. So, extramarital affairs totally ruin the married life. I think This is a big crime. And such criminals are a burden on society itself.

i think thats its cheating. when you are married, you must be committed to that person only. its also cheating with both.i think if alos you like some, do not make it so evident.people still go fir it and amany families are ruioned.

my own oppinion here.. humans, for the most part, are not monogomous creatures.. yet they try to force themselves into such for societal standards. people in general have a vast capacity to love, and this natural trait is stiffled by the bonds of marriage and relationships. people get jealous, wish to possess.. "hes/shes MINE!!!" and you just simply cannot possess anothers heart and soul. it isnt property. so the situations arise, where one of the couple starts to feel affection for another, and they are faced with either choosing between the person they are with already, and this new person that they care for.. here is where it gets sticky, and people make bad choices. most, will deny their affections for the new person, thus making themselves miserable. some, will leave the one theyre with because the "new" seems more intense (new always feels stronger), others, will attempt tokeep the one theyre with, and be with the other as well, and wind up hurting the one theyre with by lying and sneaking around. a small percentage, will bring their feelings and thoughts to the one theyre with in open honesty and communication. i personally, dont feel that we should have to choose between people we care for, and should be able to feel what we feel freely without chains and cages. thankfully, my husband feels the same way.

Cheaters are selfish, pure and simple. I think that relationships are showing the symptom of the dissatisfaction that people are feeling as individuals. We are being programmed to think that life should be easy, we should be happy, and that new is better. Is it any wonder that this translates into bolting at the first sign of needing to work on a relationship? That the first niggling of being bored sends people outward looking for the solution to this uncomfortably unfamilar sensation? They don't end one relationship before moving on because they are afraid to operate without a saftey cushion of a new love to save them from being alone. They say the love and worship you because they do when you are making them feel the way they wish to. When you can't sustain that new love feeling inside them FOREVER, they start looking for a new supply. Never realizing that this new feeling will never last for long. Or that long lived love is far more rewarding. Being cheated on doesn't make you look stupid. It makes you look human and trusting. It makes the cheater look like a creep.