Maid of Honor or Best Man...

I would definitely be very insulted and insist that they refund me or in other ways compensate me for the money that I have spent for their special day. I would try to keep it until after their special day. After I received the money I would definitely consider not speaking with them, as I would definitely consider their friendship to not be as valuable as I once thought. If this has happened to you I would suggest speaking to the bride and groom as soon as you see fit and discussing what happened and why, as well as demanding a compensation of your money for purchasing the items. I would not give the bride or groom the wedding present I had for them, nor any housewarming gift if that was to have been held in the future.

I would be ticked off and I would ask my friend to pay for my clothes purchase as I made that espesically for his wedding.I would not want to attend his wedding atall or any longer be friends with him.

Oh how shocking. Of course I'd ask the reason why. They don't really need to explain but I can tell them that I already have a gown or something. I know deep down, I would feel bad because I was first chosen then changed. Of course if they would talk to me nicely,and still invite me, I'd still attend their wedding and wish them both well for their future.

I totally know how you feel. Not long ago I was in the same situation and felt really bad about it. My best friend pretty much a sister to me asked me and asked me time again to be her maid of honor. I of course agreed. She sent me the things she would like me to do. Hand making invitations, drawing of the picture on it as well as the lettering. This all takes time. I spent along time on this and shelled out over $1000 of my own money out on these along with the stuff I needed to do it and the postage as well. Not long after I sent the few that were leftover I sent them to her and a week later I got an invitation in the mail. I was thinking I'm in the wedding party why am I getting an invitation? I looked at the website and found out that I was not included in the wedding party. I was very upset. I have 2 weddings that weekend one being my sister in laws and hers. I opted out going to the sister in laws as it was in a different province and there was no way that I could attend both. Needless to say I am going to the sister in laws and not going to the friends. As for the best friend. Not best friends anymore and we sort of speak here and there and thats it. But I have been demanding the payback for the costs I put out.

hello sharon, As much i do not want to spoil their happiness, i will keep to myself, my grudge bout it after all the preparations i've done... i will just to do my vey best to accept it hiding them what i feel bout it. weighing importance, digerati